Wall Street Journal Article About Meeting Couples...

[LagniappeDC]

Wall Street Journal just ran a piece entitled "When Four Play the Dating Game"

Couples Dating: Frustrations of Finding a Good Match - WSJ.com

It's actually about vanilla couple's dating, but we found so much of it true for the lifestyle and how hard it can be to find a good match!

Did get a laugh out of this line:

Sure, there are ways for the date to go wrong. Some are big: jealousy, extramarital attraction, the discovery that you're on a date with real, live swingers

[exploringRM]

Wow, agreed that it really rings true in the swinging world as well. And even when not trying to find long term friends, so many things that can make or break an encounter.

[The Fuse]

I saw this article in yesterday's WSJ and was really taken with how much it sounded like swingers dating, at least when it came to the things that derail a social connection and how difficult it is to find a four-way match. I immediately sent it to some lifestyle friends with the same line pulled out as LagniappeDC.

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by LagniappeDC

Sure, there are ways for the date to go wrong. Some are big: jealousy, extramarital attraction, the discovery that you're on a date with real, live swingers

Why would real live swingers even bother with this? It's hard enough to find compatible couples in the swinging would without meeting up with couples in the vanilla world trying to recruit them. Maybe that's part of the thrill?

I think the only difference is that these people are looking for friends, we're just adding benefits to it.

[ncmd_couple]

Lilo,

I think that most of us play the "who are the swingers in the room" game when we are at vanilla venues. An amusing game in which we have actually discovered other swingers by paying attention to our Playdar. Not every swinger in your area is using the internet, quite often they play with limited playmates that they met one way or the other in the past and might not even realize that there many of us out there.

S

[ratimadan]

Originally Posted by LagniappeDC

Wall Street Journal just ran a piece entitled "When Four Play the Dating Game"
Couples Dating: Frustrations of Finding a Good Match - WSJ.com

How true!. This article could just have been intended for swinger couples (and perhaps it is, in disguise) like us, who are having a date with another couple to find out whether or not they are a good match to play with, socially and sexually, in the privacy of one's own home, and, then swap mates for sensuous/sexually oriented activities that could lead to sexual intercourse with the other couple's mate.

When you see an article like this in a major financial newspaper, it may be indicative that swinging or recreational sex is gaining acceptance as a widely prevalent socio/sexual phenomenon.

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by ncmd_couple

Not every swinger in your area is using the internet, quite often they play with limited playmates that they met one way or the other in the past and might not even realize that there many of us out there.

I should have pointed out hey refered to a website for vanilla couples meeting vanilla couples, it just seems that if they are running into swingers by using this site it surprises me. It seems like it would take less effort to find swinger add sites than to find couples seeking other couples for friendship only websites. Several years ago before Swing Lifestyle ever existed I searched to meet friends with benefits and the first thing I did was try to find a website to cater to that. The second time I tried AFF was the first to come up in a search and then found Swing Lifestyle through these forums. I do suppose swingers could use it for a couple different purposes, either they get off in recruiting people from the vanilla world, or they don't identify as a swinger but yet has that swinger mindset.

[ALilOEverything]

I just went to the website it mentioned in the article and it says in bold Not A Swingers Site right below the join button.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

I just went to the website it mentioned in the article and it says in bold Not A Swingers Site right below the join button.

Kinda like how casino sites say 'THIS IS NOT A GAMBLING SITE' perhaps

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Kinda like how casino sites say 'THIS IS NOT A GAMBLING SITE' perhaps

I've never been to a casino site so now I'll have to check that out too! I'll tell you, I really live under a rock

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

I've never been to a casino site so now I'll have to check that out too! I'll tell you, I really live under a rock

Its a thing they do to advertise on the radio. They have a .net and a .com, they say .net on the radio and will have a disclaimer about not being a gambling site. Obviously the real site is the .com.

[sahajacpl]

Originally Posted by LagniappeDC

Wall Street Journal just ran a piece entitled "When Four Play the Dating Game"
Frustrations of Finding a Good Match - WSJ.com[/url]
It's are big: jealousy, extramarital attraction, the discovery that you're on a date with real, live swingers

It is hard to believe that one can get so nervous about meeting and making friendship with another (supposedly) vanilla couple.

What is described in the article sounds more likely to happen when you meet another playcouple for swinging activities. There is certainly nervousness about what the other couple's mate, male and female, thinks about you two. Here you and your mate are trying to size up the other couple for compatibility and physical attraction, since the goal is sexual play with the male/female of the other couple, that may include sexual intercourse, if one is shooting for full swap of mates. Does he find me (female) attractive, does she find me (male) attractive enough to play in the nude and open up her thighs and take my dick in her pussy and fuck? The answers to these questions are certainly something to get nervous about!

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by sahajacpl

It is hard to believe that one can get so nervous about meeting and making friendship with another (supposedly) vanilla couple.

What is described in the article sounds more likely to happen when you meet another playcouple for swinging activities. There is certainly nervousness about what the other couple's mate, male and female, thinks about you two. Here you and your mate are trying to size up the other couple for compatibility and physical attraction, since the goal is sexual play with the male/female of the other couple, that may include sexual intercourse, if one is shooting for full swap of mates. Does he find me (female) attractive, does she find me (male) attractive enough to play in the nude and open up her thighs and take my dick in her pussy and fuck? The answers to these questions are certainly something to get nervous about!

I'm assuming the couples doing the search want a long term/close friendship with another couple. Perhaps this is a side effect of the fact that people are so busy they want to fast track the path to friendship?

My feeling is if people want to make friends they should join a group (hiking, wine, dinner/foodie)...a group that does activities as well as social opportunities). Why make it such hard and stressful work?

Prior to swinging we had joined a few activity groups (on a meetup website) looking to make some new friends. Then we started swinging and discovered we can make new friends AND fuck them! lol

[realcplub2]

I AM SUEING!!!!! COPYWRITE INFRINGEMENT!!!

My blog was posted over a year ago, Aug 5th 2008 with this:

Remember the FUN everyone had when they were DATING.. Looking for that one person to spend the rest of their lives with?

The lifestyle, isn’t like that, while yes, there are people that DO that, they are often disappointed. The reason is simple, instead of trying to match one to one, you are trying to now match 4 people.. Perfection is a bitch to find with the number of personal preferences involved in that dynamic.

But finding the perfect match is hard. Look at it this way: You had to go on lots of dates when you were single just to find the one person who clicked. Imagine how many more it will take if four people are involved.

So, lets ask the unspoken question... Are they lifting stuff from HERE?!?!

[LagniappeDC]

I keep wondering what the webmasters over at WSJ think when they see the amount of referrals to the article that come from this site...hehe...maybe they'll do an article about us!