Totally Confusing Signals from wife

[sereneiders]

east,

I think you're in the right path here.

Just to give you hope, I've been there, I had patience and now we're here.

Following this line, I remember asking my wife to buy a sex toy to play with, and the sound no I received. After several months where she chewed the idea, she said (on her own) "well... about the toy idea... I don't know... may be". I bough the toy, showed it to her, we made some jokes about the shape and texture, and then I leave it in one closet dwarve. I didn't speak of the toy anymore, and some day she told me she gave it a try and... well... it wasn't that bad. Something like this happend about swinging, she was the one who brung the topic back.

Be patient, and do your homework the way you're doing it. It doesn't too much how far she will go, but you two will enjoy the process.

[eastofthemoon]

I like your suggestion for introducing the sex toy. I’ve been trying to think of an innocent playful approach to go about it. Especially after the wife sprang up with another sexy surprise last night!

Last night in the middle of a social entrainment dinner my wife leans over at the table and quietly whispered in my ear that she is wearing a g-string with hose and garters under the very reveling ass tight silky stretchy black pants she had on. I looked down at her feet and notice the lacey pattern of her black gartter hose exposed by her sheer high heels. I got an instant woody. I haven’t witness this kind of behavior from her during a social outing in twenty years. And the sexy garters and stockings have languished in the bottom dresser drawer for nearly as long. Totaly out of blue, WOW! I noticed a couple other male guests at the dinner casually checking out her hinny with quick innocent glances. That was really getting me sexually aroused. This was a very socially proper family type gathering, slow dance champaign and bubbles. So my grabbing a hand-full of her was definitely not an option. I did manage to casually brush my hand against her cute little bubble butt a few times while dancing. Nearly felt like her bare butt “like no pants at all”.

I had let her know on the way home how sexy she looked and that other male’s had noticed her cute hinny. She giggly responded “ oh really think so hummmm….”. Needless to say we both headed straight to the bedroom the instant we arrived home. No foreplay required when we hit the sheets she was wet and ready. I let her know how sexy she looked and gave 100% approval! This was fantastic, not a MFM, but certainly more of a spark in the romance and bedroom play than I’ve seen in many years.

[sereneiders]

I am glad for you two.

You know, one of the things we found out while starting to explore the swingers world, and even before engaging in any swinger activity, was how much enhanced our sexual life the sole process of exploring this.

Even if you never reach the point allowing you two to engage in a MFM encounter, what you get from this process worths the effort.