Your Top 3?

Babysteps · 02-19-2009, 07:42 AM

A question for those who are curious about the L/S, but, as yet have no experience, those WITH experience, feel free to respond also.

Was thinking the other day about what a "top 3" list of aspects that make you most reluctant to take the plunge, would include??

Here's mine, ( best as I can say at this time)

1. Even WITH protection, fear of STD's, ( as in simply kissing, or oral genital contact). As I understand it, if I'm going to give my swing partner some oral pleasure, a condom is probably not gonna be involved here.

2. Dealing with the insecurities I have about MY OWN body.

3. Fear of rejection ( as in inability to engage potential play partners)

Honourable mention would also go to possible jealousy issues, but I'm pretty sure I could find a way to deal with this.

dnmnms · 02-19-2009, 09:40 AM

Hmmmm...I had to think about this one for a few before I posted.

I can only answer for myself (F) here.

My only real hesitation in this LS is dealing with my own insecurities.

Without going into a long drawn out response, I have been larger sized and then down to a smaller size and then back in the middle.

When we 1st got started it was really hard for me to get comfortable. I have had a little reconstructive surgery and that has helped but still had a little hesitation initially.

There hasnt been any issues to this point of any jealousy with us.

Our experiences had been very positive for us both.

Great question!

Melody

**fun4Ds** · 02-22-2009, 09:08 AM

Babysteps, I know you posed this as a question. But I think you covered the answers with your own examples. They are the top three as I have seen.

Everyone faces a list of aspects that make you most reluctant to take the plunge. These three ? I don't know if they ever get resolved or are gone forever. We are all humans after all, full of insecurities. I do believe they are minimized to the point of insignificance, either by understanding ourselves and our partners, or even the concept of any alternative lifestyle.

Sonja&Brett · 02-22-2009, 09:38 AM

Me, Brett, would be fully in the lifestyle without hesitation. Sonja, on the other hand, says that it is going down a dangerous road. The implication being that bringing other people into our intimate relationship could bring complications that we can't predict. Still, being very turned on by the erotic charged atmosphere at swing clubs, we play at the fringes. We watch and like to be watched. Sometimes dance with other partners. Our favorite place is Sea Mountain Nude Spa. Every couple is welcome there regardless of the their level of participation. You can just enjoy being naked in the warm desert sun, get aroused by the sexy atmosphere, play openly with each other, or invite other couples into your play. It's all your choice.

realcplub2 · 02-22-2009, 10:16 AM

I concur with Fun4Ds..

Despite HOW much experience you accumulate, The three that were listed opriginally can pop up at anytime, Esp, when playing with new people..

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02-19-2009, 07:42 AM	#1 (permalink)
Babysteps Here to Stay Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 71 Location: Canada Status: Female	Your Top 3? A question for those who are curious about the L/S, but, as yet have no experience, those WITH experience, feel free to respond also. Was thinking the other day about what a "top 3" list of aspects that make you most reluctant to take the plunge, would include?? Here's mine, ( best as I can say at this time) 1. Even WITH protection, fear of STD's, ( as in simply kissing, or oral genital contact). As I understand it, if I'm going to give my swing partner some oral pleasure, a condom is probably not gonna be involved here. 2. Dealing with the insecurities I have about MY OWN body. 3. Fear of rejection ( as in inability to engage potential play partners) Honourable mention would also go to possible jealousy issues, but I'm pretty sure I could find a way to deal with this.

02-19-2009, 09:40 AM	#2 (permalink)
dnmnms Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 160 Location: Mississippi Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:dnmnms	Re: Your Top 3? Hmmmm...I had to think about this one for a few before I posted. I can only answer for myself (F) here. My only real hesitation in this LS is dealing with my own insecurities. Without going into a long drawn out response, I have been larger sized and then down to a smaller size and then back in the middle. When we 1st got started it was really hard for me to get comfortable. I have had a little reconstructive surgery and that has helped but still had a little hesitation initially. There hasnt been any issues to this point of any jealousy with us. Our experiences had been very positive for us both. Great question! Melody

02-22-2009, 09:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,987 Location: Indiana. Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 19	Re: Your Top 3? Babysteps, I know you posed this as a question. But I think you covered the answers with your own examples. They are the top three as I have seen. Everyone faces a list of aspects that make you most reluctant to take the plunge. These three ? I don't know if they ever get resolved or are gone forever. We are all humans after all, full of insecurities. I do believe they are minimized to the point of insignificance, either by understanding ourselves and our partners, or even the concept of any alternative lifestyle. __________________ Well, at least we are normal pervs

02-22-2009, 09:38 AM	#4 (permalink)
Sonja&Brett Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 32 Location: High Sierra Status: Couple Blog Entries: 1	Re: Your Top 3? Me, Brett, would be fully in the lifestyle without hesitation. Sonja, on the other hand, says that it is going down a dangerous road. The implication being that bringing other people into our intimate relationship could bring complications that we can't predict. Still, being very turned on by the erotic charged atmosphere at swing clubs, we play at the fringes. We watch and like to be watched. Sometimes dance with other partners. Our favorite place is Sea Mountain Nude Spa. Every couple is welcome there regardless of the their level of participation. You can just enjoy being naked in the warm desert sun, get aroused by the sexy atmosphere, play openly with each other, or invite other couples into your play. It's all your choice.

02-22-2009, 10:16 AM	#5 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 710 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl Blog Entries: 17	Re: Your Top 3? I concur with Fun4Ds.. Despite HOW much experience you accumulate, The three that were listed opriginally can pop up at anytime, Esp, when playing with new people.. __________________ Reality Checks written Upon Request

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