The opportunity.

[Lucifersam76]

I know the wife is interested, and we've almost been in a situation where it has happened with another friend's wife. We have also been in a situation at a strip club together (out of the country) where the stripper gave us both a lap dance and went way over the line with her - which she loved. At this point, I just can't say where exactly this could go with regards to other men, while I've thought about it I would imagine the actual situation is different from any thought I could conjure up.
It didn't work out with our friend, but not because of lack of interest but due to an awkward (and totally unrelated) falling out.
The problem is, she has her tastes regarding sex and one of her priorities is that it is not set up or mechanical in any way, which I respect and understand. The problem of course, is that it makes it difficult to find the right opportunity.

Here's a toast to luck!

[Dave_kat]

First off, welcome to the board.

You'll see a lot of threads on here about being interested and getting started, but yours brings an interesting question to light.

How much does your wife define as mechanical/set-up? Would going online to find some swing partners together, seeing who ya'll might be interested in seem that way?

Perhaps going to a group's meet and greet and meeting others (the intent only being to meet some people of like-mindset) and taking it further if you find someone ya'll like...

Or even perhaps going to a swinger's club, since you both seem to like the adult dancing?

The possibilities are there for totally random encounters, but they take a lot of trust between both of you to really take action, some kind of communication that says "I'm good with this if you are"

Please do ask where the line is drawn at the mechanical/set-up situations. While random partnering can be fun, it's also dangerous as you may not have enough time to truly get to know someone and have that safe feeling 100% of the time.

Good luck though, and happy hunting.

[SW_PA_Couple]

WELCOME, Lucifersam76, to The Swingersboard. The Curious About Swinging forum is a good place to start. Are you and your wife talking about joining a swingers' club. They afford opportunity for new friendships. And there is an assurance that your new friends will have similar inclination.

~M

[Lucifersam76]

Thanks for the welcome guys! It's probably more difficult than it seems. She does not appreciate any kind of sexual activity being "planned". Even our trips to the strip clubs is an impulsive thing. Also, her tastes are incredibly specific. We are a generally well off couple and while we are not particularly snobby, we do appreciate finer restaurants, theater, etc. One thing incredibly important to me is intelligence. I happen to be a very analytical person, yet with an open mind and on some level am turned on by a mind fuck as much as any purely physical contact. Lastly, appearance is important. She is an incredibly attractive woman. She is on the petite side (size 0) with incredible features and presents herself exceptionally well. She has a "type", and seems to be very zero'd in on what she is looking for. Very feminine, shapely body, classy and intelligent, soft touch.

As you can tell, the task at hand is one that may or may not happen. Of course as the male I am, I certainly hope it does! I do respect what she wants though, and want to make sure it's right for her. I don't feel right about pushing her towards any scenario for purely my own benefit. Truth be told, if it never happens I'll still die a happy man. But if it DOES happen? Well, I suppose you can always die with a wider grin!

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by Lucifersam76

. . . I don't feel right about pushing her towards any scenario for purely my own benefit. Truth be told, if it never happens I'll still die a happy man. But if it DOES happen? Well, I suppose you can always die with a wider grin!

Having a view like this, I cannot see how you could possibly go wrong. I have a feeling that you and your wife will be slipping into a very pleasurable experience with this "Lifestyle".

[Lucifersam76]

Originally Posted by SW_PA_Couple

Having a view like this, I cannot see how you could possibly go wrong. I have a feeling that you and your wife will be slipping into a very pleasurable experience with this "Lifestyle".

Thank you for the encouragement! She is absolutely my best friend.

There is something erotic about the ability to observe yourself not only submitting to our own animal instincts, but riding them like a wave.

We're just waiting for the right one.

[fun4Ds]

Welcome to the Swingers Board, Lucifersam76.

It sounds like opportunity awaits you. Keep us posted and join in the forums anytime.

[realcplub2]

First Off, Welcome to the Board.

Seeing you are in Northern Ca, and your tastes.. Do some research, as to what within your area/travel range. as was pointed out, Meets and greets or Clubs given your wifes preferences for being in the moment.

By doing some simple searching you arent taking the "going with the flow" out of the equation, or ruining the impulsiveness. But its like this, You may have a crazy craving for fresh strawberries, but if you dont know where the market IS.. you are out of luck.

One other thing I would like to draw into question, Knowing what we went thru the first few times, and as many others on here can tell you.. Most women, why expressing the desirre for any encounter to be spur of the moment, the reality is, between how they wish to dress, smell, make up, ECT.. the reality is, when going out on a "adventure" most want to "be prepared".

I know this is a daunting challenge, but its best if you discuss this with your lovely, Fantasy meets Reality on a regular basis within this lifestyle, and while the fantasy may be beutiful, reality takes a bit of work to achieve the same results.