Ah, the perils of figuring out how to swing

[two4youinswva]

A swinger's dating life -The Voyager

Columnist's fiance details their dating life as swingers.
Looks like they fall for the usual online ad scams, get too drunk, and haven't figured out that when they're not interested in a couple, "No thanks" usually works fine.

Dating is a learning process where many things can and will go wrong. We are learning how to be swingers much like a young girl learns how to cope with the problems that arrive in “traditional” dating.

If only there were an online board where you could learn lots of valuable lessons about said lifestyle.........

[TNT]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

If only there were an online board where you could learn lots of valuable lessons about said lifestyle.........

Yes, if only there were such a place

Seems someone suggested visiting here in one of the replies.


Teresa

[Speed & Trixie]

OMG is that woman serious?!?! They have "above-average partying skills" and their weakness is "getting too drunk and needing a place to stay?!" Um, you FAIL at partying! That is Partying 101: calling a cab/ getting your OWN hotel room if you're gonna get drunk.

They were "gold" because they're "a good-looking, young, fun couple" (ok so they anticipated interest). They accepted an invitation to play, were in the bedroom with condoms out, then suddenly felt "tricked?!" And "with both their powers combined," they could create some inventive excuses...but neither one could just say NO, sorry we've changed our minds!

Seriously. People like this bug the shit out of me when they call themselves swingers. Speed and I are still very new to this, but we're focusing on doing it the right way. People like this article's author make it harder for us to argue to the "vanilla" folks in our lives that we are normal, healthy, and genuinely happy. Ugh.

Trixie

PS New title suggestion for article: "Swinger FAIL...Times 2"

[The Fuse]

Go Trixie!!

(Silently cheering)

Love it!

[realcplub2]

Read the article and comment on what ALL is wrong.. here is mine

at the author never commented on,, the first being they were looking to partake of a bit of what is called "soft swing".. exhibitionist and voyeurs.. they typically are looking to have sex with thier own partner, and seldom include others in thier play, beyond some limited foreplay.
The key thing that is missing from this article is the fact that they seem to have never made clear to those potential play partners what exactly they were looking for. This is key to enjoying "successful swinging". To snipe and proclaim themselves limited experts.. after the expereinces that they relate in this article is pure negativity.

Alcohol, may lower inhibitions, but for the same reasons you arent to DRIVE while under its influence, making descions such as the ones in the article.. bad choices.. from people that while they may make for a interesting article have nothing to do with the topic.

[WesternSwing]

For me, several things were red flags. First was:

Clicking on a picture of perfectly sculpted washboard abs and a body that spent countless hours at the gym, I too became the girl who fell for the stereotypical hot guy. The girlfriend only enhanced my excitement. She had long brown hair that flowed perfectly in the wind. I wondered how she captured that in a picture.

Later we found out it took professionals to capture that kind of beauty in a photo, professionals who worked for Men’s and Women’s Fitness magazine.

The next was:

Being a couple with above-average partying skills

The last was:

Being a good-looking, young, fun couple, we were gold.

This couple: 1) thinks they are better than all that; 2) Is looking for a couple that "is all that", just like them. Their arrogance is only overshadowed by their arrogance. And their overinflated image of themselves is getting in the way of good judgment. The overly drinking, sending mixed signals to other couples, the thinking they are the catch of the year for any couple that they happen to grace with their presence.

Honestly, I'd be pissed as hell if I was the other couple that this couple duped us, not that we duped them. I think they are the ones that are fumbling their way around with experienced swingers, sending mixed signals and then trying to back-out when they figure-out they're in over their head and then blaming others.

They are the textbook "drama" couple.