Was very Curious. Now VERY GLAD I did'nt go through with it...

[snapps]

Just sayin.. this lifestyle isnt for everyone.. good luck to all though...

[JustAskJulie]

So not gonna tell us what happened to make you realize it wasn't for you?

And you are right, this lifestyle definitely isn't for everyone.

[DiscreetDesires]

This lifestyle definitely is not for everyone. That is one of the reasons I always caution everyone to take baby steps since it's always best to go at it slowly rather than to regret something you did and cannot take back.

For some it works, and for some it does not and there is nothing wrong with that. The goodness in it all, is that you both were open enough with yourselves and each other to give it a try and see if it was a fit for you.

I am curious as to what happened though. Would you mind sharing?

[snapps]

its a super duper long story, probably best not to get too much into it.... but lets just say my reasons for considering this lifestyle was not for the right reasons

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by snapps

this lifestyle isnt for everyone..

Completely agree, and good luck to you as well.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by snapps

its a super duper long story, probably best not to get too much into it.... but lets just say my reasons for considering this lifestyle was not for the right reasons

If I may ask, was this conclusion from your first and only experiance ?

fun4ds

[LagniappeDC]

Just want to say that your experience may prove helpful to others who find themselves in similar situations. We hope that you do share with the rest of us...and happy that you made a decision that was right for you and your wife.

[SexyNSingle]

I agree, one persons experience, can teach a boat load to other!

[snapps]

Originally Posted by LagniappeDC

Just want to say that your experience may prove helpful to others who find themselves in similar situations. We hope that you do share with the rest of us...and happy that you made a decision that was right for you and your wife.

Very well, I'll get a lil into it.

I had this one sided view of my wife. Mainly because of all the bad things that happened thoughout our relationship before we got married. Mistrust/Cheating/Lies etc. All on her end, I always walked a stright line with few mis-steps. I think I grew to hate and resent her a lil, and ended up having a very bad view of her. I'll just leave it at that. It was very disrespectful and it showed and was voiced each and every time we had sex, and thus I think my reason for wanting to get into this lifestyle (MFM or MMMMMMMMFMMMMMM or w/e). The lack of respect I probably had for her was very obvious, but we both chose to ignore it and continued on with it until it got to this point...

This has since been bought to my attention in a very serious/yet unintentional way, and we are working to correct my view of her and trying to rebuild the love/trust/and passion in our relationship/marriage. She has thus apologized for all her wrongs, something she always refrained from doing in the past, even when she knew she was wrong. I'm just happy we didnt go too far in this lifestyle to make this apology not work and come just a little too late... I do love my wife, and vice versa, so it's gonna take some time to reset my mindset, but it's now a work in progress and I'm just glad we now have a chance to make things right... Good luck to all!

[Coupleerotic22]

Good choice then. For the life of me, I cannot imagine being in the lifestyle if the wife and I weren't rock solid. To many ways any issues we had between us could blown up with having sex with other people. IF you have things like anger and mistrust going on, the lifestyle would be gas on the fire.

[Interested One]

Originally Posted by snapps

Very well, I'll get a lil into it.

I had this one sided view of my wife. Mainly because of all the bad things that happened thoughout our relationship before we got married. Mistrust/Cheating/Lies etc. All on her end, I always walked a stright line with few mis-steps. I think I grew to hate and resent her a lil, and ended up having a very bad view of her. I'll just leave it at that. It was very disrespectful and it showed and was voiced each and every time we had sex, and thus I think my reason for wanting to get into this lifestyle (MFM or MMMMMMMMFMMMMMM or w/e). The lack of respect I probably had for her was very obvious, but we both chose to ignore it and continued on with it until it got to this point...

This has since been bought to my attention in a very serious/yet unintentional way, and we are working to correct my view of her and trying to rebuild the love/trust/and passion in our relationship/marriage. She has thus apologized for all her wrongs, something she always refrained from doing in the past, even when she knew she was wrong. I'm just happy we didnt go too far in this lifestyle to make this apology not work and come just a little too late... I do love my wife, and vice versa, so it's gonna take some time to reset my mindset, but it's now a work in progress and I'm just glad we now have a chance to make things right... Good luck to all!

Good that you two are on the right track. I wish both of you the best!

[bbarnsworth]

snapps, thanks for sharing!

[VANudistcpl]

Wow sounds familar, only we didn't patch things up and went our seperate ways. The first wife was like that and she was the one that pushed the lifestyle. Little did she know that I would take to it and enjoy it. She decided that it wasn't what she wanted and left. Now I married to some that loves me and understands the choices we make when we play.

...glad you made the decision that is right for you both. Good luck to you both

[dodgechevy]

Originally Posted by snapps

Very well, I'll get a lil into it.

I had this one sided view of my wife. Mainly because of all the bad things that happened thoughout our relationship before we got married. Mistrust/Cheating/Lies etc. All on her end, I always walked a stright line with few mis-steps. I think I grew to hate and resent her a lil, and ended up having a very bad view of her. I'll just leave it at that. It was very disrespectful and it showed and was voiced each and every time we had sex, and thus I think my reason for wanting to get into this lifestyle (MFM or MMMMMMMMFMMMMMM or w/e). The lack of respect I probably had for her was very obvious, but we both chose to ignore it and continued on with it until it got to this point...

This has since been bought to my attention in a very serious/yet unintentional way, and we are working to correct my view of her and trying to rebuild the love/trust/and passion in our relationship/marriage. She has thus apologized for all her wrongs, something she always refrained from doing in the past, even when she knew she was wrong. I'm just happy we didnt go too far in this lifestyle to make this apology not work and come just a little too late... I do love my wife, and vice versa, so it's gonna take some time to reset my mindset, but it's now a work in progress and I'm just glad we now have a chance to make things right... Good luck to all!

To me it sounds like it wasn't the lifestyle at all. Maybe the straw that broke the already heavily burdened camels back?

And actually maybe years from now seems like something you could still come back too once you have a strong and healthy relationship.

[Edison Carter]

The Lifestyle is never 'for' a bad marriage. Never, ever, ever.