Buyer's Remorse

[Elena]

Originally Posted by Elena

I think I understand what you mean and it goes with what my wife and I talked about before we began too. One thing I found that was great was after we met with a couple we would start the fantasy if we liked them, which was great sex for us. Then when we finally had sex with that couple, I watched them a little, and she watched me and the female a little, then when we got home we alked about it and had GREAT sex! But the important thing was if I seen my wife reacting to a guy a certain way, and she never reacted to ME that way, I fought down the jealousy and asked her about it. "hey how come you reacted that way last night when he was doing such and such?" and she would look at me and simply say because when he did that, he did it this way (and would describe it to me). We both realized that though I please my wife, I dont know every way to do something..... The simplest manuever done a different way gets a new result.... SO, this has led to MANY new ways for us to have a great time together!!

Moral, dont think just because SHE reacts differently to a guy means YOUR doing something wrong sir! Discuss it and try it out if she liked it, and the same goes for her! That IS why most of us swing isnt it, to have a good time together?

Elena here. This is why I LOVE this man! Here is an example. I like to be on top. When we are with the couple we usually play with, I usually do this and go to town. But I very rarely do this with Hammer. The reason being is that Hammer is VERY well endowed. It isn't very comfortable for me. The male of the couple we play with is considerably smaller and there is no discomfort. If we switch to missionary I would MUCH rather have Hammer because he litterally fills me up and I love that feeling. With the other guy, in this position, it doesn't do a thing for me, because quite honestly, I don't feel much when he enters me that way. He just isn't very big in the length or width category. We still love playing with them and I'm not going to discount him because of his size. Swinging is about the all around sex, not just one aspect of it.

Anyway, this just goes back to communication. It is a MUST have!