Does my wife want MFM threesomes?

RkeVaCpl · 01-17-2005, 03:17 PM

Would love to invite another male into our bedroom for some MFM fun..We have been in the swinging lifestyle for several years (couple/couple)..I have always wanted her to be able to enjoy 2 men at a time..She gets so turned on watching x rated movies where women have multiple men partners..One of her fantasies is to do a DP.. When I ask her about having another man join us, she is always reluctant..Should I press the issue or plan a surprise?..I need some advice, especially from couples who have encountered the same issues..

hotokiecpl · 01-17-2005, 03:24 PM

so far we have only had the mfm and it was good,( i liked to watch him enter her as she sucked me) we did not do a DP and maybe sum day we will, My wife was up for it so i dont know for sure how you should approach it. but you might try chattin to a dude and have her with you, maybe do a lil cam, the problem will be to find a single male that you know is not married and respectful, as most ( not all by a long shot) seem not to care what the 2 of you think but there are some very nice guys out there you just have to take the time to look or you can always attend a "party" and work it out
Good luck and good hunting

RkeVaCpl · 01-17-2005, 03:33 PM

Thanks guys, appreciate you're input..I am sure she will love it, once we actually do it.....Thanks again....

DnHtxCPL · 01-17-2005, 06:49 PM

But I wouldn't suggest "Springin" it on her. It's best to be up front and talk to her about it. She might get really upset at ya. Don't want that.

DnH

curiousagain · 01-17-2005, 06:53 PM

My advice, don't "spring it on her".

The MFM is probably the most common fantasy among women with most only not doing it because they would "feel slutty". She needs to know that you would not have any negative feelings about it. It is absolutly imperative that she is sure of your backing/support in this and you will never throw it back up to her in an argument or get jealous about it.

You need to make sure it is somebody experienced in the lifestyle and patient about moving at her pace and is respectful of both of you and your relationship and is willing to call the whole thing off at the last minute as that may very well be what happens.

Good luck to you both.

01-17-2005, 07:49 PM

Springing it on her would be a bad idea.

We personaly LOVE MFM's but I left it up to Mrs naughty to let me know when she was ready.

They are simply amazing to me.

To see such a beautiful woman given so much pleasure and how hot it makes her sends me through the roof!!!!

Just keep letting let her know how hot it would make you to see her with another man, but becareful of overkill.

When she is ready she will let you know.

ALilOEverything · 01-17-2005, 07:52 PM

Have you talked her why she's reluctant? Maybe some of her concerns might be addressed on the boards here and would set her mind at ease. Do a search for DP on the boards and have her read through the posts.

**TNT** · 01-17-2005, 08:14 PM

Definitely don't surprise her.

You need to talk to her and find out why she doesn't want to try a MFM. I agree with curiousagain, it could be that she may feel that being with more than one man without another woman in the room would make her feel slutty, of course, it just might not be her thing.

If one of her fantasies is for a DP, your could also talk to the couples you play with and see if they might be interested in helping you both out with this. Numerous couples will have threesomes within their foursomes and it works out great for them.

Teresa

GorAndLor · 01-18-2005, 04:34 AM

We have done our fair share of MMF 3 ways inculeding a DP's but only 1 that was sprung on her, but she was 1 of the few that went for it with no problem. Let her handle how it goes I have teeth mark scars on my cock from a few ladys that couldn't handle the way it was done. Flip a coin to see what guy goes first while the other kisses caresses and fondles her body, if done right 1 guy cums & the other is up & ready to take his place

RkeVaCpl · 01-18-2005, 06:37 AM

Very good points...Really appreciate all of the info.. Thanks so much..

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-19-2005, 02:18 PM

I have to wonder if it's just the idea of it being a single guy that is bothering her. Why not talk to her about setting upa fantasy night with one of the couples that you play with, wherin the male half of the couple could help you fulfill her DP fantasy.

shycouple89801 · 01-21-2005, 11:11 AM

We'll have to agree with most and say not to spring it on her. Talk, talk, talk and then talk some more.
Choose your "friend" as to get someone who will play well with you and respect you both.

Good Luck
Shycouple

scoobyandme · 01-23-2005, 02:18 PM

With our first mfm fresh in my mind i can tell you that finding the "right" guy will be hard. What you think is the perfect guy may not be right for her. I would suggest looking at a few swingers sites and checking some single guys out. We met with a few guys before we picked the right guy. She will not be comfortable with a guy she doesn't click with. So your springing it on her idea won't work. Communication about this will go a long way. Maybe you want this alot more than she does and maybe she just wants to keep the fantasy alive in her head and not live it. Either way it will be "her" choice and not yours. Good luck!

HotMoCpl · 01-23-2005, 02:51 PM

Talk to her about it and if she agrees, tell her you want to pick the day so it will be something of a surprise for her. Good luck.

Cheers.

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01-17-2005, 03:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
RkeVaCpl Registered Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:vacpl42	Does my wife want MFM threesomes? Would love to invite another male into our bedroom for some MFM fun..We have been in the swinging lifestyle for several years (couple/couple)..I have always wanted her to be able to enjoy 2 men at a time..She gets so turned on watching x rated movies where women have multiple men partners..One of her fantasies is to do a DP.. When I ask her about having another man join us, she is always reluctant..Should I press the issue or plan a surprise?..I need some advice, especially from couples who have encountered the same issues..

01-17-2005, 03:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
hotokiecpl Active Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 9 Location: Tulsa Okla. Status: couple	Re: MFM 3sums so far we have only had the mfm and it was good,( i liked to watch him enter her as she sucked me) we did not do a DP and maybe sum day we will, My wife was up for it so i dont know for sure how you should approach it. but you might try chattin to a dude and have her with you, maybe do a lil cam, the problem will be to find a single male that you know is not married and respectful, as most ( not all by a long shot) seem not to care what the 2 of you think but there are some very nice guys out there you just have to take the time to look or you can always attend a "party" and work it out Good luck and good hunting __________________ have a Great Lay eeeerrr Day Randy & Jackie

01-17-2005, 03:33 PM	#3 (permalink)
RkeVaCpl Registered Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:vacpl42	Re: MFM 3sums Thanks guys, appreciate you're input..I am sure she will love it, once we actually do it.....Thanks again....

01-17-2005, 06:49 PM	#4 (permalink)
DnHtxCPL Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 49 Location: D/FW Texas Status: married couple SLS Name:ngtytxcpl	Re: MFM 3sums But I wouldn't suggest "Springin" it on her. It's best to be up front and talk to her about it. She might get really upset at ya. Don't want that. DnH __________________ "When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities."

01-17-2005, 06:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
curiousagain A gentleman never tells Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 2,085 Location: Tennessee Status: Single Male	Re: MFM 3sums My advice, don't "spring it on her". The MFM is probably the most common fantasy among women with most only not doing it because they would "feel slutty". She needs to know that you would not have any negative feelings about it. It is absolutly imperative that she is sure of your backing/support in this and you will never throw it back up to her in an argument or get jealous about it. You need to make sure it is somebody experienced in the lifestyle and patient about moving at her pace and is respectful of both of you and your relationship and is willing to call the whole thing off at the last minute as that may very well be what happens. Good luck to you both. __________________ "I never want to be the fat elvis." Jon Bon Jovi

01-17-2005, 07:49 PM	#6 (permalink)
Mr&Mrs-naughty Posts: n/a	Re: MFM 3sums Springing it on her would be a bad idea. We personaly LOVE MFM's but I left it up to Mrs naughty to let me know when she was ready. They are simply amazing to me. To see such a beautiful woman given so much pleasure and how hot it makes her sends me through the roof!!!! Just keep letting let her know how hot it would make you to see her with another man, but becareful of overkill. When she is ready she will let you know.

01-17-2005, 07:52 PM	#7 (permalink)
ALilOEverything A Little Of Everything Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 1,472 Location: Michigan Status: Couple	Re: MFM 3sums Have you talked her why she's reluctant? Maybe some of her concerns might be addressed on the boards here and would set her mind at ease. Do a search for DP on the boards and have her read through the posts. __________________ ~Lilo

01-17-2005, 08:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 4,075 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple SLS Name:tblonde312 Blog Entries: 29	Re: MFM 3sums Definitely don't surprise her. You need to talk to her and find out why she doesn't want to try a MFM. I agree with curiousagain, it could be that she may feel that being with more than one man without another woman in the room would make her feel slutty, of course, it just might not be her thing. If one of her fantasies is for a DP, your could also talk to the couples you play with and see if they might be interested in helping you both out with this. Numerous couples will have threesomes within their foursomes and it works out great for them. Teresa __________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

01-18-2005, 04:34 AM	#9 (permalink)
GorAndLor Active Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 10 Location: Northern California Status: WMC SLS Name:GorAndLor	Re: MFM 3sums We have done our fair share of MMF 3 ways inculeding a DP's but only 1 that was sprung on her, but she was 1 of the few that went for it with no problem. Let her handle how it goes I have teeth mark scars on my cock from a few ladys that couldn't handle the way it was done. Flip a coin to see what guy goes first while the other kisses caresses and fondles her body, if done right 1 guy cums & the other is up & ready to take his place

01-18-2005, 06:37 AM	#10 (permalink)
RkeVaCpl Registered Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:vacpl42	Re: MFM 3sums Very good points...Really appreciate all of the info.. Thanks so much..

01-19-2005, 02:18 PM	#11 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 21,494 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 53	Re: MFM 3sums I have to wonder if it's just the idea of it being a single guy that is bothering her. Why not talk to her about setting upa fantasy night with one of the couples that you play with, wherin the male half of the couple could help you fulfill her DP fantasy.

01-21-2005, 11:11 AM	#12 (permalink)
shycouple89801 Active Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 10 Location: Elko Area, NV SLS Name:Coolnsexything	Re: MFM 3sums We'll have to agree with most and say not to spring it on her. Talk, talk, talk and then talk some more. Choose your "friend" as to get someone who will play well with you and respect you both. Good Luck Shycouple

01-23-2005, 02:18 PM	#13 (permalink)
scoobyandme Active Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 12 Location: Kansas City Status: couple SLS Name:scoobyandme	Re: MFM 3sums With our first mfm fresh in my mind i can tell you that finding the "right" guy will be hard. What you think is the perfect guy may not be right for her. I would suggest looking at a few swingers sites and checking some single guys out. We met with a few guys before we picked the right guy. She will not be comfortable with a guy she doesn't click with. So your springing it on her idea won't work. Communication about this will go a long way. Maybe you want this alot more than she does and maybe she just wants to keep the fantasy alive in her head and not live it. Either way it will be "her" choice and not yours. Good luck!

01-23-2005, 02:51 PM	#14 (permalink)
HotMoCpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 394 Location: Missouri Status: Married Couple SLS Name:HotMo	Re: MFM 3sums Talk to her about it and if she agrees, tell her you want to pick the day so it will be something of a surprise for her. Good luck. Cheers. __________________ "Heros go to heaven, survivors go home."- Some damn ol' gunt.

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