Has everyone had fantasies of threesomes and group sex?

clecouple · 10-02-2003, 08:32 AM

This kind of goes along with my other post WIFE IS WET after MMF TALK, and maybe I should have made this a poll question. But, I believe (especially with this website), that everybody (man, women, husband, wife) has thought about having multiple partners at the same time?!

Like, I said when my wife agreed to go to a club to fulfill this fantasy she was so wet! Plus, it seemed like a "load of bricks was taken off her shoulders"

Because, after that she was more relaxed and horny at the same time! I think a lot of couples have this fantasy, but the husband or wife is afraid to offend their partner. I said to my wife that "their was nothing to be embarrassed about it, because I knew you had the 3some fantasy and you finally told me."

My wife is researching clubs and this website and has left a post. So, after talking and agreeing to this fantasy, we have become more open if that was possible. Because, we are a very open couple in discussing sexual things anyways

, but we don't always act upon them.

Lately, when making love we have been acting out what could possibly happen at a club. I have said things to her like, "Want to lick my wife's p*ssy!", or "You want to suck 2 c*cks!" Then, I will get out a dildo and put it in her as she is licking me, just to
pretend. We actually want to do soft swinging 3 or 4some with another couple. I think by "role playing" we will be more prepared to actually go through it?!

Any Oponions?

**TNT** · 10-02-2003, 08:53 AM

Sharing sexual fantasies is one of the first steps for entering swinging.

It sounds as if you are definitely on the right road. Always remember to keep it slow, never push, and most importantly ENJOY the new found closeness you have with each other as well as every step you take together making your fantasies into reality.

Teresa

Elusive BiFem · 10-02-2003, 09:10 AM

Uhhhh....I would have to disagree with you, clecouple, that "everybody (man, women, husband, wife) has thought about having multiple partners at the same time?!"

I had never thought of it a single time - ever - until my first "accidental" experience well into adulthood...what? around 32-33 or so? And even then, it was a single experience with friends, and for many, many years afterwards, I thought I/we were weird or something. I literally had no idea that swinging "existed," that there was a name for it...anything. Zero, zip, zilch. It was many, many years later that that I came to know that it was an activity shared by a certain segment of the population. Maybe I was exceptionally naive or something. Sometimes I am. (or dense?)

Now that isn't to say that I'm sorry I "discovered" it!

- EBF

Edit: I also wanted to say it wasn't until about 3 years ago that I found out about clubs...about the same time I found out about the existence of the lifestyle. Again, zero, zip, zilch...no idea such places existed. In fact, I had heard of a couple of the clubs around here and still didn't know they were lifestyle clubs. Had anyone invited me to go, I would have innocently said, "yeah, sure"....thinking they were like any other nightclub. Now! Would I have been surprised!!!

One more Edit: I've come a long way, Baby!!!

clecouple · 10-02-2003, 09:41 AM

It's okay to disagree. My thoughts on this subject of group fantasies is that the majority of people have thought about it. I liken it to the question (especially when you're aksed in high-school), if you masturbate. I remember many guys around school saying that, "I don't play with myself, I've got a girlfiend." It's the same way for the girls/women in our society. IF so many people admitted they were not MASTURBATING, how come all the surveys we see say that 90+% of men, and 70+% women masturbate. I think it's privacy of a survey that lets people respond yes, rather than talking to a friend or a co-workrt about the subject.

I just want to see how many people respond yes to this post. Thanks for your opinion!

But, I now see you are into the lifestyle kind of by accident?! But not regretting it! Right?

fun_pairTX · 10-02-2003, 10:19 AM

We have done the MFM and FMF thing with happy results. We also do the moresome 8+ thing once a month or so (all the same group all the time). Moresomes have been very good to us, we have a great time.

ready2pla · 10-02-2003, 10:24 AM

My wife and I were married at 17 and 18 and about a year after we got married we started talking during sex you know a little dirty talk. And that is kind of when we found we were really turned on by the thought of watching each other with another person. since that time I have always had a fantasy of having a threesome. both mfm and ffm but as we got to playing in the lifestyle our main interest goes to the mfm. There is nothing more sexually intence as a woman getting it from all ends. I see so much pleasure in her face and body that I couldn't imagine not allowing her to experience it anymore. My wife is straight and the ffm thing is a wonderful fantasy for me but I want to see two women totally enjoying each other as I get to fuck one then the other. but alass she is straight so we are really into the mmf threesomes which is fine with me. I get my pleasure making her very happy. I think if you are a swinger and you haven't tried giving your wife a mmf thresome or even a ffm threesome you are missing out. Maybe you need to bring it up she may be affraid to offend you. At least you will be giving her a chance to experience all you can while you can.

DragonsLair · 10-02-2003, 10:46 AM

My husband and I have had the fantasy of MFM and FFM. We haven't acted on them, mainly because I'm not ready yet. But the ideas definitely turn us on. And sometime in the future, we'll make them come true.

Keep up the conversation and discussions. That's the best benefit from this lifestyle.

Let us know when you make your fantasies come true.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

OhioCouple · 10-02-2003, 10:53 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by clecouple
But, I believe (especially with this website), that everybody (man, women, husband, wife) has thought about having multiple partners at the same time?

Color me in with multiple crayons for not even giving it the first thought until I was nearing 40 years of age. I'm thinking I was 38 or so??? I had no clue about swingers, clubs or sites like this. And I thought I was pretty worldly.

Now I had seen porn and stuff before, but to me that was nasty, disgusting behavior with all those piles of people in a mess on the floor. Porn however is a whole lot different than the real thing! Woo Hoo! But I'll bet ya that if the general population knew what we do for fun, they would probably find us nasty and disgusting. Oh well, they don't know what they are missing!

Buck · 10-02-2003, 11:31 AM

Well, Cleo, I don't know if everyone has had fantasies of having multiple partners but I'll bet a majority have. I think most men I know will admit that having two females at one time is a major fantasy, especially if they have not experienced it. As for me, being somewhat older and married for over twenty years, all my fantasies involve my wife, usually in a MFM situation. Why, I don't know, but from this board I have found that it is certainly not an unsual fantasy. I must say that a FFM fantasy with my wife is certainly OK with me, but she maintains the thought is NOT a turn on to her. She has slowly began admitting that a MMF fantasy is somewhat exciting to her, but she says it is because she knows it turns me on so much. I stongly suspect with the right person, in the right situation, she may be in favor of it but that scenerio may never happen. As for now, I'll just be content with the fantasy of it and not push her. If it happens, it happens. If not, so be it.

ready2pla · 10-02-2003, 11:37 AM

I think you are so right Ohio Couple I work with guy's that are alway's looking and making comments about how they would love to fuck this gal or that one walking down the street. And they think that would be fine but if you ask them if they would let there wifes fuck some other guy at the same time they would mostly say no way. So whats good for them is not good for there wifes. So when I here them carry on I just sit back and smile thinking of the great marriage and wild times we have together. And without worry that she or he will be out cheating on each other. I think this message board and the people that make it are fantastic.

Sibella · 10-02-2003, 04:31 PM

I am turning 40 in 2 weeks; been married nearly 18 years and have just started experiencing anything like this! The first encounter, MFM, was by accident, I think. My husband and one of his best friends. It blew my mind, I never thought I could do anything like that. We all blamed it on the alchohol. That was 6 months ago. I had really tried to put it out of my mind, but it was great! Then, the other day, my husband and his friend showed up unexpectantly and wanted another encounter. I went along with it, and enjoyed it a lot. My husband really liked watching me with another guy.
Part of me is torn, however, because he is a friend. I consider him my friend also, and I have reassured my husband that I have no deeper feelings for this man other than friendship. Sp how am I getting naked with him? This is so opposite of the way I was raised!
Just thought I'd jump in here and see if anyone has any words of wisdom. Thanks!

hmr · 10-03-2003, 01:32 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by OhioCouple
Color me in with multiple crayons for not even giving it the first thought until I was nearing 40 years of age. I'm thinking I was 38 or so??? I had no clue about swingers, clubs or sites like this. And I thought I was pretty worldly.

I've got to agree!

When I hit 40 it was like someone flipped a switch. I became an entirely different person.facelick My middle name should have been 'Naive'. I knew nothing about swingers, or clubs, or sites like this either. Mr hmr told me about them after I told him of a dream I had, (What was you introduction...). I wasn't completely innocent, but I led a very protected life! Can ya'll relate to Daddy's little girl? The one who would never do anything she was't suppose to do? That was me. Never defied my parents, never had to. Until I moved in with mr hmr. He corrupted me!

And boy am I glad he did!

I also have to admit that was my first fantasy, and swinging experience. From what I have observed on Swing Lifestyle there are numerous 3-somes and more-somes fantasies! We also enjoy the more-somes about once a month with our regular group. It is a wonderfully,erotic experience!facelick

mrs hmr

Sibella · 10-03-2003, 10:38 AM

Yeah, what is up with turning 40? I like your term, flipping a switch. That is exactly how I feel! I too was the perfect daughter, honor student, ect.
I have to say, I was so uninformed. I never even realized I wasn't having "fireworks" orgasms until 3 years ago! I never knew there were different kinds! The ones I had before were okay, but I kept thinking, "what is everyone so hyped up about?". I could take it or leave it. Until one day I got the nerve up to masterbate. Oh my God! I thought I was having a seizure! It scared me to death! But then I finally understood what it was all about. And how exactly do you go about telling your husband of 15 years that you'd never had a clitoral orgasm before??? Basically, I didn't. I just starting masterbating during sex, mostly with toys. He loved that! The more open we became with each other sexually, the more we began to talk. We discussed threesomes, but always just in theory. The two encounters we have had so far have not really been planned, at least by me. I kinda like not knowing when or where it will happen. Of course, I trust my husband, and he alone decides when these encounters will happen. I believe that keeps him in control and he has no fear or jealousy that way. He knows it is he who is bringing it about. But I have to say, I have to bite my toungue sometimes, because I'd like it more often.

hmr · 10-03-2003, 01:25 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Sibella
. Oh my God! I thought I was having a seizure! It scared me to death!

Sibella, you think it scared you....I'm an epileptic!

... until I met my husband I had only had one orgasm. I didn't know what was going on. Talk about uninformed, I asked my older sister if what I was feeling was normal!

I didn't know...When I met my husband, I was 26years old, I had never seen a porn movie, or a vibrator. When he brought the vibrator out the first time, I asked him what it was and what he was going to do with it!

After 3 children, I could have cared less about sex. I was working and taking care of 3babies. Who felt like screwing. Then all of a sudden, BAMM!! I was taken over by aliens! Thank God!

My orgasms have become inccredible, my sex drive insatiable (almost), I speak more freely and openly, I did a complete turnabout of who I was.

mrs hmr

Sibella · 10-03-2003, 02:19 PM

Mrs Hmr,
So glad to hear I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Not sure how it will come about, but I think I need to teach my daughter this stuff! I missed out on so many years of great orgasms! (I think I'm making up for all that now!) But I have to say, this journey of discovery of my own body has greatly increased the trust and intimacy between my husband and I. He has seen me "blossom", and it really turns him on.
Thanks for posting! I am LOVING this site!
Sibella

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10-02-2003, 08:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
clecouple Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 48 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Couple	Has everyone had fantasies of threesomes and group sex? This kind of goes along with my other post WIFE IS WET after MMF TALK, and maybe I should have made this a poll question. But, I believe (especially with this website), that everybody (man, women, husband, wife) has thought about having multiple partners at the same time?! Like, I said when my wife agreed to go to a club to fulfill this fantasy she was so wet! Plus, it seemed like a "load of bricks was taken off her shoulders" Because, after that she was more relaxed and horny at the same time! I think a lot of couples have this fantasy, but the husband or wife is afraid to offend their partner. I said to my wife that "their was nothing to be embarrassed about it, because I knew you had the 3some fantasy and you finally told me." My wife is researching clubs and this website and has left a post. So, after talking and agreeing to this fantasy, we have become more open if that was possible. Because, we are a very open couple in discussing sexual things anyways , but we don't always act upon them. Lately, when making love we have been acting out what could possibly happen at a club. I have said things to her like, *"Want to lick my wife's pssy!", or "You want to suck 2 ccks!"* Then, I will get out a dildo and put it in her as she is licking me, just to pretend. We actually want to do soft swinging 3 or 4some with another couple. I think by "role playing" we will be more prepared to actually go through it?! Any Oponions?

10-02-2003, 08:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Sharing sexual fantasies is one of the first steps for entering swinging. It sounds as if you are definitely on the right road. Always remember to keep it slow, never push, and most importantly ENJOY the new found closeness you have with each other as well as every step you take together making your fantasies into reality. Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

10-02-2003, 09:10 AM	#3 (permalink)
Elusive BiFem Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 3,398 Location: Texas Status: Single Female	Uhhhh....I would have to disagree with you, clecouple, that "everybody (man, women, husband, wife) has thought about having multiple partners at the same time?!" I had never thought of it a single time - ever - until my first "accidental" experience well into adulthood...what? around 32-33 or so? And even then, it was a single experience with friends, and for many, many years afterwards, I thought I/we were weird or something. I literally had no idea that swinging "existed," that there was a name for it...anything. Zero, zip, zilch. It was many, many years later that that I came to know that it was an activity shared by a certain segment of the population. Maybe I was exceptionally naive or something. Sometimes I am. (or dense?) Now that isn't to say that I'm sorry I "discovered" it! - EBF Edit: I also wanted to say it wasn't until about 3 years ago that I found out about clubs...about the same time I found out about the existence of the lifestyle. Again, zero, zip, zilch...no idea such places existed. In fact, I had heard of a couple of the clubs around here and still didn't know they were lifestyle clubs. Had anyone invited me to go, I would have innocently said, "yeah, sure"....thinking they were like any other nightclub. Now! Would I have been surprised!!! One more Edit: I've come a long way, Baby!!!
	Last edited by Elusive BiFem; 10-02-2003 at 09:15 AM.

10-02-2003, 10:19 AM	#5 (permalink)
fun_pairTX Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 1,185 Location: Ennis, Texas Status: Couple	Moresomes We have done the MFM and FMF thing with happy results. We also do the moresome 8+ thing once a month or so (all the same group all the time). Moresomes have been very good to us, we have a great time.
	__________________ fun_pairTX

10-02-2003, 09:41 AM	#4 (permalink)
clecouple Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 48 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Couple	It's okay to disagree. My thoughts on this subject of group fantasies is that the majority of people have thought about it. I liken it to the question (especially when you're aksed in high-school), if you masturbate. I remember many guys around school saying that, "I don't play with myself, I've got a girlfiend." It's the same way for the girls/women in our society. IF so many people admitted they were not MASTURBATING, how come all the surveys we see say that 90+% of men, and 70+% women masturbate. I think it's privacy of a survey that lets people respond yes, rather than talking to a friend or a co-workrt about the subject. I just want to see how many people respond yes to this post. Thanks for your opinion! But, I now see you are into the lifestyle kind of by accident?! But not regretting it! Right?

10-02-2003, 10:24 AM	#6 (permalink)
ready2pla Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 80 Location: kansas	My wife and I were married at 17 and 18 and about a year after we got married we started talking during sex you know a little dirty talk. And that is kind of when we found we were really turned on by the thought of watching each other with another person. since that time I have always had a fantasy of having a threesome. both mfm and ffm but as we got to playing in the lifestyle our main interest goes to the mfm. There is nothing more sexually intence as a woman getting it from all ends. I see so much pleasure in her face and body that I couldn't imagine not allowing her to experience it anymore. My wife is straight and the ffm thing is a wonderful fantasy for me but I want to see two women totally enjoying each other as I get to fuck one then the other. but alass she is straight so we are really into the mmf threesomes which is fine with me. I get my pleasure making her very happy. I think if you are a swinger and you haven't tried giving your wife a mmf thresome or even a ffm threesome you are missing out. Maybe you need to bring it up she may be affraid to offend you. At least you will be giving her a chance to experience all you can while you can.

10-02-2003, 10:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
DragonsLair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 1,020 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Married Couple	My husband and I have had the fantasy of MFM and FFM. We haven't acted on them, mainly because I'm not ready yet. But the ideas definitely turn us on. And sometime in the future, we'll make them come true. Keep up the conversation and discussions. That's the best benefit from this lifestyle. Let us know when you make your fantasies come true. DragonsLair He is T. I am A.

10-02-2003, 11:31 AM	#9 (permalink)
Buck Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 173 Location: Austin Status: Couple	Fantasies of multiple partners Well, Cleo, I don't know if everyone has had fantasies of having multiple partners but I'll bet a majority have. I think most men I know will admit that having two females at one time is a major fantasy, especially if they have not experienced it. As for me, being somewhat older and married for over twenty years, all my fantasies involve my wife, usually in a MFM situation. Why, I don't know, but from this board I have found that it is certainly not an unsual fantasy. I must say that a FFM fantasy with my wife is certainly OK with me, but she maintains the thought is NOT a turn on to her. She has slowly began admitting that a MMF fantasy is somewhat exciting to her, but she says it is because she knows it turns me on so much. I stongly suspect with the right person, in the right situation, she may be in favor of it but that scenerio may never happen. As for now, I'll just be content with the fantasy of it and not push her. If it happens, it happens. If not, so be it.

10-02-2003, 11:37 AM	#10 (permalink)
ready2pla Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 80 Location: kansas	I think you are so right Ohio Couple I work with guy's that are alway's looking and making comments about how they would love to fuck this gal or that one walking down the street. And they think that would be fine but if you ask them if they would let there wifes fuck some other guy at the same time they would mostly say no way. So whats good for them is not good for there wifes. So when I here them carry on I just sit back and smile thinking of the great marriage and wild times we have together. And without worry that she or he will be out cheating on each other. I think this message board and the people that make it are fantastic.

10-02-2003, 04:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
Sibella Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana Status: married	new to all this I am turning 40 in 2 weeks; been married nearly 18 years and have just started experiencing anything like this! The first encounter, MFM, was by accident, I think. My husband and one of his best friends. It blew my mind, I never thought I could do anything like that. We all blamed it on the alchohol. That was 6 months ago. I had really tried to put it out of my mind, but it was great! Then, the other day, my husband and his friend showed up unexpectantly and wanted another encounter. I went along with it, and enjoyed it a lot. My husband really liked watching me with another guy. Part of me is torn, however, because he is a friend. I consider him my friend also, and I have reassured my husband that I have no deeper feelings for this man other than friendship. Sp how am I getting naked with him? This is so opposite of the way I was raised! Just thought I'd jump in here and see if anyone has any words of wisdom. Thanks!

10-03-2003, 10:38 AM	#13 (permalink)
Sibella Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana Status: married	turning 40 Yeah, what is up with turning 40? I like your term, flipping a switch. That is exactly how I feel! I too was the perfect daughter, honor student, ect. I have to say, I was so uninformed. I never even realized I wasn't having "fireworks" orgasms until 3 years ago! I never knew there were different kinds! The ones I had before were okay, but I kept thinking, "what is everyone so hyped up about?". I could take it or leave it. Until one day I got the nerve up to masterbate. Oh my God! I thought I was having a seizure! It scared me to death! But then I finally understood what it was all about. And how exactly do you go about telling your husband of 15 years that you'd never had a clitoral orgasm before??? Basically, I didn't. I just starting masterbating during sex, mostly with toys. He loved that! The more open we became with each other sexually, the more we began to talk. We discussed threesomes, but always just in theory. The two encounters we have had so far have not really been planned, at least by me. I kinda like not knowing when or where it will happen. Of course, I trust my husband, and he alone decides when these encounters will happen. I believe that keeps him in control and he has no fear or jealousy that way. He knows it is he who is bringing it about. But I have to say, I have to bite my toungue sometimes, because I'd like it more often.

10-03-2003, 02:19 PM	#15 (permalink)
Sibella Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana Status: married	glad I'm not alone Mrs Hmr, So glad to hear I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Not sure how it will come about, but I think I need to teach my daughter this stuff! I missed out on so many years of great orgasms! (I think I'm making up for all that now!) But I have to say, this journey of discovery of my own body has greatly increased the trust and intimacy between my husband and I. He has seen me "blossom", and it really turns him on. Thanks for posting! I am LOVING this site! Sibella

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