Oral sex and partner expectations

[fun4Ds]

How are things going now ?

Any changes ?

[daqueenbee]

Hubby and I have yet to swing yet, but I also am not head over heals with oral. I use it as foreplay and give oral to orgasm. Hubby is ok with this. As far as condom goes, being in the healthcare industry, I treat everybody with universal precaution. I see a lot people use condoms for intercourse, but not for oral - go figure.

[lovinher]

I'd consider this the same as the no kissing rule some have. Takes something away from the whole experience. If I knew beforehand I would politely decline. Besides, I like blow jobs.....and kissing.

[westcan]

I never much cared for bj's. For me it was always ok and felt good but never a big deal - probably something to do with my first girlfriend gagging and being extremely disgusted after I blew a load in her mouth - maybe affected my later attitudes. Anyhow, since then I came to realize that most women quite enjoy it and partake happily. I found my wife to be a bit odd in that regard and told her so. Over the years I have grown to crave abit more bj. It's like anything else; you crave it more when you can't have it. Could I live without it? Sure, but I'd rather not be made to feel like I have to. I think my lovely wife is really a tiger inside given the right circumstances coupled with a lot of love and positive encouragement. We're heading out to another c/o resort in the next few weeks and we're expecting/Hoping to have a few pleasant experiences to talk about upon our return.

[westcan]

Holy BJ Batman!! Did I say that I thought that my wife was a tiger inside?

I was hoping for a little play at the c/o lifestyle friendly resort we attended a few weeks ago but I got all of my questions and doubts about my wife answered in spades. It's funny how these things have a way of working themselves out. Anyway I don't want to say too much but it's reallly hard to contain my excitement and love for my wife. The first night, we just played with each other in view of others involved in group play. That night, she woke me up from a sound sleep to play some more (which is actully the first time ever). The next evening, we played in our room for a while until I joked with her about trying some "fresh meat" or something like that. Much to my surprise, she said "well go get me some then". Yippee, I thought. She was serious.

So off we went to mingle. It wasn't long before some body shots were being poured around the group. I asked one of the guys sitting near my wife if he wanted to try some on her. Of course he did. One thing led to another and the four of us (his girlfriend also) went to the play room to play. Others joined us at some point until the room was packed. My wife's new guy took a break after lots of mutual oral play and before you could say BJ, two different guys started playing with her. In a one hour span, she had no less than 3 different cocks in her mouth and seemed to love it. These were all guys we had met before, not strangers. They were very polite and attentive - not pushy - and their wives were playing elsewhere but nearby. I asked her about the blowjobs later and she said she "felt she had no choice", but that was not the feeling I had watching her in action. She really seemed to get into it and enjoy it. She is a people pleaser personality and although I always felt that deep down it would make her feel good making her new partner feel good even if its not her favorite activity.

Unfortunately, I was having some problems performing, which was unusual for me but not unexpected given everything I've read about group play. It was so erotic watching my wife service these guys in every way possible that I tried not to be too upset by my own shortcomings and the woman I was with was very nice about it. The woman I was with starting giving my wife deep kisses and also went down on her orally for about 10 minutes. Another thing I did not expect (but thought it was possible). She later admitted to me to having many orgasms that evening; but we all knew that because she was the loudest in the room by far.

The last evening, we met another couple. The four of us hit it off famously and went straight to our room, avoiding some of the problems (?) that come from group play. It was my suggestion as I was a bit nervous given the prior night. We all played on the same bed and it seemed we all enjoyed each other's company. My wife even gave him some oral play when he was having some temporary down time without being prompted.

Anyhow, there is much more i could say but the bottom line is that i've never loved my wife more as we embark now down a slightly different path in life. we've had a few long chats since the trip and sorted out some things that we never really discussed before but I have to say that its all gone pretty smoothly and better than i've ever imagined. We're planning another trip in the next few months and will be visiting a local club soon.

[SaSsyNsWeEt]

sounds like you're working it out. Good luck to you both.

[forfunonly692]

Different than several folks here, I will tell you that a passive woman can be just as much fun in swinging as any other. The difference is communication. My wife is very passive, it simply is her sexual nature. If any man (including myself in our 31 year relationship) asks her what she enjoys she will tell them "whatever you want is fine with me". We make sure that the men she plays with are dominant in nature and are OK with "taking whatever they want" from a woman. This is what turns her on, to simply be used by a man for his sexual pleasure. There are plenty of men out there who are willing to "ride em hard and put em up wet" with a submissive woman, IF they know in advance that this is her nature. Most of us, in life and in this lifestyle both, have been trained to cater to the woman's taste, so it is unusual to have to deal with a passive woman. But if forewarned, we have found men enjoy using a woman simply as a fuck toy for their own pleasure. In fact, they tend to step up and use her repeatedly, adding greatly to her enjoyment (her most fun is in a gangbang situation being used as a sex object for the men). Good luck; as in everything in this lifestyle communication with prospective gentleman, as well as a discerning eye as to what kind of man she needs, will work wonders for you both.