For discretion, do you travel?

[Honey_Tampa]

Mr. Honey and I have high-profile careers with companies with thousands of employees. We also have a good number of friends in town...NONE of which know about our ..ummm..."other" life. Because of all that, we feel pretty skittish about going to local swing clubs, on/off-premise clubs and parties. We have driven all the way to Georgia to eliminate being spotted. My sexual play preferences aren't really what I care to discuss at the water cooler

How do you feel about being spotted? Are you skittish too? Or do you take the position of "Hey, yeah, you saw me at a swing club but .. guess what .. I saw YOU at a swing club. Touche!" position? Or some level of nail-biting inbetween?

[good times]

This is something we worried about at first but finally decided we would go to the local clubs and take our chances. As regular local club attendees we have seen politicians, local celeberaties and yes even people we know but didn't know they were swingers. What we have found is that swingers tend to be very discrete and haven't had any problems with being outed nor have we heard of anybody having those problems locally.

[Dynamar]

It doesn't take long, really, to figure out "who's who" among local swingers. And as Mrs. GT mentions people are, for the most part, discreet. However, being single in a small town... one can only have so many "first dates" at the local Applebees before the bartender starts giving you knowing sideways glances. I figured out early on that a good mix of having playmates come to me, and me going to them only makes good sense.

[TNT]

In the beginning we traveled quite a bit...not because we were overly concerned about discretion, but mainly because there just wasn't any place to go around here.

Now, there are enough socials that go on near by, that we could go out to a different one every weekend .

Originally Posted by Honey_Tampa

"Hey, yeah, you saw me at a swing club but .. guess what .. I saw YOU at a swing club. Touche!"

That pretty much sums up the way we look at it.

Teresa

[Spoomonkey]

We have always had a great time when we travel, but we only started doing so after we were involved in the lifestyle. It didn't make any "fiscal" sense for us to travel when we started, so for us, we had to risk it.

Now that we can afford it, traveling is great! We've found that for some odd reason the people we get along with the most live long distances away :rollseyes

Spoomonkey

[VegasLee]

Something to remember if you meet someone you know at a swing party.

They are there, you are there and you all are there for the same thing.

What are they going to do? Tell everyone they saw you there? They are going to have to explain WHY they where there also. Most are not going to do that.

If you where with 1000's then I can promise you that you are not the only swingers working there.

Good luck, have fun and keep it simple.

We've found that for some odd reason the people we get along with the most live long distances away

Like Mother In Laws?

[WesternSwing]

We have no problem staying local. We're not in any public position such as office, or a government job, so it's not that big a deal. We've seen business associates at swingers parties, old coworkers, even our middle daughter's kindergarten best friend's mom. Like Lee said, we're all there for the same reason.

Mr. WS

[meandher2go]

always play when we travel but mostly stay local.

[MrXxotic]

We mostly stay local but do travel to play sometimes. After over 7 years we have learned that distance doesn't mean anonymity. We have bumped into people we know in places as far away as Panama City and New Orleans. If you can drive there so can someone else you know. Heck, the new girl in Angel's office is someone we met but didn't pay with at Hedo II 6 years ago.

[sexyshelby]

Having travelled alot and lived around the world, I've never been on a trip and not run into to someone that I knew. So for me, it wouldn't make sense to travel to try to be discreet. I'd probably have better luck being discreet at home.

But I wouldn't worry about it. Like everyone else has had, they can't "out you" without being outed themselves. So just relax and have fun. You may run into someone you know, but don't worry about it.

~SS

[playmatesinpgh]

When we first started out we were very concerned about running into people we knew but that concern dissappeared after a while. Like some of the others have stated, we found that swingers tend to keep quite about their swing activities with people outside the lifestyle so the need to travel for discretion sake went away. We never really worried about running into people we knew at swing functions because, if we did, so what??? They would be swingers too... We now stay mostly local because we have a great group that is within a 30 mile radius. We do still travel when we want to meet or play with a couple that is further away but that has become the exception, not the rule.

[debrayork]

We travel mostly, but not because we have to, we just met a few nice couples that happen to live a bit away.And with the internet there is really no such thing as trying to hide from people you know.

[jcbicouple]

Originally Posted by sexyshelby

But I wouldn't worry about it. Like everyone else has had, they can't "out you" without being outed themselves. So just relax and have fun. You may run into someone you know, but don't worry about it.

~SS

That doesn't always work. We both work for large companies, and have hundreds of employees that report either directly or indirectly to us. Most of them know us, but there are many that we may or may not recognize. An innocent, or not so innocent slip of the tongue by one of them could cost us our careers, (morals clause) but have little to no effect on them. We've heard all of the arguments.....it's not the companies business, I wouldn't work at a place that would fire me for my personal life, etc. We both enjoy what we do, love the companies we work for, and are paid extremely well. A little extra effort to avoid being outed is worth it.

[Doug19482000]

We travel to keep from being outed. Our biggest concern right now is knowing a couple that haven't been together long and we really don't think will stay together. He nugged her into the lifestyle. What happens when they seperate and she decides to confess all. My sister in and she are best friends. We met them at a club 200 hundred miles from home. Didn't know them but when they told us they were from My brothers town it all came together in a short time. Oh well.

[Honey_Tampa]

Originally Posted by VegasLee

If you where with 1000's then I can promise you that you are not the only swingers working there.

Okay .. I admit ... when I was in the elevator today, I was eyeing everyone in there suspiciously. Is he a swinger? Or her? ohhh Maybe HIM!

I laughed through four elevator rides today thankyouverymuch