Seeing what folks thought out there

[JaxxNexx]

The wife and I are starting to try out a swinglifestyle and figured might as well ask the collective wisdom of the forum as to our strategy and goals. We are relatively new to the game, our experience has been little a few friends of ours but nothing quite too serious. We are looking for friends first, then playing with those friends. We value honesty, integrity and a great time on a relatively reliable basis. Basically an very open ended friendship. We have few taboos ourselves and aren't very pushy. We are both in our mid 20's and both fit and have been together for almost 10 years.

So here is our ''plan''. We have been looking at the swinger account websites where you post your picture and find out other couples and that seems...very impersonal and random. We are more in your face kind of folks and use personal/charisma from there to form our relationships. We find the internet very distant. Basically we dont really want to make a date to play with people we dont know, definately not our style. So we figure the club aspect might be much better. So we have a few questions for you.

Are there any other possibilities and ways to get into the lifestyle other than these. Where can we get help finding them, and what kind of clubs are there out there? We saw a few postings on this website for the paradise chalet in langley and a few others but they seem...out of date or simply not there anymore. We have sent some emails and are waiting replies to see whats going on there. But maybe a few Vancouver residents can help us out on that info!!. Anyway, both of us have been lurker for just a bit while we were deciding what to do with our future and have been enjoying the boards and posts so far!!

Thank you very much for any help and listening to us =)!

[djjwp]

Welcome to the board. Most members have a profile even if its just a free one on swinglifestyles. Just be aware that there, like anywhere, can have many fakes on it.

Take your time and talk about what you both want and proceed at the slowest level between the two of you. Make sure you know your limits and stick to them. Beyond that,meet people and if they click, go for it. If not, tell them thanks and move on.

Good luck and hope things work well for you both.

[Forbidden_Fruit]

And just because you agree to meet a couple or someone that you met through a website doesn't obligate you to play with them. We meet lots of people for drinks or a few laughs. Rarely do we play the first time we meet someone. We have made lots of wonderful friends that way.

[ncmd_couple]

Jaxx,

From what you two have posted, you are a club kinda coupe, face-to-face. You wil have to research that as we all do. Welcome to Singer's board, our adventure and yours is just that, what you make of it.

S

[babycole]

I think alot about this lifestyle may be rather trial and error as to what "fits" for you guys. We have had luck meeting people from the swinger site we belong to, but like Forbidden Fruit says, just because you meet doesn't mean you have to play with them. Meet for drinks and see how things flow between you guys then go from there. Also, do check out the clubs. We have done both. I think for lots of the people we have met, a combination of the two really works for them as well! Good luck!!

[SW_PA_Couple]

The club listings and club reviews at this bulletin board are fairly up-to-date, Swingers Club Listings and Reviews. I see two listed for Vancouver. Finding people is not the only reason to join a swingers' Web site. They also list current events such as meets-n-greets. I recommend using multiple methods for meeting people -- clubs, meet-and-greet, Web sites.

Welcome, in any case, to the swingersboard. Let us know how things progress with your search.

~Michael

[LFM2]

to the Swingers Board and we really hope you find what you're looking for! You've been given some excellent advice.

[JaxxNexx]

Hey, thanks everyone for all the great advice! I suppose there really isn't any way to skip the trial and error portion and go straight to success, is there? Ahh, life. Well, we'll try our luck then at some clubs, if any Vancouver BC residents know of any meet'n'greets, please let us know!

Thanks,

Jaxx + Nexx.

[JustAskJulie]

to the board!! It definately sounds like clubs and socials are going to be more your cup of tea. I will say that you still may want to take a look at Swing Lifestyle as that tends to be the best place to find local listings of clubs and socials (and other group gatherings), and from there you can also (often) see who is signed up to attend the specific social/club you are looking at and get an idea whether or not that club/social attracts the same group of people that you might be attracted to. You can even contact some through there and just put out "feelers" to let them know you'll be there, which makes it easier to approach them when you do see them in person (or them you).