Getting ready checklist for first trip to on-premise club

[Hedonismo]

The Mr. and I are getting ready to go to a club for the 1st time in two weeks and this will be our 1st intro into swinging. We have received excellent advice through the swingersboard, as well as advice from some great new friends, but would like our list double checked we are doing everything proactively as we can to ensure we have a fun experience. So here is what we have discussed-

We each made a list of what we would like to experience and agreed on the terms. We agree that at any time either partner has the right to change their minds-not to negotiate new play terms, but if one is uncomfortable for any reason we insist that person speak up immediately! DO NOT TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM! The chatter on the boards also repeatedly discusses communication with the other play partners, and we agree that we will have to sack up and just talk about what we are looking for, willingness to participate and precautions up front.

We are really excited (I am borderline obsessed, in a good way of course)

So please let us know if we have forgotten anything!!
Thank you so very much!

[NCfuncouple98]

First of all, go with absolutely no expectations. You don't want to leave disappointed!

I would recommend you go with no intention of playing the first time to the club. Take the tour of the club, mingle, and check out the surroundings.

Is this an on-premise or off-premise club?

That was what we did for our first visit, and I'm glad we did. It brought out more questions and discussions that we hadn't thought of, even though we had been discussing it for quite a while.

If you do happen to meet someone/couple that you both connect with and want to, I wouldn't turn it down if you all connect and agree that you're ready, but just don't go with that expectation. If you go with that expectation, and the night wears on without meeting anyone you both like, you may make a choice that you would regret later.

Have fun and let us know how it goes!

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by Hedonismo

We are really excited (I am borderline obsessed, in a good way of course)

So please let us know if we have forgotten anything!!
Thank you so very much!

This is more advice than an item on a checklist, but here goes:

If you feel you are that excited (and I am excited for you!), then I suggest you try to take a measured approach before taking any step you decide to take. There can always be a next time, so please don't do anything too quickly. I know that feeling you have when your head is buzzing, everything is so new, you can't believe you may get the chance to {insert whatever here}. Just make sure you each take the time to make sure it's right.

And good luck! I hope you will post some more beforehand, and also let us know how it goes afterward.

[Hedonismo]

Is this an on-premise or off-premise club?

On-premise club.

Thank you for the words of wisom, exactly what we are eager for.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Hedonismo

Is this an on-premise or off-premise club?

On-premise club.

Thank you for the words of wisom, exactly what we are eager for.

For an On-premise club I recommend the following.

• 1 - Happy fun ball (do not taunt).
• 2 - Treats for the helper monkey.
• 3 - Distemper shots (helper monkey issue).
• 4 - Magnum XXL condoms, at least a dozen, make sure they are new.
• 5 - Cookies or muffins for the bake sale.
• 6 - Extra batteries for the camera.

That should about cover it.

[iapr]

I'll echo what the others have said (except for the monkey distemper shots)

Go with the intention of meeting other people and finding out more about the club and how people tick. If you go in with any specific sexual scenarios as an objective you will come away disappointed.

Make your goals to meet and talk with a number of people and to dance and mingle and have fun exploring new territorys and new experiences with your own partner.

You will not be attracted to everyone at the club nor will everyone be attracted to you. Your male half will only be attracted to about 60% or less of females at the club. Your female half will only be attracted to about 5% or less of the males of the club and however many females she will be attracted to will depend on her level of bisexuality, so that could range from 0% to 80t%. Have a plan in place for how to deal with that discrepancy.

Be spotlessly clean and immaculately groomed from head to toe (that should go without saying but you'd be suprised how many do not follow that advice)

Inform the club owners/management that this is your first time to the club and have them show you around and introduce you to some trusted regulars to help you feel welcome.

Do not feel that since you have been getting excited in anticipation of this and that you are in a swingers club that you HAVE to play with anyone. If the attraction, chemistry and comfort are not there, do not proceed. Don't be afraid to walk away and come back another day.

If you are mood to have sex with each other but aren't feeling the love with anyone else, in most on-premise clubs it is perfectly acceptable to have sex with only your own partner in the group room.

Treat everyone with curtesy and respect and do not accept anyone treating you less. If anyone is annoying, disrespectfull etc just walk away and don't burn up any more time with them.

Most importanly, HAVE FUN and then come back and tell us how it went!!!

[Willing29]

Originally Posted by iapr

Do not feel that since you have been getting excited in anticipation of this and that you are in a swingers club that you HAVE to play with anyone. If the attraction, chemistry and comfort are not there, do not proceed. Don't be afraid to walk away and come back another day.

I agree with iapr, do not feel that since you are going to a on-prem club that you have to do anything but have fun. We have been to a few clubs about a half dozen times or so and have not played with anyone but ourselves. Eventually it might happen but there should be no pressure at all. That way you won't do anything you might regret the next day. Good Luck and just enjoy yourself.

[JustAskJulie]

Ignore the Chicup Monkey... evidently someone has been rattling his cage and he is irritated.

I will repeat what others have said about your first trip to an on-premise club... go with no expectations of play. Plan to go and check the place out and have fun with each other. If anything else happens, it's a bonus (and you won't be dissapointed).

Clothing: Where something that you feel both comfortable AND sexy in. If you feel both of those, you will be confident.

Make sure you get a tour. If they don't offer you one upfront. Ask for it.

Seating: Choose a seat that is in the line of traffic, not in a corner where people have to work to get to you. Near the door (but not next to), near the entrance to the playrooms, or near the dancefloor are usually good choices. This allows you to easily access people who are walking by and them to access you.

Don't wait for people to approach you. This is the biggest mistake people make which often leads to the biggest complaint (no one talked to us so we didn't have a good time). It's up to you to make sure you have a good time, not anyone else. If you see people you want to meet, approach them with a friendly hello and introduce yourselves.

If you aren't ready to play (or interested in the couple you are talking to) make it clear very early in the conversation. Do not waste their time or yours, by spending the whole evening (or even a half hour) with someone you have no intention of playing with.

If you feel like getting frisky, go for it. Even if you don't play with anyone else, go take advantage of the playrooms and play together. You'll either find that you really enjoy playing in front of people, really hate it, or that the next thing you know that hot couple who was playing next to you is now playing with you and you like it.

[HappyCpl]

A few weeks ago Mrs. HC and I went to our 1st on-premises club. We sat in the parking lot for almost 45 minutes before deciding to go inside. We took the tour, sat around downstairs, and eventually went into a private room upstairs to enjoy each other. We'd never been able to make love with such abandon(and noise!!)due to the small ones at home for years, so being able to grunt, groan, dirty-talk, and make the boards holding the bed up creak and crack, was exciting!!


We didn't meet many people that night, mainly digging each other, but the next time we met a few couples. We've since been invited into a local group that's having its 1st meet-n-greet tonight.


We're taking things slowly, and there hasn't been anyone else in our lovemaking yet, but who knows? Since we're new to this I think it's better to be picky than to dive in headfirst.

[twohots4u2]

Great comments by all. As a former boy scout, I always like to be prepared. So, our recommendation would be to take a small handbag or shave kit (swing kit) with:

a. Deoderant
b. Breath mints
c. Your favoriate condoms
d. Your favoriate lube
e. Small pack of tissues

For example, we were at a party last week and my gal was playing with a guy who had a very large cock. She asked for a condom, someone handed her one from the dresser, and it was too small to get on his cock. Fortunately, I had some Trojan Magnuns our swing kit, handed one to her, she rolled it on him, and the fun was on. Otherwise, it would have been a big disappointment for both of them.

[Hedonismo]

Mission Accomplished! Our 1st trip to the club, and our 1st swinging experience was AMAZING! Thank you everyone for the words of advice as they really helped us feel more relaxed going.
We received a guided tour of the club, which the club itself is fabulous. They served dinner, had some announcements etc., then the band started; we only lasted a couple of songs before we went upstairs, but we enjoyed dancing with another hot couple. We headed to the mirrored group room 1st totally awesome, showered, and went to a different room with an upper bunk bed so we could enjoy watching and hearing from above. The couple we had danced with saw us and invited us to their little fuck spot so we accepted. They were totally cool with us being new and what are boundaries were so we enjoyed each other's company for a couple of hours. The experience was completely enjoyed by all and we are already planning our next trip to the club.

[xyzzy07]

Fantastic! Glad to hear your first club experience was so good. Things will get even better as you get to know more of the regulars.

[SW_PA_Couple]