Should our first MFM be with a friend or stranger?

[Suburbia]

Stranger.

Our rule of thumb is "You Don't Fuck Your Friends."

Both figuratively and literally.

[ClosetSwinger]

Originally Posted by Suburbia

Stranger.

Our rule of thumb is "You Don't Fuck Your Friends."

Both figuratively and literally.

Love this! awesome! lol

[joaninla]

My husband and I are very experienced with MFM's (it is our favorite sexual activity). My personal experience is that when we began, it was much better (easier, less anxiety, far more comfortable) with someone I knew (well we both did actually, I just knew him much better). And many 3somes later, I still prefer the 3rd guy to be someone I know, like and respect.

Originally Posted by bimarriedguy82

I am new to the board and am looking for any advice I can get. Im 27, my wife is 23. We decided to have my friend join us but it didnt work out. I still really want to do this, but not sure if I should approach another friend that we both know, or try to find a stranger to join, or ask one of her ex bfs that I am friends with. Is it better to go with somone you know the first time or someone you dont know. What about bringing her ex in? Is it a bad idea? Any advice would be great

[Tadahiko]

Originally Posted by joaninla

My husband and I are very experienced with MFM's (it is our favorite sexual activity). My personal experience is that when we began, it was much better (easier, less anxiety, far more comfortable) with someone I knew (well we both did actually, I just knew him much better). And many 3somes later, I still prefer the 3rd guy to be someone I know, like and respect.

I will second that. We have only very limited experience with complete strangers, but someone you know AND TRUST COMPLETELY can be a great way to minimize unpleasant surprises.

[bimarriedguy82]

Originally Posted by joaninla

My husband and I are very experienced with MFM's (it is our favorite sexual activity). My personal experience is that when we began, it was much better (easier, less anxiety, far more comfortable) with someone I knew (well we both did actually, I just knew him much better). And many 3somes later, I still prefer the 3rd guy to be someone I know, like and respect.

How did you go about bringing this up with your friends? The friend we were suppose to do it with brought it up to us, so I dont know how to approach another friend. Do I just come right out and say hey, wanna have sex with me and my wife? lol.

[dr_pepper]

Along this same vein, but with strangers, a guy I know told me about being at a trade show and meeting two ladies there who were together. At some point they invited him to join them for dinner. After dinner, they adjourned to the room the ladies shared, at the hotel. Several more hours of enjoyable conversation ensued. Then, out of the blue, one of the ladies said to him that they would like to fuck. After the initial shock wore off in a few seconds, he said that he would be delighted and a fun rest of the evening was had by all.

He still can't believe that he was that lucky. Now, whether they were in the lifestyle is up to question, but this is a case where two ladies felt good about a total stranger and had a fun time with him.

[Cajun2Step]

Originally Posted by Suburbia View Post
Stranger.

Our rule of thumb is "You Don't Fuck Your Friends."

Both figuratively and literally.
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This is a great philosophy. However, we find that after we have met and fucked a few times we become good friends. In that case we fuck our friends.

As to finding a friend to join in we both would have a concern with that. It is a hell of a good way to lose a friend.

[Suburbia]

Originally Posted by Cajun2Step

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This is a great philosophy. However, we find that after we have met and fucked a few times we become good friends. In that case we fuck our friends.

As to finding a friend to join in we both would have a concern with that. It is a hell of a good way to lose a friend.

People you fuck and then become friends were fuckfriends first and then friends later. So it won't change the relationship because that is where it began.

Having sex with someone more often than not changes the relationship. Sometimes for the good, more often for the bad.

For us the potential gain isn't worth the risk of potential loss.

I'm pretty certain, Cajunstep, we are on the same page on this.

[Cajun2Step]

Originally Posted by Suburbia

People you fuck and then become friends were fuckfriends first and then friends later. So it won't change the relationship because that is where it began.

Having sex with someone more often than not changes the relationship. Sometimes for the good, more often for the bad.

For us the potential gain isn't worth the risk of potential loss.

I'm pretty certain, Cajunstep, we are on the same page on this.

Yep...same page...same philosophy.


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