Is my wife interested?

[pinkcpl06]

Hey all,
I'm new here, so if I say something wrong, please forgive me.

Here's my situation,
I've been married to my wonderful wife for about a year now. She is fantastic as a partner and a lover. In the past, I know she has had her fair share of sexual experiences, including girl/girl. She has even to me how one of her friends from college tried to get her to have a threesome with her husband, jokingly; but she declined, jokingly, although she acted excited about it when she told me.

Back to the present.
She is a teacher in a local school now. She mentioned to me about another teacher there was a swinger, and how she later found out that she regularly has relations with another couple, who also happens to be teachers at yet another local school; and they are also swingers.
I didn't really think much about this the first time she told me about it, and just said "Wow, that's crazy! I knew you people (teachers) were kinky." And that was about it.
But it wasn't it. She has told me about this situation with the swinger teachers about 3 more times since then. Each time she has told me about them has been in the bedroom as we are watching porn, during foreplay.
I just pretend to have no previous knowledge about this, and just humor her with some witty remark.

My question is, what does all of this mean? Is she trying to tell me she is interested in swinging?
We have never really discussed the topic in detail, but she knows that I would be up for it; I'm very open sexually. She has never mentioned if she is against it or for it. But she is a very sexual person, and has one hell of a sex drive.
I'm really confused, please help me with any thoughts or comments you may have.

Thanks
Damon

[NewTemptations]

Originally Posted by pinkcpl06

I just pretend to have no previous knowledge about this, and just humor her with some witty remark.

My question is, what does all of this mean? Is she trying to tell me she is interested in swinging?

I think the best answer to your question would be to quit making "some witty remark" when she brings this up and ask HER what does this all mean

Having any of us here guess what it is she means would be just that...a guess. She is the only one that can truely tell you whether this is just a topic of conversation, a fantasy of hers, or perhaps something she would like to explore further.

Laura

[BradAndJanet]

Well, I think the subject is worth pursuing. She seems to bring it up often enough and that could indicate that she has some interest in it.

Ask her.

-B

[Mike and Jan]

She's interested or she wouldn't even mention it to you. If you're interested too then let her know.

[Ofrdcple]

Why don't you ask her?

[sexyshelby]

Another option is to ask your wife.

~SS

[JnCC]

How could anybody here possibly answer the question about what's on your wife's mind when she's talking about these things? What do you do when she mentions them? Change the channel? Leave the room? Sit there and grunt?

Dude, you need to take a little initiative here. The next time she brings up the subject of what her "friends" are doing in bed, you might want to ask her how she feels about those things.

Just make sure you're ready for her answer...

[HotMoCpl]

I believe Jeff Foxworthy said it in 3 words. HERE'S YOUR SIGN!!! Short of slapping you up side of your head.

[CplInOrlando]

sorry, Bill Engvall is the "Heres your Sign"

Don't tell wife about this post.
Cuz I are a redneck and I am in the closet.

[S&E]

Sounds loke she is interested

It is, if your are truely receptive to the idea, time to talk with your wife about it. Just pick the right time & place and see where it goes!

Good Luck!

S & E

[pinkcpl06]

Thanks for all the advice!
I know I should just come out and ask her about it, that's quite obvious. But I just wanted to hear the thoughts and maybe the prior experiences of others, first. It's going to take a lot of courage to just come out and ask her. But I think that she would be understanding and be more than willing to have a discussion about this.
Thanks again.
Damon

ps. what do you guys recommend as your first experience? mmf, ffm, ffmm or what? I'd like for her to be very comfortable with the sitaution, and I'd like to hear from all the ladies and couples with what they think. A story or situation I can have ready to tell her about would help with convincing her.

[beaverz]

I can somewhat relate to your situation.

We are not officially swingers at this time (only in spirit); if the right situation presents itself we’ll be there.

Mrs. Beaverz did not like to discuss her sexual desires; it took many years to get her to open up head bang . She has always been a very sexual person and she is the main reason I am interested in swinging, I love to see her squirm and scream with pleasure (there’s nothing better). We have been together for over twenty years and have grown sexually as a couple and swinging maybe our next step.
Enough about us.

Here are a few of possible suggestions that have worked for me.
Just have general discussion about swinging. Bring up a story about swingers (tell her you heard it on the radio or from a TV show) and see how she feels about people that swing. Make sure it’s positive stories.

Try discussing sexual desires and fantasies.
I have always discussed my desire to have a FMF threesome with her. I mentioned that I would be willing just to sit back and watch her and another woman, if she wasn’t comfortable with me touch another woman. She finally opened up and admitted she would like to experience an mfm threesome and she is not against a fmf threesome . If she knows your fantasies she will be more willing to share hers. You also want to make sure she is included in all you fantasies you tell her .

You might try watching porn together and see how she reacts to threesome or moresomes. Ask her if she would like to be the women with the two guys.

You could tell her you stumbled across this site and you find it very interesting and that swingers seem to be very normal people (not freaks as society tries to portray).

A couple of things you might want to keep in mind:
She needs to feel comfortable that you will not condemn her for her secret desires and that you are not going to run out and bring home someone or another couple without her being involved in the decision.

Take your time, it may take several years.
I found it was very enjoyable to watch my wife come out of her shell.
Watch out you may be shocked once she opens up .

Again we are not swingers (yet), so take it for what it’s worth.

Good luck.