are all swinging ladies fit and attractive?

[lolagirl]

I do have a question - again we are totally new and have not experienced or ventured out into this lifestyle yet. In general, are the ladies all fit and in good shape? Mr. Lolagirl says I could put ladies half my age to shame, and I do have a shapely body and pretty face but I'm by no means perfect in any way. I'm just curious as to the type of women who have fun? Are all shapes and sizes out there? I want to be attractive to other men (and women) but if everyone is Barbiedollish, then should I be concerned?

I guess the same question applies to the men as well?

[cari and mar]

Originally Posted by lolagirl

I do have a question - again we are totally new and have not experienced or ventured out into this lifestyle yet. In general, are the ladies all fit and in good shape? Mr. Lolagirl says I could put ladies half my age to shame, and I do have a shapely body and pretty face but I'm by no means perfect in any way. I'm just curious as to the type of women who have fun? Are all shapes and sizes out there? I want to be attractive to other men (and women) but if everyone is Barbiedollish, then should I be concerned?

I guess the same question applies to the men as well?

Howdy Lolagirl,

The composition of swinging community is no different than society at large... there are barbies and there are BBW, and most everyone else falls somewhere between. There is definitely something for everyone. Sometimes the club you visit, or the site you sign up for doesn't match your tastes, but in general, it is no exaggeration to say there is EVERYTHING out there.

Long story short, no, there is absolutely no reason to be concerned. At all.

[adultfun6972]

feeling attractive yourself, makes you attractive. people come together , not to judge but to have fun. the people that are looking to have fun, are looking for others that are mentally arousing, confident, and not ashamed of themselves. a happy person is an attractive person.

[lolagirl]

Thank you both so much for your response. I agree, if you're happy in your own skin, that's all that matters. I feel more confident now. I can't wait for our first adventure to the club. I'll post once we go. I'm really looking forward to it but with no expectations. Justing going will be fun in itself.

[Drkknight]

Originally Posted by lolagirl

I do have a question - again we are totally new and have not experienced or ventured out into this lifestyle yet. In general, are the ladies all fit and in good shape? Mr. Lolagirl says I could put ladies half my age to shame, and I do have a shapely body and pretty face but I'm by no means perfect in any way. I'm just curious as to the type of women who have fun? Are all shapes and sizes out there? I want to be attractive to other men (and women) but if everyone is Barbiedollish, then should I be concerned?

I guess the same question applies to the men as well?

It takes all kinds. I have been in situations with all types of people, some in shape, some not. It's really about the energy you put into it. If you are comfortable with your body I'm sure your playmates will be as well. Relax....enjoy yourself, and if you are ever in DC................

[arvcpl]

Swinging is not like Hollywood porn movies. If you have ever seen any real human beings before, that is what you will encounter in swinging.

There are all types of people at clubs ranging from the beautifull to the hideous. Some you will find attractive and many you will not. Some will find you attractive and some will not.

Our experience is that most women are accepted for sexual purposes but most men are not. When it comes to noncommitted recreational sex, men are not picky but women are. It is your husband that should be worried and should be the one getting the make-over and hitting the gym.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by lolagirl

In general, are the ladies all fit and in good shape?

In a word - no.

Originally Posted by lolagirl

I guess the same question applies to the men as well?

In another word - nope.

As everyone else has said, swingers come in all shapes, sizes, colors, religions, political leanings, economic backgrounds...

Next time you walk into any business, whether it be a store, doctor's office, or any other business, look around you and check out the people there. That's what swingers look like - everyday people. They are, after all, everyday people when they're not swinging...

[fun4Ds]

As with anything in life, the advertisements are misleading.

A sandwich never looks like the picture on the menu, but their still tasty



Sorry, I'm starving at the moment and horny. I'm confused again

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Sorry, I'm starving at the moment and horny. I'm confused again

I needed this morning laugh!!

[LFM2]

If you go shopping at your local mall, you'll get a good idea of the types of people you would meet up at a swingers club. At our meet & greets, there are various sizes of men and women. Some are large, some are small, most are in between and everyone has fun.

[dnmnms]

This has been one of my biggest worries in the LS.
Having lost over 100 pounds to get healthy I am very insecure when it comes time to shed the clothes.

But, I have found that others are alot less judgemental than I am on myself.
As others have said....there are all kinds of shapes out there. Just be confident and have fun.

Melody

[NCfuncouple98]

Originally Posted by dnmnms

But, I have found that others are alot less judgemental than I am on myself.

I think this is very true for a lot of us. We see every little imperfection or something about our bodies we don't like. Others don't. We've seen all shapes and sizes get naked at an on-premise club. Does it still intimidate me to see a drop-dead gorgeous woman with (what I see as) no imperfections near me?

Some will be attracted to you, some won't be. Enjoy the ones that are, and forget about the ones that aren't.

Mrs. NC

[shymxcpl]

Reading the responses I think I must object.... I have to disagree because although there are all types of people in the LS, I have found that generally swingers tend to be a little more self conscious of their bodies than people at the mall. I mean lets face it... at some point we're going to be in a pool or beach or club naked and with people around us so we stop being complacent and comfortable and we at least make a small effort to look as best we can.

I'm not saying that everyone at the clubs are Brad and Angelina types, but I am saying that I think that everyone tries their best or SHOULD try their best to look good.

I do agree however that the best thing you can do to improve you appearance is to carry around your self confidence. A woman that feels pretty, looks pretty... just don't over do it.

I've always seen swinging as a kind of continued dating after you've found that special someone who you want to be with for the rest of your life. Now if you think about it that way, remember when you were dating? Same thing.

As for guys... I read a blog post where the male half of the couple was ranting about how sometimes we men let go because we have a beautiful and fit partner. They use the assumption "If they want to play with her they'll have to play with me". It was very interesting since this is exactly what happens in the taking one for the team scenario. Anyway he, on behalf of all ladies, kindly asks all men in the LS to get with the program and do their best to look presentable. I thought it was very interesting and TRUE.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by shymxcpl

Reading the responses I think I must object.... I have to disagree because although there are all types of people in the LS, I have found that generally swingers tend to be a little more self conscious of their bodies than people at the mall. I mean lets face it... at some point we're going to be in a pool or beach or club naked and with people around us so we stop being complacent and comfortable and we at least make a small effort to look as best we can.

I'm not saying that everyone at the clubs are Brad and Angelina types, but I am saying that I think that everyone tries their best or SHOULD try their best to look good.

I won't argue with this part of your post because for the most part I agree with it. My reference to going into any business, or the mall for that matter, was to point out that swingers are just ordinary people that you see every day in vanilla life, and look virtually identical to the folks you'll find just about anywhere. The folks you find at a swinger's club or party will be a cross section of the population - just like folks at the mall. That's all I meant

True - when we're out for a night at the club or going to a party, we do want to look good, and we take some extra time 'sprucing up,' as it were. And yes, we do tend to be a bit more self-critical than most vanilla people - but think about it - we're probably going to be naked in front of others, whereas most vanillas won't. Being self conscious in that context is understandable.

My entire point was that sometimes we tend to make more out of it than it really is. It's easy to get so caught up in what we perceive as a physical flaw that we just can't let go and have fun - especially when it's something that isn't really a flaw at all. I'm not saying that we should just let ourselves go and tell people to deal with it - I'm saying that we don't have to put such unneeded pressure on ourselves to conform to what others might consider to be 'fit.' Some of us will never be a size 2 - well, big fat hairy deal. It's more about the total package than any one piece. Yes, a size 2 may initially turn more heads, but everyone who has been to a club has seen a size 2 'strike out' while a size 22 is having an absolute blast. At the end of the day attractiveness is all subjective anyway - you will be attractive to some, and not attractive to others. Whether you're a size 2 or a size 22 has little bearing on that fact.

[BiloxiCouple]

Having been in the lifestyle a little while and volunteering to help out at the local club. I have had a very small opportunity to take phone calls if the owners were busy with something else at the moment. Most of the time it was just giving directions and answering a few basic questions. I had a guy call and ask if there were any pretty women there that night. My wife was standing right by me and I said yes they are all very good looking. It was his tone and attitude that ended the conversation very quickly.