Size..Do you approach it.

[armi555]

I know many guys claim they want a bigger penis, I would love to have a smaller one. I know in the porn world much is made of those big peckers , but that has never been my experience. I have been only with my wife for 15 years, but before her in all the years of my sexual life, first times were more embarrassing than not. I grew up in high school being called the 3 legged man, knowing both guys and girls were always looking, had to adjust it, didn't like wearing tight jeans, joked about, etc...My male friends called me "Bud man" because my girth probably matches a beer can in the upper portion. I often heard guys say " I wish I had that", but they have no clue. My pecker has had more nicknames than one can imagine, people thought it was funny, but it was actually hurtful.

First time sex, often heard comments like.."no way, that will never fit, etc" Most sexual experiences were difficult, once I got in always had to go real slow, be careful, don't bang, that hurt's,etc...and trust me I tried in everyway to be a great, slow and careful lover.....

Yes, most girls I dated for periods of time seemed to get use to it and said they really enjoyed it, but only a few in my life could I really go at it, most I had to let them work and get use to it at their own pace. My wife is thin with some decent curves, but it took her some months to get use to it. She says she loves it, but I still have to be careful. Sometimes I use a 6inch dildo on her and can really bang her with it and she cums so hard and I just wish I could do that....just bang away.

I think we're getting close to having our first experience. We've met two couples we're really interested in, one has issues, so out, but the other lot's of chatting, one meeting for coffee and still talking. They are more experienced in this field and know we have none. We all really like each other.
She is thin, small waist and hips....I'm not saying that determines how things fit, but from my past girls with wider hips did much better...so worried there.

I feel if we ever get into the bedroom and get naked and start touching, my cock will be an issue. There has been no talk about size per say, except in joking jest my wife commented I was large.

Another issue is this...condoms, always been a problem. I haven't used them in so many years and thinking we could do this have searched, still can't find the right size, the biggest in the market I found was 9inches, I tried it, sort of works, but still not good enough. I'm 11-12 , but wide and condoms just never really worked for me. When I can get one on, it leaves much of the shaft uncovered and they are so tight they hurt and I often lose my erection.
I've broken many a condom in my past. I am still looking hoping I will find something on the market today.

My wife is talking and chatting with this woman, I some with the man. I told my wife maybe to just bring it up with her. Do you think that would be a good idea?

My wife, although thin has gotten use to it, but I still can't do certain things, like bang full force doggy, legs over head, etc. I'm sure they're women in the swinging world that love and can handle big ones without problems, but we're looking just for a couple to play with first, maybe move on from there.

[TheRedHalf]

Originally Posted by armi555

My wife is talking and chatting with this woman, I some with the man. I told my wife maybe to just bring it up with her. Do you think that would be a good idea?

I think this is a good idea. I've had men approach the subject with me (Male). Usually it's around the subject of not being intimidated by them. Let the ladies talk about it and see what happens.

On a lighter note...

Forgive me but I don't usually see to many men complaining about their size. I'd like to feel bad for you but that's a problem many of us would love to have Just once I would love my wife to look at my cock and say "HELL NO!"

Anyway, seriously though, I think letting your wife bring it up is a great idea.

Good Luck!

[tribbles]

Can't do guys hung like you....can use my hands and lick but that's all.

[djjwp]

I would get an Swing Lifestyle profile so you can be found by those looking for you. Let the woman talk it through but put it on your profile so when its read they already know what they will get. Those that want to ride will be contacting you.

[StewartP]

I see lots of profiles on swinger contact sites that say they are looking for well hung guys. (In french they use the acronym tbm for Trés Bien Monté)

I second the idea of creating a Swing Lifestyle profile where you specifically state that you are well endowed.

If you build it they will come!

[armi555]

My wife did talk with her today and explained the details. She said the lady could only state she would do her best, but certainly not make me feel uncomfortable and that she likes some size, but obvious can only do the best she can. She says her husband would be turned by the idea of watching her with us all the more. She did say if things worked, that it's easy to be creative so all are happy.

Obvious the other issue is protection, I found some special order condoms that may work, but those things have always been such a problem for me.

Yea, I'm sure they're plenty women that could handle me and more and I may do better in a more open club where choices aren't so limited, but we're just seeking a couple to get us started and go from there.

I have changed my profile to state hung, but I just don't want that to be the case people want us or don't want us. Several have asked for pictures, but I don't want to put my cock on the net, not that anyone would know if it was mine or not.

Placing ads has been fun, but it's becoming more work and a task trying to respond and chat with all the people, so just concentrating on a few.

[armi555]

Originally Posted by TheRedHalf

Forgive me but I don't usually see to many men complaining about their size. I'd like to feel bad for you but that's a problem many of us would love to have Just once I would love my wife to look at my cock and say "HELL NO!"

Anyway, seriously though, I think letting your wife bring it up is a great idea.

Good Luck!

Trust me, you don't want to be over large, it has been an issue. I know years ago I was in some good relationships where I was probably broken up with over it.

I would give anything for a 6 inch cock.....

[UserName123]

The largest condoms I could find via the internet were Durex XXL or Durex comfort XL which seems to have the most length and girth allowance with almost 10" length and 3" width max. I found my info at Condom Size Chart - Choosing a Condom.

Anyways, I'd personally love to try a guy as a big as you, but I haven't found one even remotely close to your size without the ego. Sadly, the few men I have met with a dick close to that big think they are gods gift to women. Such a turn off.

[armi555]

I've certainly never had an ego about, spent my life thinking what girls would say. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19, but more I liked to fish. Funny, the first girl was 5 years older, had experience, very small waist and had some ass to her and it wasn't a problem with her overall, but certainly became one after that.

We met with the couple for a late lunch and spent most the day and evening together, but with kids, we didn't go late into the night, not that we were planning it, but I'm sure it would've worked that way so we're meeting tomorrow night, they were very nice and made us very comfortable, we're all excited about tomorrow.

[UserName123]

I hope it goes great for you guys!!

[JustAskJulie]

As others said there are plenty of women looking for "well hung" but from my experience there's a difference between "well hung" which usually really just means they want above average and what you are describing which I would call "WELL above average". Years ago I encountered a guy that still qualifies as the biggest I've encountered and the only one I've ever turned down. He was about what you just described (about the size of a beer can - when soft... when he was hard he just got longer).

I think your idea of having your wife broach the subject with the woman before hand is a good one. I will say that most people will likely at the very least make the best of it even if she didn't feel she could "take" you. I know if it were me and we made it to the bedroom before I found out you were that big, you'd still get a great bj. Heck, if I wanted to get to the bedroom with you and I found out you were that big you'd still get a great bj.

One concern I might also add is that some hubbies may not be happy with your size as it may leave them feeling deflated or like your wife could never really enjoy (feel) them after being used to you for so many years. I think that's another good reason to broach the subject beforehand, so that they have a chance to discuss it make sure they are gonna be ok with it.

[farmer3922]

My wife has always been for the larger sizes. She has taken the biggest cock I have ever seen. At first what a turn on, the more frequently she would bring up lets do him again soon, the more insecure I became.
So I asked her answer You fuck me the best but I want more not because you dont please me, I want more because I love to fuck. The pure pleasure of getting fucked for hours by A cock that totally fills me is A once in a life time, not to experience this would be untenable.

[armi555]

Been awhile since I've been here, but we did have our first experience with this couple, that led to a few more with them.

They had some past experience, but haven't swung in years, jobs, kids, but they seemed more emotionally prepared the first time, my wife and I were a nervous wreck, like virgins, but both so highly excited. We decided the first night was to be soft play, well, medium play. Our ground rule for the first meeting was no matter how excited that there would be no sex the first time and told them, they were fine with it.

I was nervous about my size and so excited I was also worried I would cum in 3 seconds. We lit one candle, so the room had a little light and all laid in a king size bed together. It was strange at first, probably took us an hour to get our clothes off, slowly piece by piece, each of us just doing foreplay on our partner and then my wife and I basically watched them. They told us that we could start by just touching them while they had sex, so we did, just soft rubs, she was basically on top of him going slow while we touched them, it was erotic as hell for all and they got off. His wife was orgasmic, seemed she was cumming every minute if that's possible

Next, we did it in reverse. Why my wife was giving me head, the lady was beside her and I felt my wife put her hand on me, there was some talk about wow, obvious her husband saw it and said he would love to see if his wife could take it, but we didn't get there...yet. Anyway, my wife gave me head, I knew I was gonna cum fast, so told her very slow, even stopped her a few times. I knew the man was behind my wife rubbing her ass and a few times heard him say "Is that OK or doe's that feel good and my wife would reply with her soft "mmmm or yes and go back sucking. He wasn't fucking her as we hadn't yet agreed and they were really nice about being slow. I wasn't sure, but my wife stopped sucking me and I felt her tremble and almost a quite moan as if she came, but went back sucking. The other lady stroked me great while my wife sucked, I came fast and hard.

It took a few more minutes, but I wanted to please my wife, so I went down on her why they rubbed on her. My wife is a lil bi curious. We've discussed it and she says she's not gay or really bi, but that soft touching or small things with another woman would be OK. The couple each were licking her breast why I went down until she came.

They were certainly horny again by the time we finished and I knew we would be again in moments, so back to watching them, but this time we got more involved. As his wife gave him head, I did say I would love to see my wife suck him and she did, taking turns. He wasn't hung, maybe 6 to 7 inches, but had some thickness, but my wife easily took all of him in her mouth..I must say I was so excited I was about to bust again. I started fucking my wife from behind while she took turns sucking him. When he came in her mouth I blew the biggest load in my life...yea, he had a condom on, but the long fantasy of watching her take a load of cum in her mouth while I did her from behind...it was exciting.


Long story, but it basically ended there, we had to get home and were already late, but more talk of another get together and all went home. My wife and I fucked again later that night. We didn't do really any of our kink talk with them, but we let loose about them when we got home. My wife did say as the man was rubbing her ass that he slowly made passes at her clit and finally put his finger in her and slowly stroked her, which was OK and she said she came.

We both agreed we wish we would have gone further, but really it was erotic and great for a first time. I sort of joked with my wife about why didn't she really get kinky, ect..., she did the same with me. Course when we had sex we acted out how we would be with them next time...next time came the next weekend and it was fantasic.

[Baconheads]

Originally Posted by armi555

...next time came the next weekend and it was fantasic.

Ooooo...Do tell!

[slevin]

I think I missed the part of the story with the question or comment about discussing size I guess that all turned out fine!