A few unique questions ...

[funcoupledayton]

I'm glad things are going well for you!

[Cajun2Step]

We have been following this thread but did not feel qualified to comment. We helped raise a young lady who was raped and know the hurt and trauma it can cause. We are most pleased that you have found a good therapist and have/are working through the issues that we know all too well.

Good Luck.
May you both find continued happiness.

[Coupleerotic22]

I'm with Cajun2Step, your OP questions are way out of my depth to answer. But I am glad you sought help and that it appears to be working for you.

[mind_boggler]

Originally Posted by WhatisTruth

A few questions:

Some background information: My wife and I are young (23), have been married for 2 years, and in a relationship for 5. We both are sex-positive advocates and are forward about it in appropriate contexts. We have been looking at the lifestyle for about a year, but are holding off for several reasons.

First, about 7 years ago my wife was raped, and she repressed it and kept it hidden from everybody. When we met, (me being a psychology major) I noticed several things that indicated she would need counseling. Through counselling and the growing intimacy of our relationship we figured out alot about how this traumatic event affected her. For starters, she severly struggled being sexual with people she cares about. This goes through seasons and sometimes we may be sexual a couple times a week, and others it might be a couple times in six months. However, she is completely ok with strangers, because she can emotionally disconnect from them.

Question 1: Considering her background, would swinging be a viable option for us.

Question 2: During her "valley" seasons, would it be a good or bad idea for me to swing alone (she is the one who suggest this and thinks its a great idea)

Question 3: Considering our age, her background, and the seasonal things, how difficult would number 2 be for me to find partner(s)?

Thanks for taking the time to read this!

Hi there,

I have pretty much gone through what you are talking about her. The missus went through a similar traumatic experience. All that I can say is that it took us a long time of just talking about each other and talking about what we would like to do to get past her "issues". Best of luck for everything and I would advise you to go extreme baby steps with this.