Safety Plans when meeting new people?

[femnewb4u2]

Count me among the similar procedure as Mr Essex. In my case it is for family reasons. I come from a large one. A few in the area are high profile in certain arenas. I physically resemble one enough that some have mistaken us for each other. Out of respect for them I use my nickname until I know all is well. And as a single female working to practice safety and sanity in this journey holding back information has a practical application as well for me.

[twoforone100]

Originally Posted by CXXC

We utilize a few safty plans such as meeting in public at first or having them come to our home after getting to know them well enough.

Then there is always.....
Tarus .40 cal within reach for me.
.38 ladysmith for Mrs. CXXC.
Nuff Said

exactly except it is a .45 for him and a .380 for her.. he always has his benchmade and then there is the dog...


However as fuse said... if someone is gonna rob or do something they would have an easier time with less " tracks" doing it another way.

[JustAskJulie]

We meet in a neutral location first. We prefer to meet people at socials or on-premise clubs, but for local couples we do occasionally meet at a bar or restaurant. If things work out and we are totally comfortable with them we might invite them to our house. We feel more comfortable with that than going to their house. It takes a higher comfort level for us to do the latter.

We don't give out last names unless necessary, although quite often people end up finding them out if they go to dinner with us and we have a reservation or are on a waiting list. The area where we live has a very high % of gov and military workers / contractors, so discretion seems to be a pretty common agenda. We don't give out where Pet works, and if people ask what he does we just give a general answer. If people ask where we live, we also give a general answer (unless we are planning to invite them over).

Safety goes beyond these things. I think the most important thing is to trust your gut. Get to know people a bit first, talk to them and ask questions. If you don't feel 100% comfortable with them, then don't take it to the next level. Also, watch your drinks (as we've read and heard too many horror stories). Keep your drinks in your hand and don't set them down. If you set your drink down, plan on emptying it and starting fresh. It's not always easy to do at parties, but it's in your best interest.

[socolais]

Our safety plan hasn't been mentioned yet in this thread. We meet new potential playmates at local house parties. There's no way to completely eliminate the risks, but there is safety in numbers. We know regular members of the party look out for each other as friends would do. I feel confident that if anyone were to take advantage of my wife during playtime against her wishes, the matter would be resolved quickly by any of several nearby men. The mood of the party is very polite and folks just don't want to get labled as "pushy". The probability of needing a stronger safety net is pretty low in my opinion.

Back when we first started, we met a few couples at local resturants. The no-shows and the low mutual chemistry pattern convinced us that it was a waste of time for us. Parties have been so successful that we haven't looked for another solution.

We feel safe attending a party at a house we've never been to, and hosts we've never met as long as we get a referral from someone we know and trust. It's all in the networking.

The networking keeps our dance card as full as we want it. There's no shortage of playmates.

Condoms are also optional for us - no one wants to be known as a "Typhoid Mary" at the parties.

It all works out OK for us....

[sexylady1970]

We use either our screen name or initials with the first few emails. No faces either. We always meet in a public location like a club or party. That way if we don't click there are usually no hard feelings. Only one time did we invite a couple to our home but only after we met them for a few hours first.

After that not much else to say other than we will not go to someone elses home or hotel room until we know them quite well first. We are safer in our own home

[TwoLittleBirds]

Get to know the people's personality a bit before we even meet in person.

Don't share last names right away.

Meet out of town (though that's more of a discretion thing.)

Study kenpo karate.