A little too open....

[JustAskJulie]

I was talking to some friends the other day that work at a retail store in the mall and they mentioned a couple that they avoid whenever they come in because they invariably hit on whoever helps them.

Evidently the male half had hit on the one female that works at the store and on another occasion the female half of the couple had come in and made a comment to one of the male employees that her hubby was going to kill her for spending so much (from what the guy said this couple regularly spent that much in the store if not more so) he laughed it off and said he doubted it.

She responded that her hubby would rather her bring home another girl than spend that much. He again laughed and said he doubted it. Her response was "no really, don't you know we have an open relationship?". He of course replied that he didn't know. She followed it up by giving him her cell number and inviting him to call her for some fun.

All of this while her 4 kids were standing behind her.

I'm thinking this lands in the category of just a little too open. Or is this what folks are shooting for when they say that swingers should come out of the closet?

[windsor4fun2]

To me it sounds like they are totally classless. Being open is one thing, but to try and pick up someone with their kids standing there is way out of line.

Jesse

[Chicup]

Classless is a good word for it.

The 'Open' or 'Swinging' aspect doesn't really make a difference here. A single person doing the same thing would be just as over the top. Picture a single mom with 4 kids with her asking a guy in a store if he wants to play with her and it doesn't get any better then the original story

[TNT]

With her kids there? OMG!

I have joked around in public like that before, but it has been in a joking, teasing manner so as the person I was speaking to would never think I was serious. But, I have never said anything at all in front of my kids or when there were any kids around.

Teresa

[thump29]

First of all, she should of never done it around her kids, that is just plain out being distasteful and inappropriate behavior. I feel that is just being too open!

[gsu22]

Absolutely inappropriate

[wrnakedru]

Classless, crude, tacky trash!

Aside from the obvious tastelessness in behaving in such a manner in front of her own [or any other] children, two other thoughts zoomed through my head while reading this tale.

First: That these are two low-lifes who derive some sort of pleasure in sneak attacks on the unsuspecting and ill-armed.

Second: Those so obviously devoid of a sense of decorum must have so wide spread a reputation in the swinging community, they are having to attempt to "recruit" playmates elsewhere.

Unfortunately, folks like these are instrumental in perpetuating the publicly held view of how "disgusting" swingers are.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by wrnakedru

Unfortunately, folks like these are instrumental in perpetuating the publicly held view of how "disgusting" swingers are.

My original title for this topic was going to be "Giving Swingers a Bad Name".

[hmr]

Classless, low life who apparently has no self respect, or respect for others. To behave in that manner in front of children is irreprehensible. To approach people in that way is tacky and crass.

mrs. hmr

[OhioCouple]

I am with all the other respondents here. This is totally outrageous to me. While I'll admit to be more on the reserved side, I'd never, ever discuss the fact that we 'swing' in front of my children, nor would I try to 'pick up someone' in their presence. AND...my kids are all grown and have been having sex for years! There are some things that are not cool, and that is most definitely one of them.

And, Julie...most definitely this sort of thing is what DOES give swingers a bad name. It makes us seem like all swingers are nothing but street whores.

To address one other point here:

I was talking to some friends the other day that work at a retail store in the mall and they mentioned a couple that they avoid whenever they come in because they invariably hit on whoever helps them.

Having spent many years in management, I'd have been the first person sitting in the HR department demanding that those people be addressed for their behavior. Whether or not they had kids with them, would not be the issue for me. If the employees are avoiding them, then that means there is a REAL problem and their concerns need to be addressed, which in turns means the owners or GM of this store needs to address this couple. To not do so, invalidates the feelings of the employees. It is apparent that they aren't finding this humorous or just routine ribbing, and neither should the management. Have they talked to their management and let them know about this situation?

[2SHARE]

NOT real swingers in my book. Pretty sad when you have to prey (and that is what it is) on non lifestyle people because real swingers would NEVER EVER have you!

Reminds me of this couple we met a few years ago who had small kids. They would invite people over to their place, take all of em (including the kids) to a Chuckie Cheeze and ROTATE!! Ok now its your turn to go back to the house to fuck my hubby while I watch all the kids!! OMG we went running from them and never looked back.....


TASTELESS as I said.

Deb

[JustAskJulie]

Originally posted by OhioCouple
Have they talked to their management and let them know about this situation?

The couple in question are regular customers not other employees, so I doubt there's much anyone could do short of asking them not to return to the store, but from I understand they spend a good deal in the store on a regular basis so no one wants to lose that. As far as management knowing, my friends are the management at that store so that's not an issue.

[Brit_Pair]

Opinion?



'nuff said.

[pa_chip]

Open? No. Classless? Yes!!!

Around MY kids??? Unthinkable!!!

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie
The couple in question are regular customers not other employees, so I doubt there's much anyone could do short of asking them not to return to the store, but from I understand they spend a good deal in the store on a regular basis so no one wants to lose that. As far as management knowing, my friends are the management at that store so that's not an issue.

The presence of the children in this situation is abhorrent and could possibly border on an abusive type of situation. But who knows? Maybe they really are that "open" with their kids. I suppose much of it would have to do with the kids ages, being within ear shot, etc. Regardless...I personally believe that adults are accountable for shielding their kids from certain aspects of their personal and private lives no matter the age. I'm 54 years old, and really do NOT want to hear details of my parents sex lives. I certainly didn't when I was a kiddo!

But for me, it goes beyond just the aspect of the kids because this also involves the management of this company.

This is one of the problems that I see in so many aspects of everyday existence. When did we become a society that will allow rude and obnoxious and overbearing and unwanted behaviors to control our lives - all for the sake of the dollar? I don't know...for me, the behaviors of the couple are really offensive. However, management that would tolerate such offensiveness is even more offensive to me. At the minimum they should allow their employees to say to this couple, "I don't find your remarks amusing and/or appropriate, and particularly with your children present. Please refrain in the future." Or something similar. If they chose to take their inappropriate behaviors elsewhere...so be it. Good riddance....my opinions.
- EBF