first pick for first threesome

[fredsgirl]

So me and the new boyfriend have decided to try and make a go about this. We have talked at great length...discussed what we expect of each other, our boundries, if either of us becomes uncomfortable etc. Basically our rules about it. SO...we have decided to start out w/fmf threeway, since he has experience in it. We have talked about w/who too. A girl we previously have known, someone who was just a sexual partner for him in the past who apparently is interested in trying this. Question I have...should is be someone we know? Or someone we don't know? For our first encounter? And, I guess, how should we approach this. I am pretty sure that he will ask her, but i feel important that she and i discuss and get comfortable out it and w/ each other first.

[Additude]

I feel that you are headed in the right direction with your current choice. If I understand correctly, she and him have played together before and to me that means your going to avoid many issues that could cause a problem. I think you'll find comfort in "experience" and there already being a connection on a personal level.

Good luck and I for one hope you have a great time and that everything works out for you. Be sure to let us know how it goes.

[fun4Ds]

Fredsgirl, I think its hard to answer these questions. Mostly on the part of my lack of communicating, or understanding. You see, Mrsfun brought ME into HER bisexuality, and the whole world of her bisexuality, was more than I really expected. Plus, we have played in every combination you can imagine from couples, singles, MfM up to and including, I have been gang banged by a group of women.

I guess I don't talk about it much because for one, people don't care to hear it. Not just in forums but in real playing/swinging life as well. Mrsfun and I have escorted a few single women to clubs/social events and found mostly, to be unapproachable.... As a couple, Mrsfun and I were usually approached before the nights were over. We made that happen, because it was our intentions or goal. The problem is, when talking with others, there is that "harem" idea people have, ya know ? If not, you will someday -if- FMF, is the only way you are considering swinging.

When it comes to how I feel about that, I don't like that "harem" idea.... I was invited as a guest into a part of Mrsfuns life. From there I found myself "invited" into the lives of other women as well.....Sexually and emotionally. I can say, I see the harem idea LOL.... but not in an ownership way.....Enough about me though, LOL... I hope you understand your actually a unicorn right now, you will have a great deal of power over Fred, as well as others....even, if your being submissive to this. Especially in the decision, department.

But here is the thing.....

I'm not bragging, but could you imagine how I would feel if I / We, did give you some sort or Wrong advice ? Your new to this and kind of asking, "shot gun" questions.

The best advice I have now is, sloooow way down. Or like us, you'll be jumping in and answering your own questions, later. Are you prepared for that, emotionally ?

First off, as with any form of swinging we follow the three "S" rules : Safety, Sanity and great, Sex ! ( we hope it serves anyone well )

As for now, I'm just a dude or a pixel on your screen. But, I know many questions Mrsfun and I talked about before we went into this, and still do. Is it cool if I ask you questions back ?

I'll answer some of yours as I see them, first

1. "Question I have...should is be someone we know? Or someone we don't know? For our first encounter?"
All of these questions will be decided and answered inside yourself, when meeting in person with this third person.... That includes, male or female. You will know when its right, if you listen to yourself. One of the biggest mistakes we ever made, was not listening to ourselves. Have you had a chance to check out the swinger sites there are many groups who might invite and accept you. You can meet anyone from experianced to non experianced at some of the "bisexual women" groups, and parties.

2. " And, I guess, how should we approach this. I am pretty sure that he will ask her" Not a good idea, in my opinion.... I think you should both be together, right beside each other..... Or, at least in the same room. FWIW... I never did the pursuing of someone( I chose to pursue) until later on with more experience. I had no past fuck buddies to include.... But from what I have heard from others, its still a bad idea. Your milage may vary, if Fred and this other women are really experianced lifestylers. Personally, I dont get that vibe....

3. "but i feel important that she and i discuss and get comfortable out it and w/ each other first" Ok, quietly "listen" to yourself...... See what I mean, LOL.


I guess for now, I hope many women reply with advice to your questions. Most men, may not. Many, for their own reasons or might not care to, because they either failed at finding that combination, or just don't want to come off as bragging.

I can't say that for myself, FMF is awesome and should be, for everyone involved.


My first suspicions are for safety and sanity. Are you sure your not being coerced into Fred's relationship as, the third ?

How well do you really know, each of these people ?

What if you do this now and later find your Not, freds girlfriend any longer ? How would you feel about that later ?

Are you wanting to explore your bisexuality at this time, with someone you trust.... or just wanting to see fred get his freak on, with someone else ?

Let us get to know you better, as swingers we want and hope for the best of experiences for all newcommers......Getting to know you more, would be grate !

[habibalby]

hello,

I entirely agree with fun4Ds, beside that, I would advice you to slow down and know well the 3rd partner, go out to club or restaurant, so you will be more friendly with the idea and with the people who will play with .

But if you are intended just to try the feeling of two people penetrating you or your partner having two chicks fucking him nicely and treat him well, I think at the end either you will like it more and more or you will be regret.

BR,

[JustAskJulie]

My biggest concern with playing with someone that he has played with before is the potential for attachment between them, and the higher potential for jealousy from you. With someone you don't know (or at least who hasn't played with either of you before) there won't be that sense that they have a connection, or that they already know each others bodies in bed.

Keep in mind FMF threesomes are often hard on a female. Know what your plan is, if you are expecting that one person gets the bulk of the attention make that clear. If you really think that everyone is going to get equal attention, you will be very disappointed.

[joaninla]

My two cents is go with someone you know. It made it much easier for us on our first few threesomes.