Looking for first experience with another couple

[dsforthree]

We are a very secure couple looking for our first experience with another couple. We have tried craigs and found a bunch of dishonest people there. We have had 4 or 5 meetings set up only to find that they were a no show. Can anyone give us some advice on how to make our first couples experience come to be? We are in the Phily area and just can't seem tto find the right place or people. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. We are so ready but now we need the right, real couple.

[NCfuncouple98]

Ahh, King of Prussia, my old stomping ground. Grew up near Phoenixville.

Have you tried signing up on a swing website? Swing Lifestyle is one that we use.

Are there any local clubs in your area? Look in the forums section under Club Reviews.

[IvoryTowers]

Well, we're real, although I can't promise we're right for you or vice versa. And we're local.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by dsforthree

We are a very secure couple looking for our first experience with another couple.

to The Swingersboard.

Based upon what we learned with our early experience, finding the right facility for making on-line connections is important. We believe that the S L S (Swing Lifestyle) Web site is most effective. Along with that, we recommend a policy of speaking with both the man and the woman on the telephone as the best way of avoiding men who are representing themselves as couples in their on-line profiles. You will still encounter couples who will fail to show at the appointed time and place. Just something to which you need to become accustomed and learn to disregard without a lot of upset.

Using multiple search methods brings the best result. Don't depend entirely on making contact on-line. Go to meet-n-greet events. Ask people about house parties. Become members at a swinger's club.

Happy hunting.

~Michael

[NotSorry]

KOP is incredibly close to us. Set up a profile on Swing Life Style if you haven't already. There are lots of people in our area. Take a look and send some emails. Welcome to the board!

[dsforthree]

Thank you for this help. Any chance of meeting someplace near KOP so you could introduce us to swinging?

Sheila

[dsforthree]

thank you Michael. we do make the voice verification as part of our rules now. So many guys are just playing around. also so many guys say their wife will want to do this but it isn't true. Now we voice verify. We will set something up on Swing Lifestyle and hope for better results. It is hard to believe it is so difficult to find a couple to play with and form a friendship.

sheila

[IvoryTowers]

Voice verification is one thing, but you have to understand there are rules for you as well as couples you want to meet. You can't just email someone and say "meet with us and introduce us to swinging!"

1. People want to know what you look like. This is about attraction after all. Swing Lifestyle is good for that.

2. People want to know about you. Again, they don't want to just show up at a hotel and find out then that you're into only soft swap, or whatever. You need to make contact, discuss likes and dislikes, get to know each other a little before actually meeting.

3. You need to prove you are serious and real and that's not done by simply saying "we're real" and "we want to meet." You have to put in time getting to know people and making contact. Honestly, how does anyone reading your messages know you aren't trying to scam people? You aren't revealing anything about yourself!

[iapr]

I agree with what the others have said about getting on an actual swingers website as opposed to Craigslist.

then I would advise to finding some lifestyle clubs and meet and greets in your area and contact them about attending one of their functions. Attending a meet/greet or club may initially sound intimidating but in reality they are the best places to start meeting real people face to face.

All websites are full of phantoms and fakes and looky-loos and it can be hard to filter through all the fakes and wannabes to find sincere people. If you go to a meet/greet or club there will be real people standing right in front of you in the real physical world. You will know more about someone in 5 minutes worth of talking to them than you would in months worth of email and cyber chat.

Swinging is a contact sport and in order to play you have to get out onto the field and meet your fellow players in the physical world.

[xyzzy07]

iapr, you couldn't have said it better. A club is also more fun -- flirting, sexy dancing, and more. Come one, is meeting for dinner really conducive to sexual attraction?

[JustAskJulie]

To know how to guide you to a better end, it is helpful if we know what you are doing so far.

From the sounds of it you've been using CL to try to meet people and have recently added the step of talking on the phone prior to scheduling a meet.

I would suggest....
1. Create a profile on a dedicated swinger site like Swing Lifestyle
2. Browse that site for parties/clubs in your area and check them out. Clubs are by far a better way to meet people than the one on one scenario (IMO anyway) as it gives you the opportunity to meet many couples in one night and you don't have to worry about no-shows.

[cplnuswing]

Just adding to the chorus here, but set up a profile on a true swingers site and be prepared to do the work to keep up with it if you want to be successful in meeting good couples through the online contact followed by dinner/drinks followed by ? route. It's more miss than hit, and it takes time to sort through the no way, no hows to get to the maybe's. We have met compatible couples this way, but really prefer the club route.

Better idea is go to a club or M&G. Meet lots of people all at once, it's a fun atmosphere no matter what happens, so it's a win-win and really less nerve wracking than getting into a online-scheduled one on one meet that has zero chemistry in person and is awkward from the start.

One last bit of advice you hit on yourself. Even though you are ready and rarin' to to go, be patient and make sure you get the right couple for you. You will have a lot better experience than if in the heat of the moment you quite listening to the voice in your head saying no and instead say yes when you're really not sure.

Good luck!

[dsforthree]

thank you so much for this help. we will follow this advice!

[dsforthree]

good advice. We need to get to a club for sure

[twoforone100]

We agree that Swing Lifestyle works. Every couple has their own " rules" We hate the phone. We almost never give out our # til after we have met people. We tend to chat on IM. We do get out to lifestyle clubs. We don't click well at clubs usually too loud to hear much. We have learned a few tips on how to weed out the fakes. Profiles with certs help. Couples willing to meet at a club. Friends of friends. Good luck in your search and in the lifestyle.. It can be a ton of fun.