Long story short -was active in lifestyle for 7 yrs. - semi active last 4. Said would be ok - for me as long as no relationships and I tell her. She says its ok based on last time she partied outside (with a lifestyle member) over 6 yrs. ago because then we would be even! But she would not tell me if she did!?! Wondering if her NEW (non-sexual she says) relationship is actually the impetus for this and is her way of telling me that she wants an open marriage- WITHOUT setting ground rules and then she can do what she wants without impunity! She broke all the ground rules we ever set anyway! All comments welcome! Thanks!