Why does this bring of a red flag?

[NCfuncouple98]

Originally Posted by Obliquity

Now I'm sure most of us here have seen Jerry Springer, I personally Love to watch it, the Ninja hillbilly is my fav guest.

As some of you know I am working out my jealousy issues. We've (hubby and I) have been talking with another couple alot lately. I'm very interested in them. We have even all talked about my issue and have agreed if things go farther that the gal and I would put on a show for the guys and then have sex with our own partners.

Now here comes the Jerry Springer part. The Gal lives with her parents and Ex, who she has one kid with. Her other kid was with the man shes with but he lives on the other side of the city and he only sees her once a week if that. She always talks about how shes mad at him for this reason or that reason. She talks about her ex alot better then her bf.

For some reason the way she looks and acts toward my husband makes me a little twitchy. See my hubby is a great dad who spends time with our kids and has a good stable job. Everything her man doesn't have. When I told my hubby about it he got testy saying I need to get over my problems. All this is making me NOT want to continue with ANYTHING. With all her problems and the way my husband acted when I tried to talk about it, I think maybe this couple isn't the one to try things out with.

Am I wrong? Is it just my jealousy issue? or am I right by thinking this might not be the couple for us. I figured asking people who could maybe with what little I've said can see the whole picture.

1. Don't put on a "show" for the guys. Either you and she want to play or you don't - but doing it as a show? You might regret it in the morning.

2. "Get over your problems" - that's a direct communication issue between the two of you. You don't "get over" your feelings - you talk about them and work them through. At any time 1/2 of a couple isn't into it, it's done. Period. End of discussion.

3. He could very well be feeling the nostalgia of another woman who is "into" him. That's a high for anyone new to the lifestyle! It's the "ooohhh, she likes me!". Nothing wrong with it, unless it gets in between you two as a couple. If it makes you uncomfortable, then it's time to take a step away from it. There are others out there!

4. You brought up Jerry Springer. Ummm, gotta be honest here, RUN! Plenty of drama-free couples to meet and play with. Patience and preference come to mind.

5. Jealousy is only something you can work through, but yet together, if that makes any sense. You have to be able to discuss this openly and honestly, outside the bedroom, together. If he says "get over it", that doesn't count as an open and honest discussion. Keep talking. And talking. And talking.

[SaSsyNsWeEt]

Sounds to me that you already know that is a bad situation for you and your husband to get into. There are many many other couples out there that are stable and in a loving relationship with each other, NEVER settle for anything less!!!!