New & Young, how do we get started?

[young_but_kinky]

Hi, my boyfriend and I are relatively young (19 and 18)
but we both would love to indulge in our fantasies of being with another couple! How do we get started?

[SW_PA_Couple]

I recommend you search the Internet and see which swinger's clubs might be in your area. Plan visits. It's OK just to "look around" and get a feel for what's going on or even what's not going on. One good place to start is here: Swingers Club Listings and Reviews

Glad you found us here at The Swingersboard -- WELCOME.

~Michael

[mikeandjenn2001]

Probably one of the quickest things that we found out when we started is that the lifestyle consists mostly of older couples (mid 30s to mid 40s). We have never had a problem with age, I just mention it because it depends on if you are looking for somebody closer to your age group. I was 22 and Jen was 24 when we first got involved in the lifestyle, so we were young as well.

For the issue of clubs, it's difficult to find a club that will let anybody in that is under 21 as most clubs are byob. Not that they have a problem with younger people, it's just they don't want the possible legal issues of underage drinking.

I would say get involved with a meet and greet group and meet people. Once you meet people, and they get to know you, they may be able to put in a good word with a club owner if they know one, or you may even get invited to a house party (which we think are better than clubs anyway).

[Miss Sunshine]

why an 18 and 19 year old need to get into swinging is beyond me. Go out and enjoy each other, there is much you can do together. When you get older and need to add excitement in your sex lives, then come back.

OR come to our house and we can show you the ropes, but your girlfriend may never want you again after she has me!!! tee hee hee hee

[FitCpl30s]

We had the same problem, we were 18 and 20 and had a tough time meeting other couples but we did find a few on the computer. Back then all we had was the AOL chatroom, there wasn't all these forums and boards. Be patient you will find someone.
Just in case anyone cares we met when I was 15, started dating at my sweet 16 and swinging by 18 for the reason that we have never been with anyone else, 19 years later we are still madly in love and can't imagine life without each other there.

[Mr.Essex]

I hope that I don't sound too condescending, but it's always been my opinion that swinging couples are at their best when they know that they're in it for the long haul. Age isn't the main consideration, it's the way that your personalities mesh that's the main thing to worry about. If the two of you are as one, then dalliances with a thousand people won't do anything to break you apart. If you're still in the "petty jealousy" stage of your relationship, if you're still "hiding" things from each other, if the first thought that crosses your mind when the other doesn't answer a phone call isn't "I hope that he (or she) is alright.", then you aren't ready for swinging. If there's one truism in the lifestyle, it's that both parties have to be equally satisfied. It doesn't mean that one must hold back so that the other one can "catch up", or that one of you has to constantly endure attending club events or getaway when you'd rather meet people online, it means that the both of you have to (at the beginning and the end of the day) remember to make the happiness of your partner the paramount issue.

If you can do that, and avoid or talk over the little things, then you're ready to join the ranks of the "enlightened", even if neither one of you can drink legally. And believe me, there are plenty of people who are twice your age (and more!) who jump into the fray without thinking of the consequences, only to leave far worse for the wear. So, please, take your time, dip your toes in the water, swirl it around, make sure that the temperature is right, then jump in. We'll be waiting for you.

[M1F2KTJ]

Get naked! Everybody get drunk! Have sex in front of another couple. A shared motel room on vacation. A blowjob at the lake. Sometimes getting the party started starts with you. Just be your sexy self and maybe other people will feel horny.

[dumbasarock10]

Originally Posted by M1F2KTJ

Get naked! Everybody get drunk! Have sex in front of another couple. A shared motel room on vacation. A blowjob at the lake. Sometimes getting the party started starts with you. Just be your sexy self and maybe other people will feel horny.

That's the best advice I've heard for this topic. Or for that matter, any topic ever. I like how you think. Yeah, do what they said.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Everybody get drunk? That is not good advice. Alcohol might reduce inhabition. But when consumed liberally it releases monsters.