When it happens should they stay the night or leave?

[TaylorNAries]

We've thought about when it happens and what would happen, then comes do they, he , she(unsure how its coming first) stay the night or thanks for a wonderful evening should do it agian, maybe(who knows?)and they retire the evening? I'm not sure if I would want that especially, the first time.

[xxxboxy]

We have yet to have a sleepover. Not opposed to it just haven't done it.

[N&G]

A lot would depend on how late it is and how far they have to drive home. Depending on circumstances we might invite them to stay but usually they already decided before arriving what they were planning to do. It's more of a courtesy than anything else.

[fun4Ds]

We have spent the night as well as leave after play. We have had guests stay the night as well.

The problem we have is, we snore....... Not sure what its called, but when one of us stops snoring the other begins.

Our playmates usually prefer separate sleeping rooms after finding out the hard way, we snore.

[bathes]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

We have spent the night as well as leave after play. We have had guests stay the night as well.

The problem we have is, we snore....... Not sure what its called, but when one of us stops snoring the other begins.

Our playmates usually prefer separate sleeping rooms after finding out the hard way, we snore.

thx bye

[DigginIt]

Hey guys, the best thing to do, if staying over is an option is to play it by ear. If you are hosting or they are hosting, no one should ever make any assumptions and it's best to have a plan for staying or leaving.

A good deal is going to depend on how comfortable the four of you feel after it's all over. I think Mrs. Diggs and I are very easy going, we laugh a lot, not at them, but we try to be very good hosts.

Everything is going to be awkward at first. When everything starts to settle down, you will know if you are interested in staying the night with them or leaving and hopefully they will too. If you are hosting or it's your hotel room then do not be afraid to say if you don't want them to stay. Something like, 'Hey, (you or you two) were very hot tonight but now we would like some time to spend alone to reflect on the night.' or something along those lines.

We are in the situation like Fun4Ds where we snore so we would not probably stay even if everything was going fantastic unless it was a two bedroom hotel.

[good times]

Having had folks sleep over and slept over with others, I would strongly suggest that for your first time, plan on parting after play. Sleep overs involve a whole different dynamic that, frankly, we wouldn't have been prepared for prior to having some experience.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by good times

Sleep overs involve a whole different dynamic that, frankly, we wouldn't have been prepared for prior to having some experience.

Our last romp, we invited the couple to sleep over. This is a couple we have been playing with almost exclusively. We have a guest bedroom and when the play was over we all retired to our respective rooms. The Mrs and I had more sex, lol.

The next morning we have coffee and sat out on the porch chatting for about an hour when we parted ways. This is a totally different scenario where we tried to get them to stay the weekend Schedules just were not working out as they were moving houses

This is when you have to have more in common than just screwing. We have become very good friends with this couple. We both ride motorcycles, we both are in similar work professions, etc. Lots of things in common all around the board. Now that we are in Florida, we are trying to work out a vacation plan for the future...maybe Hedo II together.

Good times post is right on the mark. I hope everything exceeds your expectations.

[realcplub2]

First what is your preference? Do you want them to stay? Or would you feel more comfortable if they didnt?

Once you have that firmly figured out, grab the ball with both hands and throw with all your might, putting it back where it belongs... IN THIER COURT

Look if as was previously said IF they are driving a distance, Hold the conversation well before shaking hands that night.. if you are comfortable with company for the evening, offer and leave it up to them..

Now for pure consideration and safety concerns.. We always play the first few times, Out.. Hotel - Motel... reservations in advance on the web can get any of the rooms cheaper.. and given the cost and on going cost of a DWI, we plan on an evening away anyway, if alcohol is in the cards.

Why did I include safety? When you play on someone elses home field, Esp if they are people where trust is still being developed.. It can cause all sorts of tiny nagging things.. Worst of which is the possiblity of being caught by hidden cameras.. A horror story that we heard first hand from a couple.. the pics were used as sexual blackmail, requiring them to continue to play with a couple they might have continued to play with anyway, because of a connection, neither knew about to one of thier carreers.. threats of posting pics on bulliten boards, dropping video tapes.. Yes it was back in the day.. to everyone from family to the board of directors..

When is finally ended, it was because the blackmailers were fired from thier postion, and lost thier influence over them.. but it was messy and left them extremely careful..

But it does teach a valuable lesson, about neutral ground

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by bathes

thx bye

What, not even a hug ?

[JustAskJulie]

You have to go with what you are comfortable with. I wouldn't PLAN for them to spend the night (unless you have a spare room and they are travelling from a distance). But, once you play if you want to rest and go again that can be determined at the time. If from there you all decide you want to just sleep together for the night, again that can be decided based on everyone's comfort level (just make sure the two of you discuss it before you offer it to the third - to make sure you are both on the same page).