Open Relationships Demystified in the SF Chronicle

[JustAskJulie]

Article from the SF Chronicle gives and interesting view of Open RElationships:
Open relationships demystified / Violet Blue gets advice on coupling with 'eyes wide open'

[rpu3]

Both people need to let go of some of the fundamental ways they've been interacting with one another as a monogamous couple. It can definitely be a rocky time when you need to get comfortable with your partner having sex and/or relationships with other people. That can be a very big leap for people to make. I think it's best to start out small rather than dive into the deep end — and communicate a lot. If you are both committed to it, it can absolutely work, but you both need to be on board 100 percent.

I liked and agreed with this quote.

I didn't plan on our form of open marriage, as much as I plan everything else. But in my implementation or journey, I've taken very small steps and constantly fretted over boundaries and "doing things correctly". My spouse is a very different person who has never lacked confidence about this. He was able to jump right in once he met others. No baby steps for him and that was hard to see just how easy it was for him.

While we are very different and that might be a reason it works for us, that extreme amount of communication required keeps it good and honest, as well as both being 100% on board with the concept. And actually, that absolute requirement to communicate between us has helped me in dealing with others - I talk a bit more openly, have started putting my foot down a bit more often when my absolute limits and boundaries are encroached and am actively working to become comfortable in asking for what I want from others.

Anyway, decent interview. I'll be curious to read the book reviews soon.

[two4youinswva]

FTA: For some reason, when I think of open relationships I think of Disco Stu.

That's funny, because I always think of Quagmire, from The Family Guy.

Interesting read. Good find Julie.

[knb2004]

Interesting article. We met Tristan a few weeks ago at her book kickoff event in NYC, got an autographed copy of the book and everything. I think she had some very interesting insight, though I read it so fast that a re-read is definately in order. Some of her topics are quite similar to some very preliminary ideas I've had about penning a tome, but I'm still trying to figure out my hook.

[Chitowndk4u]

Nice article