Going to a club for the first time.

[swy30]

Hi everyone, my wife and I had decided that it is time that we start fulfilling some of the swinger fantasies that we had been talking about for the past 2 years by going to a club. I'm 30 and she is 25 and we had never had a swinging experience except for one time a female friend of ours and my wife fooled around a little(a little kissing,touching breasts and fingering each other.) After that little taste both me and my wife decided that it turned us on and we wanted experience more. We have been fantasizing about certain scenarios for a while now and we are both ready to make them reality I just want to see how it will be perceived by other people who live this lifestyle.

Ok here I go. Both myself and my wife are going into this with an agreement that I in no way will be having any contact with another girl and that is ok with me. What turns me on is watching my wife having sex with another girl and a guy also. She is 100% ok with going all the way with a girl, but even though it turns her on alot she does not know if she is ready for intercourse with another man. She is ok with another man touching her and maybe even giving her oral sex just not intercourse at this time.Also while my wife is either having sex with a girl or fooling around a guy we would like for me to be able to touch my wife and even have intercourse with her .My question is would other people be ok with these guidelines or are we setting to many rules.

We are ready to go to a club we had found and my wife has the sexiest outfit I had ever seen and I honestly can't wait for her to get out there wearing it. Is it ok to wear a see through top at these clubs? I hope so. Thank you for your time.

[cplnuswing]

Your rules are your rules, so whatever works best for you. The only thing to keep in mind though is the more rules you have or the more you narrow down the scenarios that are acceptable to you, the harder and harder it gets to find other people looking for the same thing or willing to accept those limitations. Not to say that makes them wrong for you, but that you just have to be willing to accept those consequences. Also, your's are fairly restrictive, so just be sure you get those out pretty soon when first talking with potential playmates so they know whether they are interested in playing by those rules or else time to move on.

Clubs differ in what they allow based on what type of club it is, what area of the club you are in, etc. I recommend you just check with them. If it's your first time there, probably a good idea to get in contact with them anyway to see if it's possible to plan to get there a little early for a brief tour and explanation of the ground rules. But, in general, if it's an on-premise club or a off-premise with limited access and you cover up if you go out, then yes, a see-through top will likely be no problem.

The only other bit of advice is don't try to force it. The surest way to not have a good time swinging is to go into it with all sorts of expectations to be immediately met. It's standard advice here, but it bears repeating, especially for your first club visit - go out with the goal of having a great time together, and if anything else happens, then just consider that a bonus, not a make or break. You can't go wrong taking that approach.

Good luck!

[N8ture Girl]

You cant go wrong with what the above poster said! The biggest thing is dont go thinking your fantasy is gonna happen right off the bat. In all likely hood it wont. Having the expectation that something is going to happen will only set you up for disapointment! But if it does happen then whoo hoo for you! I'd plan to go just to get the feel of the place, the people, even though the people can change from night to night, but still, there will be a lot to take in on your first visit.

Also, as far as your rules, they are yours but be sure you stick to your rules and dont change them mid play. They can always be revised afterwards.

Have fun and good luck! Let us know how it went!

[ClosetSwinger]

Ehhh....you need to do what YOU are both comfortable with.

That being said some couples shy away from couples that has only ONE party playing with others. I'm not saying you won't find this but it's harder to find. The fact that she is allowed to play with both men and women but you arent allowed to play with anyone but her could possibly be a turn off. For me I wouldnt want to play with a couple that I only got girl girl play while the girl could play with my husband but I couldnt play with hers.

I would personally suggest you guys playing with a single girl (another hard find but it can be done) and then going from there.

Good luck and have lots of fun!