She wants to! then she doesn't know!

[untamedhawk]

WOW! I guess I know how to stop a thread......lol

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by untamedhawk

I've tried that, but after she read some of what was posted here she started crying. Now she wants nothing to do with the site. I guess she feels as if fingers are being pointed, and I've tried to explain that most of the fault iia due to the person that started the topic

Who does she feel the finger has been pointed at? Her for exploring on her own? I mean, if you are ok with that, let her do it if she is more comfortable doing it that way....but you need to be included. And I do agree with others here as far has them having a trial run without you there, if you are into the hot wife/girlfriend scenario where she is in control, goes out, plays with others, and then when she gets home you two have a go at it while she tells you about it, ok go for it! (I was involved in a situation like that a few years ago, it can be very exciting...but also potentially hurtful for the one waiting at home even if it is agreed upon.)

I mean, there are some things I don't like to pursue while Jeff is around. Getting started on girl girl stuff is one of those things. I want to do it if the opportunity presents itself, but I don't want to feel pressure from him to pursue it. However, once it has started, his presence is immediately requested so he can watch and we can move on to playing. He is included, but I don't feel like he's dictating my actions if that makes sense.

If your girlfriend is the same, then ok. Finding the guy, talking to him about what she wants to happen is ok (in my book anyway). But if you are totally being cut out of the play time, even just once...then that sets a precedent is all I'm sure most people here were trying to convey.

If she is having any doubts, then back off of this one for a while and come back to visit it.

Or fingers pointed at you for not being able to express your thoughts or possible perceived pushyness on your girlfriend's part? I agree that intuition was very eloquent in her reply and always has a great perspective.

I'm not sure you totally brought the thread to a screeching halt...but not sure how you would want the board to follow up on her being emotionally distraught over reading the things written here?

Good luck,

Maria

[untamedhawk]

Maria,

You're a true Gem! Thank you for that response sweetie.

Hawk