Has everyone had fantasies of threesomes and group sex?

SexhoundDog · 10-03-2003, 02:23 PM

What an interesting thread, and somewhat funny too! I almost could've been the one writing Buck's post, but it sounds like he has at least had a more in depth discussion with his wife than me.

I think the MMF has become more of a turn on to me as I've gotten older, perhaps because I think my wife gives great head and it would be cool to watch her giving some other guy the same pleasure, perhaps while I did her doggy or some other position where I could play yet also view. Plus, she's gotten more orgasmic as well, and I'd think she might like the sensation of two guys playing with her at once. She talks like the vibrator (which of course I got one bigger than me!) and me are good enough for her threesome since I tease her about not being able to handle one, but I'm betting she has the MMF fantasy as well, or she sure seems to enjoy the two guys on one girl scenes in the porns we watch for pure viewing only.

But as you other women mention, she's definitely gotten to be more of a sexual, multi-orgasmic being as she's gotten older, even if we don't do it as much as we'd like. Maybe I'm just getting to be a better lover as I age too, ya think? Naaahh, that can't be it.

Sibella · 10-03-2003, 02:34 PM

I gotta say, reading these all day long has gotten me so hot!
I went home during my lunch break and masterbated twice with a vibrator; wishing my guys would've just "happened by" while I was doing it.
My hubby is gonna have his hands full tonight!
I came back to work and wrote out a fantasy I'd like to experience. I'm a writer; had a book published this year! I'm also a LIBRARIAN, so you can imagine the fantasies my husband and his friends have about the prim and proper librarian letting her hair down, so to speak, at night!
It's gonna be a great weekend!
Thanks!

Buck · 10-03-2003, 02:47 PM

Hey Sexhoundog it sounds like you and I are in almost the same situation, vibrators and all. Like all the advice given on this board, I'm not pushing my wife or rushing anything but just dropping hints when the situation warrants it, especially when we're watching porn I still haven't introduced her to the board though I'd like to in order to get her reaction to some of these threads and posts dealing with the MMF thing. How about you?

Buck · 10-03-2003, 03:33 PM

OK Sibella, I re-read your posts. Your stated that your first MMF threesome occured by accident "I THINK." Well, was it a set up by your husband or truly an accident? What is your gut feeling? What I'm driving at is that it sounds like Sexhoundog and I are are pretty much in the same situation, with wives who are increasingly sexual the older they get, but just can't seem to admit they would be open to experimenting with other sex partners. I'm pretty sure my wife would, but she just won't admit it and I don't press her too hard about it. I would prefer her to bring it up to me I guess because I don't want to push her into something she really doesn't want to do. As I've stated before, with the right third partner, in the right circumstances I think she would. I have to admit that I'm obsessed with my wife to the point that I enjoy her nudity around the house, and tease her about going topless on our boat, etc. but, she is pretty reserved about such things. I guess her "behind closed doors" sexuality is what keeps me wondeing, because she can get pretty wild at times, especially when we watch porn together. The absolute biggest fantasy I have is sharing her with a cool guy. OK Sibella, lets hear your thoughts.

cntrycpl505 · 10-03-2003, 03:37 PM

I agree about getting hot. we have talked a good game for years but not taken any action. we are both wanting to real bad we live in a very small town and not any people around here in the lifestyle.still looking for the 1st time hope to enjoy it soon the idea of seeing her pleased is something I really would love to see.

Sibella · 10-03-2003, 04:16 PM

Ummm. Okay well, I'm thinking it was a set up sort-of. Meaning, I think he told his friend, come on over we'll get her drunk and see what happens. At first he only wanted to watch us. my hubby and I, have sex. To me that was not threatening. He was just going to beat off while watching us. Now it has escalated. I guess what we've done is soft-swap. I'm not sure I will ever have intercourse except with hubby. I like the fact that I don't know when it will happen. It takes the responsibilty off me.
I would never have approached my husband with this. So if you want it to happen, you might need to arrange it "sort-of", then if the circumstances are right, it will happen. They didn't have to break my arm to do it, but I was never actually asked either. They just started touching me. Of course the beer helped a lot! It sounds like I was just like your wife, Buck.
I think we women want it, but we don't want to admit it to you or to ourselves, but when it happens, look out! It is great!
Best of luck,
Sibella

SexhoundDog · 10-03-2003, 04:58 PM

But Buck, what happens if you "just happen to come across this site" and your wife reads the posts and then says "Hey Honey, let's call that Buck dude!:slam"

I guess it would make for a great laugh between you! As I read that little perv Sibella's post (that's a compliment by the way), the first time may have to involve some alcohol or gettin' nekkid in a hot tub with a friend who's visiting. Trouble is, I don't really have any single friends I can think of, and she's got ethics when it would come around to messin' with another woman's husband. Just wish I knew what kind of pervs for wives some of my buddies have!

naughtygirl27 · 10-03-2003, 05:19 PM

My hubby & I have talked alot about MMF. Something we both wanted. He kept telling me to just pick the guy..which is easier said then done. I got some nerve up one night & said ok "this guy" who is a single friend of his. Hubby agreed 100% that it was a good pick as this guys knows about the lifestyle (not in it though) and hubby trusts him very much. Hubby talked to his friend about it & we made plans to go out for a few drinks.

Anyways...we get back to his place & I start to kiss him etc. He said " I cant do this" and I backed off, told him no problem, all is good. After watching some porn & chatting we started kissing and touching again (he started it). Clothes came off & oral play happened. At one point I said " I want you to F*ck me now". Well he said he just wasnt comfortable doing that & lost his erection. So hubby & I played while he watched. After we sat around & chatted. I made sure I let him know that although we didnt have sex I had an amazing time and honestly hope to do it again.

We are hoping with some time & more conversation we can try the MMF with him again. But if he isnt ok with it...he is still a great friend and my hubby & I MIGHT look for another male..unilt then 4somes & more somes.

naughtygirl27

Sibella · 10-03-2003, 05:35 PM

Hey naughtygirl!
That sounds like a great night! We are still not sure if we will ever have intercourse with anyone other than our spouse; just not sure we can go that far with it. Maybe in the future. For now we are just enjoying the experience as it comes. I want to do more kissing with the friend, but not sure how hubby will respond to something that personal. We are taking things very slow and discussing a lot what our boundaries are. Our marriage is number one priority, so we won't go farther than we both agree upon.
Your friend may be concerned about the friendship, as we were. So far, things are great. My husband admitted tonight that there is a pang of jealousy when he watches me with another, but it turns him on so much that that overides his jealousy. I'm not sure I'd be that way. It is new territory for us to be sure!
Have a great weekend!
Sibella

SexhoundDog · 10-03-2003, 05:38 PM

Sibella and Naughty Girl,

You two have a nice weekend, sounds like you might be onto a plan already, Sibella.

I'm betting if you two girls eat a banana in a sensuous manner I'm sure you can, you'll get a bit of excitement in your hubbies and their friends. As they say "You go, Girl!"

curious24 · 10-04-2003, 09:53 AM

it's nice to see that there are people out there that want to have and do the MFM threesome. I don't hear about too many couples who actually want to experience them. It seems to me most couples just want to have the single bi-female and do the FMF thing.

thanks for the great thread

Buck · 10-04-2003, 01:52 PM

Judging from Sibella's and Naughtygirl's posts if it ever happens with me and my wife it will be a similar thing to theirs. A "just happen" thing. I think Sibella's comment "that we women really want it but won't admit it to you or ourselves" is exactly my situation. I have come to realize that my spouse probably will never admit it which leads me to believe that if it happens it will be a "set up" or just in the right place at the right time. I couldn't do a set up because I just don't think it's right but I think now if the opportunity ever happens that it is a possibility at the moment, I think I will not let that that opportunity pass by. At that time I would suggest it....there have been times in the past that were "ripe for it" so to speak but I didn't push or suggest and just let it pass by. I guess I won't let that happen again. Thanks for your comments Sibella and Naughtygirl, they have been helpful and reinforced what I have been thinking. Also thanks to Sexhoundog for freely discussing our similar situations.
I'm looking forward to spending the week-end alone with my wife so maybe I'll know more Monday than I do now. Time to push ahead a little further!

Buck · 10-06-2003, 10:32 AM

Well, Sibella I decided to go for it and cut through the hints and talk to my wife about an MMF experience. She said that she can't imagine ever doing it and it's not something she even wants to do. But, she said that my sharing that fantasy with her doesn't turn her off because it does get me turned on and that's what she likes. So I guess that's my answer. I'm fine with it too. If I can fantasize with her and not turn her off then that's a lot of progress. Since I've laid my cards on the table I will not push her any further. The seed has been planted so maybe someday it will start to grow. If it doesn't, well, I'm fine with that. I'm just thankful that we can communicate and enjoy each other within our own limits.

Your thoughts? EBF and Naughtygirl your thoughts would be appreciated too! Thanks in advance.

SexhoundDog · 10-06-2003, 11:20 AM

Well Buck, as many of the women on the board have said, it didn't happen right away for them either, and their husbands must've handled it right because they are swingin' now.

Sounds to me like you handled it right and you just never know when you may get in a situation where she might get attracted to the right guy. As you said in the post right before this one, keep alert to any sign of it. But, I've got to believe since you've had this talk with your wife, she will let you know if the time is ever right for her. For now, keep watching those threeway porns with her if she likes them too, and I guess her threeway fantasies will have to consist of yours and hers favorite vibrator and your cock.

Did she say she ever has fantasies about the MMF, but just keeps them at that? I haven't asked my wife that question point blank yet, but she sure seems to like those scenes in movies, so next time around I think I'll ask her. I wonder if she'd let her hair down more if you took her out of town and found a stranger or if she'd be more comfortable with someone you know. That's also an interesting thread on the board I've read in the past.

Elusive BiFem · 10-06-2003, 11:25 AM

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Originally posted by Buck

Your thoughts? EBF and Naughtygirl your thoughts would be appreciated too! Thanks in advance.

I think it is just super that you were able to talk to her, Buck, and even more so that she didn't slam the doors in terms of fantasies. That alone will open up things for the two of you and that can only be a good thing.

About the only comments I would have at this point is to give her time to digest the conversation. I don't think I would let it die, nor would I push the issue just now. Slow and easy would be my mantra. Give her opportunities to bring it up to you...maybe a trip to the local porn store, allowing her to pick out the movies to be viewed. Sitting in the local mall watching people walk by and discussing with her who she might find interesting. Oh! and as silly as it may sound...when you do bring it up, do so when she is feeling great about herself. Not when she has her hands up to her elbows in dishwater, no make-up, hair a mess...

Also, if you haven't already done so, be certain to engage her in discussions of HER fantasies. This whole concept should be one of mutual fantasies and you want her to know her fantasies are just as important as yours.

And if nothing comes of it, you two will have great times together with your fantasies and that is the best of all. - EBF

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10-03-2003, 02:34 PM	#17 (permalink)
Sibella Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana Status: married	lunchbreak orgasm I gotta say, reading these all day long has gotten me so hot! I went home during my lunch break and masterbated twice with a vibrator; wishing my guys would've just "happened by" while I was doing it. My hubby is gonna have his hands full tonight! I came back to work and wrote out a fantasy I'd like to experience. I'm a writer; had a book published this year! I'm also a LIBRARIAN, so you can imagine the fantasies my husband and his friends have about the prim and proper librarian letting her hair down, so to speak, at night! It's gonna be a great weekend! Thanks!

10-03-2003, 02:47 PM	#18 (permalink)
Buck Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 172 Location: Austin Status: Couple	Sexhoundog are you sure you're not me? Hey Sexhoundog it sounds like you and I are in almost the same situation, vibrators and all. Like all the advice given on this board, I'm not pushing my wife or rushing anything but just dropping hints when the situation warrants it, especially when we're watching porn I still haven't introduced her to the board though I'd like to in order to get her reaction to some of these threads and posts dealing with the MMF thing. How about you?

10-03-2003, 03:33 PM	#19 (permalink)
Buck Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 172 Location: Austin Status: Couple	Sibella, time for your advice OK Sibella, I re-read your posts. Your stated that your first MMF threesome occured by accident "I THINK." Well, was it a set up by your husband or truly an accident? What is your gut feeling? What I'm driving at is that it sounds like Sexhoundog and I are are pretty much in the same situation, with wives who are increasingly sexual the older they get, but just can't seem to admit they would be open to experimenting with other sex partners. I'm pretty sure my wife would, but she just won't admit it and I don't press her too hard about it. I would prefer her to bring it up to me I guess because I don't want to push her into something she really doesn't want to do. As I've stated before, with the right third partner, in the right circumstances I think she would. I have to admit that I'm obsessed with my wife to the point that I enjoy her nudity around the house, and tease her about going topless on our boat, etc. but, she is pretty reserved about such things. I guess her "behind closed doors" sexuality is what keeps me wondeing, because she can get pretty wild at times, especially when we watch porn together. The absolute biggest fantasy I have is sharing her with a cool guy. OK Sibella, lets hear your thoughts.

10-03-2003, 03:37 PM	#20 (permalink)
cntrycpl505 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 17 Location: central NM Status: couple	3some mmf I agree about getting hot. we have talked a good game for years but not taken any action. we are both wanting to real bad we live in a very small town and not any people around here in the lifestyle.still looking for the 1st time hope to enjoy it soon the idea of seeing her pleased is something I really would love to see.

10-03-2003, 02:23 PM	#16 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	What an interesting thread, and somewhat funny too! I almost could've been the one writing Buck's post, but it sounds like he has at least had a more in depth discussion with his wife than me. I think the MMF has become more of a turn on to me as I've gotten older, perhaps because I think my wife gives great head and it would be cool to watch her giving some other guy the same pleasure, perhaps while I did her doggy or some other position where I could play yet also view. Plus, she's gotten more orgasmic as well, and I'd think she might like the sensation of two guys playing with her at once. She talks like the vibrator (which of course I got one bigger than me!) and me are good enough for her threesome since I tease her about not being able to handle one, but I'm betting she has the MMF fantasy as well, or she sure seems to enjoy the two guys on one girl scenes in the porns we watch for pure viewing only. But as you other women mention, she's definitely gotten to be more of a sexual, multi-orgasmic being as she's gotten older, even if we don't do it as much as we'd like. Maybe I'm just getting to be a better lover as I age too, ya think? Naaahh, that can't be it.

10-03-2003, 04:16 PM	#21 (permalink)
Sibella Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana Status: married	my advice Ummm. Okay well, I'm thinking it was a set up sort-of. Meaning, I think he told his friend, come on over we'll get her drunk and see what happens. At first he only wanted to watch us. my hubby and I, have sex. To me that was not threatening. He was just going to beat off while watching us. Now it has escalated. I guess what we've done is soft-swap. I'm not sure I will ever have intercourse except with hubby. I like the fact that I don't know when it will happen. It takes the responsibilty off me. I would never have approached my husband with this. So if you want it to happen, you might need to arrange it "sort-of", then if the circumstances are right, it will happen. They didn't have to break my arm to do it, but I was never actually asked either. They just started touching me. Of course the beer helped a lot! It sounds like I was just like your wife, Buck. I think we women want it, but we don't want to admit it to you or to ourselves, but when it happens, look out! It is great! Best of luck, Sibella

10-03-2003, 04:58 PM	#22 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	But Buck, what happens if you "just happen to come across this site" and your wife reads the posts and then says "Hey Honey, let's call that Buck dude!:slam" I guess it would make for a great laugh between you! As I read that little perv Sibella's post (that's a compliment by the way), the first time may have to involve some alcohol or gettin' nekkid in a hot tub with a friend who's visiting. Trouble is, I don't really have any single friends I can think of, and she's got ethics when it would come around to messin' with another woman's husband. Just wish I knew what kind of pervs for wives some of my buddies have!

10-03-2003, 05:19 PM	#23 (permalink)
naughtygirl27 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 36 Location: Ontario, Canada Status: Couple	My hubby & I have talked alot about MMF. Something we both wanted. He kept telling me to just pick the guy..which is easier said then done. I got some nerve up one night & said ok "this guy" who is a single friend of his. Hubby agreed 100% that it was a good pick as this guys knows about the lifestyle (not in it though) and hubby trusts him very much. Hubby talked to his friend about it & we made plans to go out for a few drinks. Anyways...we get back to his place & I start to kiss him etc. He said " I cant do this" and I backed off, told him no problem, all is good. After watching some porn & chatting we started kissing and touching again (he started it). Clothes came off & oral play happened. At one point I said " I want you to F*ck me now". Well he said he just wasnt comfortable doing that & lost his erection. So hubby & I played while he watched. After we sat around & chatted. I made sure I let him know that although we didnt have sex I had an amazing time and honestly hope to do it again. We are hoping with some time & more conversation we can try the MMF with him again. But if he isnt ok with it...he is still a great friend and my hubby & I MIGHT look for another male..unilt then 4somes & more somes. naughtygirl27 __________________ To Each His Own...

10-03-2003, 05:35 PM	#24 (permalink)
Sibella Active Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Indiana Status: married	It's all good Hey naughtygirl! That sounds like a great night! We are still not sure if we will ever have intercourse with anyone other than our spouse; just not sure we can go that far with it. Maybe in the future. For now we are just enjoying the experience as it comes. I want to do more kissing with the friend, but not sure how hubby will respond to something that personal. We are taking things very slow and discussing a lot what our boundaries are. Our marriage is number one priority, so we won't go farther than we both agree upon. Your friend may be concerned about the friendship, as we were. So far, things are great. My husband admitted tonight that there is a pang of jealousy when he watches me with another, but it turns him on so much that that overides his jealousy. I'm not sure I'd be that way. It is new territory for us to be sure! Have a great weekend! Sibella

10-03-2003, 05:38 PM	#25 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Sibella and Naughty Girl, You two have a nice weekend, sounds like you might be onto a plan already, Sibella. I'm betting if you two girls eat a banana in a sensuous manner I'm sure you can, you'll get a bit of excitement in your hubbies and their friends. As they say "You go, Girl!"

10-04-2003, 09:53 AM	#26 (permalink)
curious24 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 693 Location: austin, tx Status: Single Male	it's nice to see that there are people out there that want to have and do the MFM threesome. I don't hear about too many couples who actually want to experience them. It seems to me most couples just want to have the single bi-female and do the FMF thing. thanks for the great thread

10-04-2003, 01:52 PM	#27 (permalink)
Buck Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 172 Location: Austin Status: Couple	MFM First Time Judging from Sibella's and Naughtygirl's posts if it ever happens with me and my wife it will be a similar thing to theirs. A "just happen" thing. I think Sibella's comment "that we women really want it but won't admit it to you or ourselves" is exactly my situation. I have come to realize that my spouse probably will never admit it which leads me to believe that if it happens it will be a "set up" or just in the right place at the right time. I couldn't do a set up because I just don't think it's right but I think now if the opportunity ever happens that it is a possibility at the moment, I think I will not let that that opportunity pass by. At that time I would suggest it....there have been times in the past that were "ripe for it" so to speak but I didn't push or suggest and just let it pass by. I guess I won't let that happen again. Thanks for your comments Sibella and Naughtygirl, they have been helpful and reinforced what I have been thinking. Also thanks to Sexhoundog for freely discussing our similar situations. I'm looking forward to spending the week-end alone with my wife so maybe I'll know more Monday than I do now. Time to push ahead a little further!

10-06-2003, 10:32 AM	#28 (permalink)
Buck Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 172 Location: Austin Status: Couple	Sibella, how was the week-end? Well, Sibella I decided to go for it and cut through the hints and talk to my wife about an MMF experience. She said that she can't imagine ever doing it and it's not something she even wants to do. But, she said that my sharing that fantasy with her doesn't turn her off because it does get me turned on and that's what she likes. So I guess that's my answer. I'm fine with it too. If I can fantasize with her and not turn her off then that's a lot of progress. Since I've laid my cards on the table I will not push her any further. The seed has been planted so maybe someday it will start to grow. If it doesn't, well, I'm fine with that. I'm just thankful that we can communicate and enjoy each other within our own limits. Your thoughts? EBF and Naughtygirl your thoughts would be appreciated too! Thanks in advance.

10-06-2003, 11:20 AM	#29 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Well Buck, as many of the women on the board have said, it didn't happen right away for them either, and their husbands must've handled it right because they are swingin' now. Sounds to me like you handled it right and you just never know when you may get in a situation where she might get attracted to the right guy. As you said in the post right before this one, keep alert to any sign of it. But, I've got to believe since you've had this talk with your wife, she will let you know if the time is ever right for her. For now, keep watching those threeway porns with her if she likes them too, and I guess her threeway fantasies will have to consist of yours and hers favorite vibrator and your cock. Did she say she ever has fantasies about the MMF, but just keeps them at that? I haven't asked my wife that question point blank yet, but she sure seems to like those scenes in movies, so next time around I think I'll ask her. I wonder if she'd let her hair down more if you took her out of town and found a stranger or if she'd be more comfortable with someone you know. That's also an interesting thread on the board I've read in the past.

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