Wife has morals

[ncmd_couple]

Originally Posted by wiretuggin

We are going back to the mountains in two weeks, yes with a hot tub, yes with the same couple who are now trading pics with us.

Wiretuggin,

Is the wife of the other couple directly involved in this conversation and picture sharing? Has your wife talked to her privately or openly about what the expectations are for that trip? Everyone needs to be on the same page or there is going to be some drama.

I did a google search for "christian swingers" and got a lot of hits. There are a number of discussions about religion and swinging here are on the swingers board as well. Your wife should do some exploration here as well.

S

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Alura

There is a website for christian swingers. I'm sorry I don't know the link but someone else here will surely post it. Perhaps you can encourage your wife to have a look at it.

Liberated Christians Polyamory, Swing, Biblical, Sybian Cyber Center

There you go.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by wiretuggin

For all the support, I thank you guys, For all the Flamers heres an update.

I don't think there's any flamers here. I find that very rare here in fact. What you got was good advice. Advice that disagrees with your view isn't necessarily flaming

Originally Posted by wiretuggin

She stated she will be in the hot tub totally nude with us, assuring we would each get a nipple full of salt, followed by a shot of tequila, and a bite of lime. Shes not committing to anything but that, and I will not push past that. The whole original argument was basicly denial of her own feelings and premise it was a way for me to sleep with other women, which at this moment Im in no rush to do. I just want her to enjoy herself.

I would have a frank, open discussion coming from the other view. It sounds like so far the question being answered is what she wants to do, thinks she is going to do. I'd have a discussion directly relating to what her limits are for this event. If she decides she wants to have sex with the other guy, does she need to consult with you first? What about oral sex? What about mutual masturbation? Etc..etc..etc.. Be clear. Misunderstandings can lead to drama.

Once you know what these limits are, make sure you have a similar discussion about limits with the other couple. Make sure everyone is on the same page.

[mixtupcpl]

Still tons of red flags... Maybe more. These threads seem to go like this a lot. First post is a cautionary tale. Tons of awesome advice given by the regulars. Person comes back with a sort of "I told you so" type reply stating that all is well. Eventually it seems to lead to either a disappearance of the OP or a disaster.

You say she is afraid that this is just a "way for you to sleep with other women". Thats bad. Because that IS what this is in some sense, is it not? I mean of course you want nothing but her happiness, etc. But part of it is you getting into the action as well, no? Unless you are saying you are opening the door for her to have her freedoms and you to limit yourself to watching or to MMF. If thats what you want, then possibly you are on the right track. But you say that other women are something you are in "no rush to do" (not never, but no rush). Are you being honest with yourself here, or are you really just deferring a timebomb? Don't assume that her feelings re: you and other women will change just because years on she's had numerous partners and you have not. It doesn't work that way.

Also, are you 100% certain the other wife is fully included now? My spider sense tells me she is not.

Either way, good luck and just proceed with caution! There are never "flames" here. These folks are some of the most thoughtful and caring I've ever seen on ANY forum bar none.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

Either way, good luck and just proceed with caution! There are never "flames" here. These folks are some of the most thoughtful and caring I've ever seen on ANY forum bar none.

I'll double echo that. I've been on the Internet and it's precursors since 1986. I've never seen a better forum. Period.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Liberated Christians Polyamory, Swing, Biblical, Sybian Cyber Center

There you go.

Thanks for "havin' my back," Two4youinswva!

Mr. Alura