We are a new couple - where to look for men to do my wife?

[Engarg]

Hi all, we are a new couple that has never swug before but have talking about it for a while. My wife has this fantasy of being with 2 or 3 men and I am ok with that and want to make it come true for her. she wants me to be there to watch only and again i am ok with that, i would find it a big turn on to watch her.
My question is this, should we go to a swingers club or maybe try and find some guys on-line ??

[fun4Ds]

We welcome you both to the Swingers Board

How would you feel about trying both avenues ?

[Engarg]

We are a little worried about the online route because I guess you just dont know who you are going to be dealing with. We dont want to meet any phyco's y'know. We were thinking that maybe in a club it would be more of a controled atmosphere. We live on the border of L.A. county and Orange county, could you recomend a club to us ?

[sweet_tna]

Hi and

=)

[LFM2]

[ncmd_couple]

Originally Posted by Engarg

We are a little worried about the online route because I guess you just dont know who you are going to be dealing with. We dont want to meet any phyco's y'know. We were thinking that maybe in a club it would be more of a controled atmosphere. We live on the border of L.A. county and Orange county, could you recomend a club to us ?

Welcome to the Swinger's Board! Your club idea is a good idea, and especially if the club allows single males. They will be well screened and it is a safe environment.

[lardub]

Going the club route as mentioned above would be safe as most clubs are very picky about who they let in when it is a single male, most times they have to be accompaned by a couple. We have clubs here in Ontario that have single guy nights and one that off premise club that has friday night house parties for couples and single guys.
If you obt for the online method, I would meet them ahead of time and screen them, trust your instinct, if something raises a red flag, no harm no foul just get a way to contact them and then you can tell them you have found someone you found more suitable and you feel your wife would conect with better.
We have a person here in Ontario who runs house parties at his place the first saturday of every month for Bi men and couples, I haven't attended but have heard he does a great job of checking everyone out runs a tight ship and has never had a problem as you must have ID and he verifys who everyone is ahead of time, then does some type of intake thing once you arrive. he has lots of rules and if you break one out you go.

[JustAskJulie]

First off - Welcome.

As Fun4Ds said, both options can work well. But it sounds like you might be more comfortable with a club. Check with clubs in your area and see if there are some that allow single males. There is one in San Diego that is well known and has a good turn-out of single military men, but the name is not coming to me at the moment.

If you do go the online route you will definitely want to screen them well before you consider actually inviting them for sex. I would suggest doing so by email initially (or the email service provided by whatever site you choose) and then by phone before meeting in person. Make sure they have some swinging experience, and if you are looking for a group / gb type encounter I would suggest that you make sure that they have that experience as well. While some guys would be more than happy to screw your wife, the idea of doing it while you are there, let alone with other guys at the same time might be more than they can really handle (even if their imaginations make them believe they can).

If you are open to black guys you may also want to look for your local Mandingo group (do a search on Google). There is a So Cal Mandingo group. I used to know the guy who ran that pretty well and they were all wonderful guys.