Swinger traits (good and bad) to watch for?

[funcouple8482]

We are new to swinging, are there any traits, good or bad, that we should be on the look out for in other couples?

[Cajun2Step]

We are glad you have found this community of like minded friends. Our best suggestion would be for you to read the posts and find some of the things you will want to know by reading previous posts.

In response to your question, we watch for people who are pushy. They do not interest us at all. We are not interested in meeting them and certainly not in becoming playmates with pushy folks

If the RV is Rockin'....we are nuggie knockin'....come on over.

[Coupleerotic22]

• People who are pushy - can't or won't take no for an answer, insist on doing things their way regardless of what you want, want things to move too fast for you
• Liars - people whose stories change frequently and are not consistent
• Single guys posing as couples - Wife is never available or around, she couldn't make the M&G, say their wife is ok with them playing, but you can never speak to her (just contact via chat or email)
• Inconsiderate of their spouses - because they will be of you as well
• People whose profiles don't match what they say or do in person
• People who tell you too much about their previous partners, they won't be discreet with you either
• The Trust me crowd - trust me I am DD free, trust me to go solo with your wife, trust me I can pull out in time (we use condoms, but if constantly hear trust me in an attempt to get their way, we begin not to trust them about anything, play by our rules or we don't play)

I am sure I left many out, but you can find many good examples by reading previous post to this forum.

Welcome to the the Swingers Board!

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by funcouple8482

We are new to swinging, are there any traits, good or bad, that we should be on the look out for in other couples?

Are you generally good at picking vanilla friends? If so, you shouldn't have any major problems.

We seek out couples that we think would be good friends, and we're attracted to.
This doesn't mean we're looking for friends first, or to make some new BFFs. Sometimes a friendship evolves, sometimes not. Either way, we've had fun almost every time. It's just proven to be a good method we've found to work for us over the past six years.

Welcome to the board.

[fun4Ds]

Good traits are

Dependable
Honest
Caring
Polite
Organized
Responsible
Mature
Self-control
Smart
Thoughtful
Confident
Independent
Reliable
Can be serious
Humorous
Patient
Creative
Outgoing
Good listener
Competitive
Easygoing
Friendly
Studious
Not complicated
People -person
Calm
Tidy
Good fashion sense
Romantic
Manners
Nice voice

Fortunately, all of which I think you'll find in the swinging lifestyle....

Bad traits...

Irresponsible
Over-confident
Messy
Rude
Bad tempered
Bossy
Spoiled
Annoying
Talks too much
No humor
Perfectionist
Lazy
Picky
Bad habits
Unreliable
Anti-social
(All other opposites of the other list)

Unfortunately, all of which I think you'll find in the Swinging lifestyle

[Cajun2Step]

Thanks for taking time to post this list...good list.

[socolais]

Good fashion sense????

I think that's undeniably a good trait, but I don't see much value there especially when the laundry spends most of the party crumpled on the floor.

[funcouple8482]

thanks for the tip everyone. I suppose the good fashion sense could be important before it ends up on the floor.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by socolais

Good fashion sense????

I think that's undeniably a good trait, but I don't see much value there especially when the laundry spends most of the party crumpled on the floor.

Yea but when after a romp in the pile, retrieving a needed drink for re-hydration in the nude, then someone yelling out "hey, nice socks there fun4ds"

Well lets just say, heads do turn

Sandals or even flip-flops work fashionably, but not socks


fun4ds

[interested-05]

just like your friends in the vanilla world, the good and the ugly are here as well. Its just like making regular friends just a bit more discrete. Choose your friends wisely and enjoy the adventure!

[SW_PA_Couple]

Which planet, my dear fun4Ds, do these people live on. I'd be happy to meet anyone who has any two of the above.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Which planet, my dear fun4Ds, do these people live on. I'd be happy to meet anyone who has any two of the above.

Why, planet Swingers Board of course

You might have to meet us as we are accumulative you see, the best is Mrsfun and then there is me.

Dependable.... I own this one

Honest... Well that one is Mrsfun

Caring.... We both possess this trait

Polite.... Mrsfun, but I try

Organized.... Ok, Mrsfun again

Responsible....Mrsfun

Mature....Mrsfun

Self-control..... Me !

Smart.... Well again Mrsfun, but I'm getting pretty bad ass with Wki, Webster and google these days.

Thoughtful....Mrsfun

Confident..... Me 100% Unless its friday the 13th

Independent.... We do masturbate once in a while, just for proof.

Reliable... Both

Can be serious... That would be both, although I prefer to cry when I'm alone.

Humorous.... O hell yes, thats me. And the worlds my stage...

Patient..... I swear, Mrsfun is related to Jobe. It really pisses me off too

Creative... Ok, mrsfun again....Dang it!

Outgoing....All me

Good listener.... Well I'll let others decide

Competitive..... Neither of us compete in the lifestyle competitively

Easygoing... Both...kinda, sorta, maybe

Friendly... We have only but two enemies in life

Studious.... Studious ? I don't have a clue what that word even means, I just added it for color.

Not complicated.... Well, studious worked out OK I guess.

People -person.... Both, although Mrsfun is the attractant. I'm the wont let go-er

Calm... Unless its about roller coasters or mimes, I'm cooler than polar bear poop in a blizzard. I'm good with snap quick judgments also. Once an 80 ton crane fell two feet at my side, didnt even flinch.

Tidy... You don't want to see my desk, and neither does Mrsfun

Good fashion sense....Again Mrsfun, with the matching shoes, hand-bag and accesories and all. Heck, I don't even care if my socks match, most days.

Romantic.... Did I tell you I'm learning French ? Or, that Mrsfun IS French.(think, Pepé Le Pew though)

Manners.... Mrsfun lifts a pinky while sipping tea, I can hold a fart for hours on a date

Nice voice... Call Mrsfun and see, I'll be singing like "RockStar" in the back ground if you want.

Pleased to meet you by the way,
Fun4ds

[Gordo]

I seriously think we need a test for all those qualities.

Ok before we *boink* just take this 300 question multiple choice questionaire

[LikeMinds321]

Hey Peeps,

It's not necessary to repost fun4Ds list before making a comment about it.

Once per page is enough.

LM
Forum Redundancy Moderator

[M1F2KTJ]

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