Remembering to be discreet in non-swinger groups

**TNT** · 12-17-2001, 09:58 PM

This past weekend my husband and I attended his annual company Christmas party. After the offical party, a group of us went to a local bar/dance club. While there, hubby and I found it increasingly difficult to remember that we were NOT at a social or swingers club. It had been years since we had been "out on the town" with people who were not in the lifestyle and we seem to have forgotten how to act around "normal" people, lol. We would be dancing and would have to remember not to let our hands wander to places they should not go in a public place, or sitting at the table and talking and have to bite our tongues to keep from saying things we should not say. You know, all those things that are quite acceptable at a social/swingers club. To make it worse, out of the four couples and one single male we were with, all were very attractive and would have been great fun to have really partied with (if you know what I mean, lol). Ted and I were constantly looking at each other throughout the night and busting out laughing because we each knew exactly what the other was thinking.

So the question is...Does anyone else have the mildly amusing problem of remembering, in a social situation with non-swingers, that not everyone is in the wonderful world of swinging and that you should act accordingly around them?

Teresa

[ 12-17-2001: Message edited by: TNT ]

***JustAskJulie*** · 12-17-2001, 10:14 PM

Almost always. Most of our friends and even some of our family know about our lifestyle and what I do for a living. But when we are around those that don't it does gets very difficult. Leaves little to talk about unless you start making things up.

danc694u · 12-17-2001, 10:46 PM

We catch ourselves like this sometimes. It gets even more amusing when you make an off-hand remark. And we're the only ones that get it.

Most of our "straight" friends have learned not to bring up sex with us present. LOL

walrus0115 · 12-17-2001, 10:58 PM

Yea, we just got back from Hedo II two weeks ago. When in our local pub last weekend we had mucho trouble censoring ourselves after a full fledged week of debauchery. We had a few friends actually tell us to calm ourselves for fear of us just stripping down and going at it right there.

We even made up a new code word. Well, we have our regular code words for when a situation is going to far or too fast (rarely used). So last weekend we made a new code word for when the company is just utterly boring and too prudish.

Stratecpl · 12-18-2001, 07:18 AM

LOL...YES! I have that problem often at the gym especially. When a hunky guy is next to me on a machine or something..it's very hard for me to NOT come on to him like I would a man at a party or social...LOL Ron has this one guy who worksout with him sometimes and the last few days this guy who is single, has been complaining about "Not getting any" for a long time...haha Ron has to bite his lip constantly to keep from blurting out.."Well hell come on home with me and Connie'll fix you right up! LOL

Connie

**TNT** · 12-19-2001, 08:40 AM

Thanks for the feedback all, I can cancel our therapy session now, LOL. Don't you just love this board and the lifestyle?

Teresa

jimcat · 12-19-2001, 04:17 PM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by TNT:
hubby and I found it increasingly difficult to remember that we were NOT at a social or swingers club.

TNT
My wife and I had a similiar situation at a Christmas party with non-swingers this weekend.I actually get somewhat bored that we can't get "crazy" as we do at the local swingers club.A conversation started on "most unusual place for sex" . I wasn't about to say "in front of 50 people in a group room".Each couple thought their story was wild- if only they knew!
Jimcat

danc694u · 12-19-2001, 05:36 PM

[quote]Originally posted by jimcat:

Quote:

A conversation started on "most unusual place for sex" . I wasn't about to say "in front of 50 people in a group room".

LMAO... That's why our non-swinging friends never ask to play "Truth or Dare" with us present. They thought it would be cool as hell, the first time :p

The games loses all its fun, when you put swingers with non-swingers. But now that we've converted some of them, it might be better now.

youngswingers · 12-20-2001, 10:37 AM

At our favorite local off-premises club Jello shots provide a fun opportunity to lick or be licked. Damned if Pavlov wasn't a genious, because when someone brought out jello shots at a recent non-swinging party we got a little crazy.

stucazzu · 01-03-2002, 08:59 PM

I don't want to seem naive but how will jello shots contribute to licking and being licked. My wife and I were in a dance bar recently and they offered jello shots. It was the first time and we thought it strange. Please tell us. The other people's behavior did not indicate anything different from our behavior. Please give us the low-down.

youngswingers · 01-04-2002, 12:31 AM

At this particular off-premises club jello shots mean ladies getting on the bar and having jello licked off of their breasts. You can imagine that this is a great ice breaker and prelude for fun!

SnittyKitty · 01-05-2002, 02:38 AM

Let me tell you what's fun: To talk about the lifestyle in such a way, you're telling the truth, but nobody believes for a second the stories they think you're making up!

We've become really good friends with one couple, and we can talk about anything with them, and I love that aspect of this, but wow, what an adjustment you have to make when you're socializing with your everyday friends.

We'd kill to tell her sister & her husband what we do, just to witness the shock, that priceless look on their face. They have told us a zillion times, we don't fit the swinging lifestyle, and it isn't us!

And oh how many times can we tell those stories about couples who swear up and down we're a pair of old prudes!

**Alura** · 01-05-2002, 08:35 AM

Several years ago, while resting from the first round with a playful couple we'd just met, I learned that he happened to be the cousin of my snooty, prudish bitch of a supervisor at work.

The temptation to go up to her and say, "Hey, Patty Jo, I fucked your cousin's brains out last night! And my husband's magic tongue had his wife climbing the walls!" was almost irresistable.

The feeling, "I know something you don't know, Hee, Hee, Hee!" adds a lot to the intigue of intermarital sex, doesn't it?

Smiles,
Wife of Alura

***JustAskJulie*** · 12-31-2002, 10:10 AM

Thought this might be a fun topic to bump back up and see if anyone has any interesting/funny stories of times they have forgotten whos presence they were in and said something that perhaps wasn't quite appropriate considering the company.

OhioCouple · 04-27-2003, 05:10 PM

I have to share this.

Yesterday we attended a wedding of one of my husbands life long friend daughter. There were approximately 250 in attendance from all around the country, of which we knew about a dozen of them. Of course we all got a little tipsy at the reception which ended at 10:30.

We were invited to go to a hospitality room hosted by Gene's friend of which we did attend as did many others that we did not know. Most everyone went and changed into more comfortable clothing before attending. Two of the women (probably 60 maybe even 70 for one of them ) decided to get real comfortable and came in their "sleeping attire" . The ladies feeling somewhat embarassed were joking that they thought it was a pajama party and wonder where everyone else's night clothes were. My husband not thinking speaks up and says "Our evening attire doesn't require a pajama party, we usually just get naked." OMGoodness, I thought I was going to "FAINT" !!! His comment brought out a huge amount of laughter. A laughter that carried on through the brunch this morning in which people were constantly asking us where our pajama parties are.

I'm laughing now, but I wasn't at the time and my hubby is thoroughly embarrassed. Never let a man have three scotch and sodas in a mainstream environment if he is a swinger, another lesson learned....

Lori

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12-17-2001, 09:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Remembering to be discreet in non-swinger groups This past weekend my husband and I attended his annual company Christmas party. After the offical party, a group of us went to a local bar/dance club. While there, hubby and I found it increasingly difficult to remember that we were NOT at a social or swingers club. It had been years since we had been "out on the town" with people who were not in the lifestyle and we seem to have forgotten how to act around "normal" people, lol. We would be dancing and would have to remember not to let our hands wander to places they should not go in a public place, or sitting at the table and talking and have to bite our tongues to keep from saying things we should not say. You know, all those things that are quite acceptable at a social/swingers club. To make it worse, out of the four couples and one single male we were with, all were very attractive and would have been great fun to have really partied with (if you know what I mean, lol). Ted and I were constantly looking at each other throughout the night and busting out laughing because we each knew exactly what the other was thinking. So the question is...Does anyone else have the mildly amusing problem of remembering, in a social situation with non-swingers, that not everyone is in the wonderful world of swinging and that you should act accordingly around them? Teresa [ 12-17-2001: Message edited by: TNT ]
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

12-17-2001, 10:14 PM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,287 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Almost always. Most of our friends and even some of our family know about our lifestyle and what I do for a living. But when we are around those that don't it does gets very difficult. Leaves little to talk about unless you start making things up.
	__________________ Julie - your hostess The Swinger Manual - all the info from the Swingers Board in one convenient book

12-17-2001, 10:46 PM	#3 (permalink)
danc694u Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 546 Location: Birmingham, AL Status: couple	We catch ourselves like this sometimes. It gets even more amusing when you make an off-hand remark. And we're the only ones that get it. Most of our "straight" friends have learned not to bring up sex with us present. LOL
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12-17-2001, 10:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
walrus0115 Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 133 Location: Athens, OH Status: Couple	Yea, we just got back from Hedo II two weeks ago. When in our local pub last weekend we had mucho trouble censoring ourselves after a full fledged week of debauchery. We had a few friends actually tell us to calm ourselves for fear of us just stripping down and going at it right there. We even made up a new code word. Well, we have our regular code words for when a situation is going to far or too fast (rarely used). So last weekend we made a new code word for when the company is just utterly boring and too prudish.
	__________________ Irie Mon

12-18-2001, 07:18 AM	#5 (permalink)
Stratecpl Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2000 Posts: 456 Location: TN, USA	LOL...YES! I have that problem often at the gym especially. When a hunky guy is next to me on a machine or something..it's very hard for me to NOT come on to him like I would a man at a party or social...LOL Ron has this one guy who worksout with him sometimes and the last few days this guy who is single, has been complaining about "Not getting any" for a long time...haha Ron has to bite his lip constantly to keep from blurting out.."Well hell come on home with me and Connie'll fix you right up! LOL Connie
	__________________ "Well behaved women rarely make history"

12-19-2001, 08:40 AM	#6 (permalink)
TNT Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 5,003 Location: baker, fl, usa Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:tblonde312	Thanks for the feedback all, I can cancel our therapy session now, LOL. Don't you just love this board and the lifestyle? Teresa
	__________________ Ted and Teresa No lifetime is enough unless you live it in such a way as to make it enough.

12-19-2001, 04:17 PM	#7 (permalink)
jimcat Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 41	[QUOTE]Originally posted by TNT: hubby and I found it increasingly difficult to remember that we were NOT at a social or swingers club. TNT My wife and I had a similiar situation at a Christmas party with non-swingers this weekend.I actually get somewhat bored that we can't get "crazy" as we do at the local swingers club.A conversation started on "most unusual place for sex" . I wasn't about to say "in front of 50 people in a group room".Each couple thought their story was wild- if only they knew! Jimcat
jimcat Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 41

12-20-2001, 10:37 AM	#9 (permalink)
youngswingers Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2001 Posts: 98 Location: Austin, TX	At our favorite local off-premises club Jello shots provide a fun opportunity to lick or be licked. Damned if Pavlov wasn't a genious, because when someone brought out jello shots at a recent non-swinging party we got a little crazy.

01-03-2002, 08:59 PM	#10 (permalink)
stucazzu Here to Stay Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 10 Location: South Suburbs/Chicago, IL,USA	I don't want to seem naive but how will jello shots contribute to licking and being licked. My wife and I were in a dance bar recently and they offered jello shots. It was the first time and we thought it strange. Please tell us. The other people's behavior did not indicate anything different from our behavior. Please give us the low-down.

01-04-2002, 12:31 AM	#11 (permalink)
youngswingers Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2001 Posts: 98 Location: Austin, TX	At this particular off-premises club jello shots mean ladies getting on the bar and having jello licked off of their breasts. You can imagine that this is a great ice breaker and prelude for fun!

01-05-2002, 02:38 AM	#12 (permalink)
SnittyKitty Active Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 26 Location: Opelika, AL	Let me tell you what's fun: To talk about the lifestyle in such a way, you're telling the truth, but nobody believes for a second the stories they think you're making up! We've become really good friends with one couple, and we can talk about anything with them, and I love that aspect of this, but wow, what an adjustment you have to make when you're socializing with your everyday friends. We'd kill to tell her sister & her husband what we do, just to witness the shock, that priceless look on their face. They have told us a zillion times, we don't fit the swinging lifestyle, and it isn't us! And oh how many times can we tell those stories about couples who swear up and down we're a pair of old prudes!
	__________________ SnittyKitty

01-05-2002, 08:35 AM	#13 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,135 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Several years ago, while resting from the first round with a playful couple we'd just met, I learned that he happened to be the cousin of my snooty, prudish bitch of a supervisor at work. The temptation to go up to her and say, "Hey, Patty Jo, I fucked your cousin's brains out last night! And my husband's magic tongue had his wife climbing the walls!" was almost irresistable. The feeling, "I know something you don't know, Hee, Hee, Hee!" adds a lot to the intigue of intermarital sex, doesn't it? Smiles, Wife of Alura
	__________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

12-31-2002, 10:10 AM	#14 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,287 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Thought this might be a fun topic to bump back up and see if anyone has any interesting/funny stories of times they have forgotten whos presence they were in and said something that perhaps wasn't quite appropriate considering the company.
	__________________ Julie - your hostess The Swinger Manual - all the info from the Swingers Board in one convenient book

04-27-2003, 05:10 PM	#15 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,619 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	I have to share this. Yesterday we attended a wedding of one of my husbands life long friend daughter. There were approximately 250 in attendance from all around the country, of which we knew about a dozen of them. Of course we all got a little tipsy at the reception which ended at 10:30. We were invited to go to a hospitality room hosted by Gene's friend of which we did attend as did many others that we did not know. Most everyone went and changed into more comfortable clothing before attending. Two of the women (probably 60 maybe even 70 for one of them ) decided to get real comfortable and came in their "sleeping attire" . The ladies feeling somewhat embarassed were joking that they thought it was a pajama party and wonder where everyone else's night clothes were. My husband not thinking speaks up and says "Our evening attire doesn't require a pajama party, we usually just get naked." OMGoodness, I thought I was going to "FAINT" !!! His comment brought out a huge amount of laughter. A laughter that carried on through the brunch this morning in which people were constantly asking us where our pajama parties are. I'm laughing now, but I wasn't at the time and my hubby is thoroughly embarrassed. Never let a man have three scotch and sodas in a mainstream environment if he is a swinger, another lesson learned.... Lori
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