Dealing with being nude in front of others...

[warrencouple]

Heh, here I go again!

So, got thinking about when (not if!) the wife and I go and join the on-premise we went to, and how we'd feel / deal with being nude in front of others. The club in question has a locker room (co-ed) Here's the thing. The only female I've ever been nude around is the wife, and I'm the only male she's been nude around.

I'm thinking that likely, I'd be a little more at ease with it, as I'm taking something of a "it's not like it's not something they haven't seen before" attitude.

How did you deal with being nude in front of others, especially in the locker room? Was it a case of "other people are nude, so it's no big deal," or did it take you a bit to get used to it? Do people make comments (I'd not expect bad comments, so far the people we've met are quite polite) about what they see? You know, women commenting on the guys equipment, or each other, guys on the women?

How would you (as an experienced club goer) feel if someone slipped into a bathroom stall to get nude, and came out in a robe to go to the play area?

Jason

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by warrencouple

How did you deal with being nude in front of others, especially in the locker room? Was it a case of "other people are nude, so it's no big deal," or did it take you a bit to get used to it?

We didn't deal with it - we just got naked. The others were nude too, after all. Think of nudity as the great social equalizer.

Originally Posted by warrencouple

Do people make comments (I'd not expect bad comments, so far the people we've met are quite polite) about what they see? You know, women commenting on the guys equipment, or each other, guys on the women?

Unless you have something between your legs that would be size-proportioned to a horse, have like 14 piercings, or a tattoo, I doubt anybody's going to say anything to or about you. I know, that could be good or bad news, but unless you have some really remarkable equipment, you're going to be looked at, but not commented on. Guys and girls alike will most likely compliment Ms. Warren - especially if she's naked. I don't think any of us knows a guy who won't at least comment on a woman, so I'd expect that. The female human form is truly beautiful, and both sexes do appreciate it. In a nutshell - be prepared for her nude body to get more attention than yours does. That's life, man.

Originally Posted by warrencouple

How would you (as an experienced club goer) feel if someone slipped into a bathroom stall to get nude, and came out in a robe to go to the play area?

Depends on the robe. If it was a classy looking silk robe, I might be a bit jealous that I didn't think of wearing one first. If it's a frumpy looking 'old man's' robe, I might ask you where your fuzzy pink slippers were.

I can't speak for the club you're going to (in fact, it's questions like this one that you should ask the club owners,) but I know that the clubs we've been to prefer people cover themselves when out of the play rooms. Robes are perfectly acceptable for this purpose - one club even supplies a few. I've mentioned before that we provide robes for our guests to use at our house parties. I know that a party is a bit different than a club, but it's the same idea. Bottom line - both of you should wear whatever makes you comfortable.

[N8ture Girl]

My first experience naked in front of others was exhilerating!! I was very nervous at first, but when the clothes came off, and others were naked too it felt so natural. It was a house party, and it was 3 day weekend event. The first night was just a social visit, the second night the clothes came off, the third night I was the first one naked and the only one for some time...how did that happen lol!?!

We are all the same, you dont have anything different than anyone else. Dont think about how nervous you two are, just enjoy the feeling of being free!

[warrencouple]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

We didn't deal with it - we just got naked. The others were nude too, after all. Think of nudity as the great social equalizer.

I've heard that in many places, here, a nudist forum, several nude campground sites, the Hedonism forums. Easy to hear, harder to understand until you actually do it...

Originally Posted by MrkLin

Unless you have something between your legs that would be size-proportioned to a horse, have like 14 piercings, or a tattoo, I doubt anybody's going to say anything to or about you. I know, that could be good or bad news, but unless you have some really remarkable equipment, you're going to be looked at, but not commented on. Guys and girls alike will most likely compliment Ms. Warren - especially if she's naked. I don't think any of us knows a guy who won't at least comment on a woman, so I'd expect that. The female human form is truly beautiful, and both sexes do appreciate it. In a nutshell - be prepared for her nude body to get more attention than yours does. That's life, man.

Heh I'm not too worried, one way or the other, myself. I'm not sure how the Mrs will be, though. She was talking about just turning around so she couldn't see the other naked people (they're people, not bugblatter beasts of Trall!) Truthfully, I'd hope she gets some compliments / positive comments. I tell her she's beautiful, but she hears it from me daily. A compliment from a complete stranger underscores what I tell her. I suspect this is true of everybody (men and women)

Originally Posted by MrkLin

Depends on the robe. If it was a classy looking silk robe, I might be a bit jealous that I didn't think of wearing one first. If it's a frumpy looking 'old man's' robe, I might ask you where your fuzzy pink slippers were.

I should shop for new silk robes for the two of us then...

Originally Posted by MrkLin

I can't speak for the club you're going to (in fact, it's questions like this one that you should ask the club owners,) but I know that the clubs we've been to prefer people cover themselves when out of the play rooms. Robes are perfectly acceptable for this purpose - one club even supplies a few. I've mentioned before that we provide robes for our guests to use at our house parties. I know that a party is a bit different than a club, but it's the same idea. Bottom line - both of you should wear whatever makes you comfortable.

Yeah, the club we've been to, requests at least a towel wrapped around you in travel from the lockers (in the basement) to the play areas (on the 2nd floor), and does provide a (limited) number of robes.

Originally Posted by N8ture Girl

My first experience naked in front of others was exhilerating!! I was very nervous at first, but when the clothes came off, and others were naked too it felt so natural. It was a house party, and it was 3 day weekend event. The first night was just a social visit, the second night the clothes came off, the third night I was the first one naked and the only one for some time...how did that happen lol!?!

We are all the same, you dont have anything different than anyone else. Dont think about how nervous you two are, just enjoy the feeling of being free!

I like that way of thinking!

Needless to say, I think our first time as people who can use the play areas will be, "interesting" to say the least. Will I get performance anxiety? Dunno, could happen. Will she be able to relax enough, and enjoy herself? Dunno, maybe. Will we end up locking ourselves in the private room, "hiding" from the club for bit, or will we be in the public lounge with her cowgirl and riding? Possible, no way to tell. This is why this is so exciting, and scary, at the same time.

Thanks,
Jason

[N8ture Girl]

Just wanted to add one more thing. Before getting into the lifestyle of swinging, I would have never had the guts to be naked in front of anyone! I was VERY shy and lacked self confidence. When ever we entered a crowded room, I would be the one hiding behind hubby, I would never walk in first. I never considered my self attractive, but once I had someone other than hubby saying I looked good, what a boost to my confidence level! Now I can be naked in front of others and feel good about it. ( i still get the butterflies, but now they just keep me company and cheer me on )

[warrencouple]

Originally Posted by N8ture Girl

Just wanted to add one more thing. Before getting into the lifestyle of swinging, I would have never had the guts to be naked in front of anyone! I was VERY shy and lacked self confidence. When ever we entered a crowded room, I would be the one hiding behind hubby, I would never walk in first. I never considered my self attractive, but once I had someone other than hubby saying I looked good, what a boost to my confidence level! Now I can be naked in front of others and feel good about it. ( i still get the butterflies, but now they just keep me company and cheer me on )

I know that boat! Not just the being nude in front of people, but the shy. The Mrs and I when we went, gave some of the staffers a chuckle, we were going up the walk to the door, trading places the whole way, doing the "you go first, no you go first" schtick. Then we couldn't decide if we should just go in, or ring the doorbell (club looks like a house, started as one too!), and almost chickened out then.

[iapr]

Keep in mind this is coming from the most modest person in world when it comes to nudity. Heck I'd shower completely dressed if I could find a way to make it work Seriously, I keep a pair of sweat pants by the bed in case I need to go to the bathroom at night and the bathroom is only ten feet away.

Anyway, if you are going to be in a group play area you will actually feel more out of place if you are the only one dressed as opposed to being naked in a room full of naked people.

[PB&J]

The thing that I don't like about the stripping down in the locker room is that getting undressed- or being undressed- can be a fun part of play. That's one of the reasons that I'm not a big fan of on-premise clubs.

[Ed & Bunny]

Originally Posted by PB&J

The thing that I don't like about the stripping down in the locker room is that getting undressed- or being undressed- can be a fun part of play. That's one of the reasons that I'm not a big fan of on-premise clubs.

Where we are at the club only says no street clothes in the play areas, so lingere can can be slowly stripped off durring play.


As for the origional poster. Being a nudist and talking to other nudist swingers, we have all noticed that many swingers have a thing with nudity here. They will get down and dirty with another couple but they get their clothes back on as quickly as possible. Sort of funny from our perspective but it should let you know you are not alone.

It also might end up being not as big of a deal as you think. Our first visit to the nudist resort we were both a bit nervous. But seeing everyone else so comfortable just being nude we just said the hell with it and stripped down. We did do it in the locker area though, and got redressed there. Now we strip and get dressed anywhere.

[The Fuse]

In case it helps, I can say that when we first started swinging I felt less than comfortable being naked in front of people I wasn't interested in sexually. As time went on, I became more and more comfortable, and now I don't care. Actually I find it liberating and stimulating unless I feel one of those people is taking nakedness as an invitation or somehow an indication that it's okay to be forward. The last time we were in a hot tub at a house party, and a forward guy I know felt it was okay to reach out and flick my nipple. That did not sit well with me. I was in the middle of something with someone else and had happened to catch his eye. Anyway, that is off the subject.

I've never been to a place where you take off your clothes in a locker room and then go into a play area where everyone is naked. I think I would find it more sexy if the women were in lingerie and the men were in underwear or towels, at least to start. I know some people regard clothes as an encumbrance, but I like being undressed as part of foreplay, and undressing my partner...

Anyway, yes, you may feel awkward at first, but perhaps it will be good to hear that as time goes on, your discomfort may just melt away or at least lessen.

[friskyous]

I've never had many issues with getting nekkid .. in pretty much any situation. It could be the whole country boy thing because as a kid, skinny dipping was a fairly regular summer activity and as young adults we frequently played strip poker or whatever else might give us a reason to shed some clothes.
To me being naked feels good..unless it's cold, otherwise it's just as natural as can be. Relax.. enjoy...

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by warrencouple

I've heard that in many places, here, a nudist forum, several nude campground sites, the Hedonism forums. Easy to hear, harder to understand until you actually do it...

I wasn't trying to make it sound like you're worried about nothing, Jason. We're just so used to being naked in front of people after so many years of playing that sometimes we forget that we were nervous once ourselves. Thinking back to our first trip to our favorite local swing club (lo, those many years ago) I do remember that Lin was absolutely petrified. It wasn't the fear of being naked in front of other people (she was a nudist years before I met her.) It was the fear of being naked in front of people she didn't know. I didn't know it at the time (hell, I hadn't even thought about the subject,) but there's a profound difference in being naked in front of people you're comfortable with, and being naked in the middle of a room full of complete strangers.

Think about this for a second though. You recently went to a club for the first time. I don't know how long you stayed at the club, but in the time you were there, did you or Mrs.Warren see or hear anyone pointing or laughing at anyone? Did you hear anyone insulting anyone? I'll bet you didn't. I'd be willing to bet that nobody else on this forum has ever seen or heard anything like that either.

Having said all of that, I'm not comfortable walking around outside starkers, and depending on the place, neither is Lin. (We're more concerned with offending someone, or kids seeing us, than we are about what people think of our bodies.) You two are going to be scared witless the first time you do it - I'll guarantee it. It's no different than the first time you used an open shower in Gym class in school. You know what? You'll live. Everybody on this board has been there and done that.

[acdg]

We have been nudists for allot longer than swingers and we have never heard a comment about anything. Even when the guy has a cock like a horse or the lady has Penthouse tits even when the person had both there were no comments. (Go Figure) Ok well we have heard comments when people are F+#king on the beach But that is another story. You should not worry about it we all have defects and being nude leaves them open for all to see even a string bikini bottom does a lot for the Person wearing it. If someone does make a rude or lude comment then they are defiantly out of line and in all of the clubs that we go to could get them kicked out without a bat of an eye. Like the others have said don’t sweat it just enjoy the kick for the first few times after that it wears off.

[warrencouple]

Mrklin, no we didn't hear any negative comments, and in truth, the wife and I have both agreed that as a whole (based on the people we've chatted with here, and met at the club) seem to be some of the nicer people we've met. Very non-judgmental. And I do realize that you weren't pooh-poohing my concerns.

I think it's more a concern just about being nervous stripping down in front of strangers, and worse, the opposite sex

Truthfully, what I hope will happen is, we go, decide to head for the play areas, head to the lockers, several other couples either heading for the play areas, or coming back from, or changing out of "normal" clothes into theme clothes, we get sort of nervous, but go through with it, getting more turned on by the other naked bodies, and end up having mind-blowing, toe-curling, 4 towels each for the sweat, sex.

Or, we'll get more turned on, head for the play areas, and I won't be able to "perform." In which case, the Mrs gets a good eating out so she can orgasm.

Jason
(at least I'm unselfconscious enough to allow for "performance anxiety" of my own!)

[MrkLin]

So which is your concern? You won't be able to perform or she won't be able to perform?