Does my wife want a MFM or is it just fantasy?

[SexhoundDog]

This is probably a question for the ladies, but anyone please reply if you have some insight. My wife and I seem to find ourselves watching porn movies more and more, and it always leads to good sex. I notice that the ones she seems to like most are the MMF movies, but I don’t know if she just likes the “eye candy”, the fantasy, or would really like to try it. I asked her what she likes best, the total attention or the cocks, and she said it shows two things she really likes, intercourse and sucking cock.
I’m kind of taking it slow and hoping she’ll direct the conversation a bit more, so other than trying to be sure we get some MMF viewing to keep the idea fresh in her mind, I’m not quite sure how to move best on this. About the only other thing I said was that if she ever wanted to do the threeway, I’d have to like the guy too. We both like the movies where the guys act interested in pleasing the woman rather than the “suck it bitch” variety where it appears more degrading than sexy, so I’m hoping she thinks me having to like the guy means I’d be concerned about her satisfaction.
I guess my question is this. Should I press this any more or how would be a good way to get her to bring it up more open? I’m curious as to where enjoying a fantasy ends and perhaps wanting to taste reality takes over. Also, I assume it would make the most sense to let her do the selection? What seemed to work for you??

[Roxysbayou]

I would try to bring it up when you are both in a playful mood. That's how hubby always seems to get me, almost like a truth or dare. Would you ever? See how she responds, take things at her pace. Make sure that if you do decide to take things a bit further that you keep the line of communication open.

Roxy

For us we was coaxed into our first MMF threesome, by a couple who knew the man. He was black and my wife always was a little curious about the whole black male myth. Especially after a couple of the women in our group had bragged up his love making abilities. He came around our group at the club, and we had talked to him several times, and he was very nice. I think what we liked most is the fact that he wasn't pushy. Some single men, if your wife even smiled or spoke trying to be friendly, would consider that a come on, and seemed very pushy even after she told them NO, she wasn't interested.

Well one night when we were at one couples house, they asked us about inviting him over, we agreed, but it turned out he couldn't make it that night. I knew the other husband was into watching, and wanted to see my wife, with this well endowed stud, but that didn't happen. So we agreed to meet him at another time. As it turned out my wife, had one of the best sexully encounters of her life. And like you said about not wanting some guy to say "suck my dick bitch" This man only seemed interested in pleasing my wife. He had a couple more inches than she could take, but he never tried stroking her deeper than she was comfortable with. After we got in the motel room, and my wife had went into the bathroom to put on a teddy. He removed his clothes, revealing his manhood, and asked me if I was ok with this. I figured it was too late to change my mind then, and told his it might be a problem for my wife but not for me.

I might have been a little jealous or intimidated, at first but when I seen the pleasure, in my wife's eyes. I didn't mind watching my wife ravished by another man. I never really though I would enjoy watching, and not having another guys wife to enjoy. But after they had made love for awhile I joined them, it was fun, and we meet with the same man several times after that. And after encounters with him our love making seemed hotter than ever.

[Vjklander]

Originally posted by SexhoundDog
I guess my question is this. Should I press this any more or how would be a good way to get her to bring it up more open? I’m curious as to where enjoying a fantasy ends and perhaps wanting to taste reality takes over. Also, I assume it would make the most sense to let her do the selection? What seemed to work for you??

First thing is to decide if you want to do this. Talk talk talk, then try reading penthouse letters together or stories in literotica.com
I'll pick one out or have my girl pick one out, then I tease and play with her with toys and/or my body parts whilst she reads it out loud. It becomes a bit of a contest to see if she can read it or if I can make her lose control. ;0
Once(if) you decide to go for it, select the pidgeon, er playmate, together. You both have to be comfortable with him. In my experience the decent guys will require assurance from the male as well as the female that this is ok. So be sure to make it clear that you want this for her too. Though I do love to watch, most of the time we share together, especially at the beginning. In our case, we are in several bdsm clubs so finding a horny guy for a third was pretty easy. Same for females and couples. Basically, look around. Just about any single guy will jump at the chance.
OH, geez. MOST IMPORTANT, which is why its down here and not up there. You must discuss all the potential problems as well as the advantages. Is pregmancy a possibility? What will you do if bc fails and she ends up pregnant? What if she gets a disease despite your safegaurds? What if she changes her mind at the last minute. What if the guy turns out not to be what you thought? All these are things to think about beforehand. I don't want to scare you off, but better safe than sorry.
In my personal opinion, sharing pleasures with others adds a dimension to our lives that is quite satisfying. We could live without it, but with reasonable caution and good communication all is well.
J

I had a MMF fantasy for a few years before ever telling my hubby:evil: I would bet your wife dose not know how to tell u "could be wrong". My problem was telling my hubby. We had been with couples but, I wanted more attention. Some of the BEST play times i've had have been our "rare" MMF 3 sums. Just wanted to toss that in

[OhioCouple]

Much like Roxy, my husband would bring it up as part of our foreplay. At first, I was a little turned off by it...over time it began to sound really interesting and then became a huge turn on. He never pushed the issue and let me grow into the idea. Perhaps I am slow, but it took me a full three years to be really turned on by the idea. Even then I did a lot of research on it to make sure that it would fit in with my moral beliefs. Imagine the surprise on his face when I said.."Honey, look at this website I found for swingers!" The rest is history.

Take it slow and keep those lines of communication open...ya just never know...

Lori

Originally posted by SexhoundDog

We both like the movies where the guys act interested in pleasing the woman rather than the “suck it bitch” variety

It sounds like you've found some of these elusive types of movies!

Any title names you could drop would be appreciated, We definitely enjoy watching those kind over those porno's where the woman is treated like dirt on the floor... but sadly those seem to be the standard

[uneed_love2]

Do the movies have to be in english? JC has some that I find almost classy! If you don't mind them being in french, I can ask him to post the titles.

[Uneed_Love]

Originally posted by uneed_love2
Do the movies have to be in english? JC has some that I find almost classy! If you don't mind them being in french, I can ask him to post the titles.

I want to introduce a slight difference with what my Lover says here. The actress is a gorgeous Brasilian female who left France to live and work in South California now so You can find her videos in english too.

What some people can find a turn on can be for others a turn off... example "talk dirty" is a turn on for me and a turn off for Uneed2.

Is Olivia del Rio classy ? May be she is... BUT the elegance and the distinction are quite almost and more often in the eyes of the woman who is watching the video than in the play of the porn actress himself... You can notice that I wrote "more often" and "quite almost" instead of "ALWAYS" because there are always some good exception.

Of course, may be, You could find a porn actress who is "classy" when she does a BJ, or performs anal sex BUT(T) this is generally not appearing at the first sight... At least this is not what I should notice first

Sexy and gorgeous I have no doubt about it but elegance and distinction will be not perceived at the first sight I assume. For instance if You show such a movie to my old Mom she would have a heart attack and would not qualified this as "classy"

Anyways here is a link about this sexy actress http://www.oliviadelrio.com

Kisses

JC

[Ashley]

I have huge MMF fantasies. Before I tried it I thought I could never do it and now that I've done it, it's not what I thought it would be. I can't concentrate on my own orgasm when I'm giving a blowjob. So now I am searching for a way to do it, but do it differently. I want it to be all about me...lol...and if you approach it in this way I'll bet your wife will be very receptive. In my current fantasy, L is holding me, kissing me, fondling my breasts and looking deep into my eyes while a gorgeous young stud is either licking me or penetrating me. The turn on is from the eye contact more than the licking/penetration....lol.

[ArcaneReference]

mmmmmm - MMF ...... like I said in an earlier post, my neighbourhood is simply crawling with single women who like to play, (and the fact that Mr. ArcaneReference is pretty good looking makes that a little easier - gotta love beach communities) but finding a fellow around here is just plain tough, so STILL no MMF for me!

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by Ashley
I have huge MMF fantasies. Before I tried it I thought I could never do it and now that I've done it, it's not what I thought it would be. I can't concentrate on my own orgasm when I'm giving a blowjob.

Thank goodness! I'm glad to hear that I am not the only one. Even with my husband and I in a 69 position, I am unable to reach orgasm, as I am concentrating on pleasing him. I thought I was just weird.

[DragonsLair]

Lori,

You're definitely not alone. I have trouble reaching orgasm in a 69 unless I stop what I'm doing to my husband. Besides, I'm always afraid I'll bite him if I don't stop. And I don't think he'd like that.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

[BradAndJanet]

I agree with all of you. 69 sounds fun, but it is difficult to concentrate on both things at once. It's nice for foreplay, but we take turns when it comes to cumming...

-B

[uneed_love2]

Originally posted by Ashley
I have huge MMF fantasies. I can't concentrate on my own orgasm when I'm giving a blowjob. So now I am searching for a way to do it, but do it differently. I want it to be all about me...lol...and if you approach it in this way I'll bet your wife will be very receptive. In my current fantasy, L is holding me, kissing me, fondling my breasts and looking deep into my eyes while a gorgeous young stud is either licking me or penetrating me. The turn on is from the eye contact more than the licking/penetration....lol.

This just about summs it up! Nothing to add! Except that I also find it much more pleasurable to concentrate on one thing at a time!