Are all swinging ladies fit and attractive?

[shymxcpl]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

My entire point was that sometimes we tend to make more out of it than it really is. It's easy to get so caught up in what we perceive as a physical flaw that we just can't let go and have fun - especially when it's something that isn't really a flaw at all.

AMEN TO THAT! This is totally true. That's why I think most of us agree that the most important step towards looking good is feeling good about yourself.

I myself, know I'm not perfect... but with the right mood lighting (if not candle light)...

The point IS to have fun and not worry too much about the little unimportant things like if swinging ladies are fit. There are people who are fun to be around and then there are people who aren't, and fitness has got nothing to do with that.

[Jeok]

It is my observation that women involved in the Swinging Lifestyle do take better care of themselves and their appearance. It doesn't really matter what size they are, they just highlight themselves by being more alluring in all aspects. Maybe it is the confidence that they are attractive and desireable to others than their SOs. Whatever it is, makes them like Harry Mudd's women on the original Star Trek. The ancient name for it is "Glamour" and thought to be magical, which it is. I've seen dumpy housewives become alluring sirens after having their first swinging encounter ... and forever after. IMHO Thank You For Your Indulgence

[JustAskJulie]

No one is perfect, Lolagirl As others said, swingers are just like everyone else, there are fat swingers, skinny swingers and everything in between. The key is that you are comfortable in your own body.

[Powerglide]

While there are certainly exceptions, it's my impression that men in the lifestyle are not very concerned with looks. If a lady is fun to be with and likes sex, most guys are delighted to spend time with her. I might add that I think that the ladies are not too terribly concerned about looks either, which is lucky for me. As soon as you see what everyone else looks like, you'll realize that you can relax and just have fun.

[Chicup]

This is an old thread but it is an important topic and not for the usual self affirmations about personal attractiveness.

It's all location location location. I think many people get turned off from swinging as either being too pretty or too ugly based on their first event.

The problem is that the event itself may determine the looks of the crowd. We are on two add websites and have been to two multi-day events this year. In both websites and events we were/are at the opposite ends of the looks spectrum.

At one event we were, despite being 40ish thought of as the young crowd where the few younger couples actively complained how old and unattractive the majority was. At another we were in the C list where half the men had 6 pack abs, the women had flat stomaches and the silicone was plentiful.

First event would have been a turn off and we would have said swingers were all old and out of shape.

Second event we would have said swingers are way to good looking and we can't compete as an average couple.

Location location location.

[josmonkey80]

the best way to look at it is.. look at the general population... some are fit, some are heavier and most are in-between.. people of all shapes and sizes swing, and often is in the slightly older crowd...

[StewartP]

I have to say, that in general, the women are in better shape than the men, especially in the over 40's.

C'mon guys, lose a few kilos and get jogging, it'll make you fitter and hotter and more shaggable!

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by StewartP

C'mon guys, lose a few kilos and get jogging, it'll make you fitter and hotter and more shaggable!

In america we say "get off yer fat ass!"

[LovesHisMusic]

I honestly don't know the answer to this question, but I the thought crosses my mind ... are all men in the lifestyle well endowed? Does it matter? I would be more attracted to a woman, man, couple, who I could laugh with, have fun with, and enjoy time with. If I am thinking about my tummy pooch (which I earned, thank you! ), then I am not having fun and why bother? Life is way too short to worry about those you don't impress. Can't make 'em all happy, now can we? Besides, a fine mind is more pleasurable, for me anyway, than a flat tummy. Just sayin.

[Agile_Galaxo]

Originally Posted by lolagirl

I do have a question - again we are totally new and have not experienced or ventured out into this lifestyle yet. In general, are the ladies all fit and in good shape?

My wife is a yummy bar. Delicious. Sensuous. Glorious.

[celtic239]

I believe the real key question of the original post was "will I be attractive to other men". My wife and I both hit the gym on a regular basis for allegedly health/fitness reasons. Truth be told one of the main reasons we both started going to the gym was to look good for swingers events. However "looks" are just one part of "attraction". A person could have a killer body but the personality of Attila the Hun so we would certainly pass on them.
As others have posted, the same body types you encounter in your daily life you will see in the LS. Are we attracted to certain body types more then others, absolutely. But that is only the first step for us.

[Just Passing By]

Swingers , like Naturists come in all shapes and sizes. Neither type of gathering resembles a porn set.

Going with the stereotype/ averages , since swinging spectrum activities generally involve couples with signifigent time together, and maturity in both their relationship and life experiences , they will skew older than typical singles bar.

Some people will express an intrest in only very attractive/ model quality. Some people are open to a wide range of physical types. Some people prefer the BBWs / beefy guys.

Once again self confidence , personalities that mesh, and sexual enthusiasm of agreeable flavor individually and combined are more important.

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Chicup

First event would have been a turn off and we would have said swingers were all old and out of shape.

Second event we would have said swingers are way to good looking and we can't compete as an average couple.

Location location location.

This is a good observation. While generally the attendees at the events we've been to over the years have been broad in the attractiveness spectrum, there have been enough that have skewed hard enough one way or the other for us to see this variance and how it would affect a person's first impression of swinging.

In keeping with the saying "Swingers look like the people in PTA meetings", I guess some PTAs are hotter than others.

[sexywetwife]

I am not in shape, but wouldnt consider myself a BBW...

I like women of all shapes and sizes, hubby likes the women with a bit of meat on them.

If the chemistry is there, we dont care