How do you approach a single woman "Unicorn" ?

[mixtupcpl]

Originally Posted by UnicornChasers

I think we really need to dump the kids somewhere and get out again like we did before, because not a damn thing will happen if we don't get out of the house again.

Just read your profile... Very good story Just curious though, did you guys try to pickup that stripper? If not, why not? I think you could have gotten that to go farther "after hours" based on what you wrote.

[UnicornChasers]

Meh, that's a bit of a strange situation, as the girl did give us her phone number at the end of our session, which I promptly put in our phone, she wanted to go out for dinner the next night. The thing was either it was a made up number on her part (it only went straight to voicemail) or I, being slightly inebriated, put it in my phone wrong. She did want to go hang out on the strip right after her shift (we were her last for the night) but I needed an hour or two to sober up, which was why the next day was settled on.

We'd like to think I put it in my phone wrong, but most likely she was just playing the part, it's just strange to see it happen at the end of the night.

[fun4Ds]

Needing a couple of hours to sober up.....

Thats not a good thing, now is it ?

I have a thousand reasons to not drink and swing with our playmates.

The number one reason is ME. I wouldn't want to think I missed out on anything.

Try it, you'll be surprised....

[UnicornChasers]

It was a strip club, I had 2 jack and cokes, we were waiting for 30 minutes before the girl, spent an hour with the girl. In my job it's a very bad thing to have a DUI, so I make sure I have plenty of time to sober up. Probably longer than I actually needed, 2 jack and cokes, over 2 hours, however, I don't take chances with some things.

So yeah, we weren't really there to find a playmate, we were there to get lap dances and to have some mommy daddy time (this was really our first date in like 5 years). We were there to have a good time.

Now, that's not saying I won't drink with playmates, however, I won't get drunk with playmates. My normal MO is a beer or two, and that's it. Even when just at BBQ's I stop drinking once the food it served.

[fun4Ds]

No explanations necessary, I have many friends in the lifestyle who have a few. I like a Bourbon or a cold beer as much as any one, just not on a date.

You said "The thing was either it was a made up number on her part (it only went straight to voicemail)"

Probably, your right ! Your new to the area. Dancers, have lives as well. From the ones we know, none of them go to work hoping that an attractive couple comes along and sweeps them off their feet. Most, who are lifestyle friendly know what you were there for. I think she did her part for as much as she knows you..... I hope you were gratuitous

Go again, we have, many times.

If thats your choice of venue it might take time for people to not only get to know you, but trust you as well.....

Then you said "or I, being slightly inebriated, put it in my phone wrong."

What if this woman did want to get to know you each, a little more.... Slightly inebriated took that from you, not me..... Right ?

All I said/asked was, try it.

I told ya I have a thousand reasons not to drink while out on a date.....

Here are two more, Mrs fun and, our playmate.

You need your whits about you, at all times. Keep in mind you have a responsibility to MrsUC first and foremost, let alone the woman your with. Suppose at any moment either woman said " I need or want outa here, NOW !! " sure would suck thinking I need a couple hrs to drive.

I'm no expert at chasing unicorns but I can be honest. Your going to learn so many things about passion from your wife and a female friend.... Keep your mind and your whits about you at all times, it goes a long way toward your goal, and will serve you well.

[SheLovesTheSun]

I have a friend who may be considered a unicorn (she's been into swinging for, I believe, about 10 years). She's into bdsm and sm and has a master, although I'm not sure for how long. Now the fact that she has a master, I'm unsure if that wouldn't make her a unicorn

Anyway, I digress. I know that if someone approached her master and asked if they could play with her and he says it ok, then she'll be fine with it. She's a pretty approachable person, and even if she ends up not being interested; she'll give people a chance and talk to them, even flirt with them. She'll let them know, politely, if she's not interested, but if she is interested, she'll flirt a lot.

[ConnieJim]

Is she wearing a sign that say"s "Unicorn looking" or "I am bi" or better still "I eat pussy".If so it would be real easy to walk up and start a conversation.You know you already have something in common.
Seriously you approach a single person male or female just like you would at any other time .With the intent to introduce yourself ,start a conversation,and maybe a friendship.The lifestyle issues will come up soon enough.If she lives the lifestyle,or is interested,or curious she will be eager to chat about it.If it ain't her thing,she will run like you threw water on her.
Shy person or not,most everyone is eager to talk about what is on there mind.In a room full of other swingers,talking,dancing,kissing ,ect.Everyone sorta has the same mind set.Hell the energy in the room alone should help spark any conversation with anyone.