We only want to play together, including communicating with other couples.

[Nlove4ever]

We wanted to say :thanks: for all the advice and input that everyone has offered. One more question....and this one I am not sure many of you will deal with out there (the answers may surprise me though, I hope!). C works out of town for extended period (4 to 8 weeks at a time), but is home for about a month when he gets to come home. We only want to play together, including communicating with other couples. Would that be something offensive to those in the LS if we were upfront with that from the beginning? If any of you deal with similar situations, how do you handle it? Thanks again for all the input. We appreciate it all so much. Taking babysteps and talking all of it over each step of the way. YAY!!!

[Trace Ekies]

Welcome to our world...

If you are up front about something and word it in a decent and respectful way, I can't imagine being offended.

Remember, this is your lifestyle...not someone else's...make of it what YOU want. If that involves having contact with people only when your husband is in town then do it...we would have no problem with your request and would honor it without question.

Good luck in your swingin' travels.

Trace

[exploringRM]

by communicating do you mean dealing with online communications as well? If another couple sent you and email will you not respond for the time you are not together? Most people assume no timely response is a no, if someone were to send you an email asking if you were interested. Some will even block you if you don't respond.

You can put in your profile the details of your email responses.

[The Fuse]

It's not offensive, but in waiting that long some people might lose interest. Perhaps if someone writes and you're not ready to write back, you could just send them a note letting them know you respond as a team and that will be after such-and-such date.

If it's possible for the two of you to work out a response over the phone, that would be better and give you better results if you're interested in the other couple, since they wouldn't have to wait.

[TNT]

Ted and I have basically lived apart for years now. We do have a regular group that we hang with and they all know our situation and understand. As far as when we are contacted by someone new, if I think that we might be interested in meeting them, I let them know it may take a couple of weeks (or longer) before a meet can be scheduled, basically leaving it in their hands as to if they want to wait that long or not. We've never really had a problem and most understand.

[ENCRYPTEDTX]

I live in the traveling spouse capital of the world in VA, where spouses are some form of military or DOD or something that takes them out of the area for specified and unspecified periods of time.

It is very very understandable for you to want to play together, flirt together and communicate together. As the single male reaching out to these couples, I have found that online chatting works and may work quite well in fact.

I would make a private chat room and invite both parties to join in while we chatted and built rapport. In the "interrogation" period while asking the couples about boundaries, it was often a great that they were apart while answering. I once asked where the wife felt her boundaries with a respectful single male where and when she answered, her husband was pleasantly surprised. We had originally discussed a massage for her, and I wanted to be sure I was polite and did not cross any boundaries and make her uncomfortable. I think her ability to be alone and think about the situation allowed her freedom to express that she was comfortable with the massage and maybe a little bit more.

I really think you can communicate with others simultaneously while in two separate locations. I would also recommend that you share a private conversation as well because I feel there can never been too much communication between parties.

Kyle