Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it to)

ArousedInterest · 12-09-2008, 11:27 AM

We are still new and really haven't left the talking phase yet, but when we do I have just one issue that is my most troublesome and just thought some experienced opinions would help.
I have MS and it can cause some male issues sometimes and it really troubles me when I can't get thing s to go right in sexual capacity. The issue is not that it won't work, the nerves get all over sensetive and bring a whole new meaning to the phrase "speed racer"

. Even wierder is sometimes it works in reverse and trying to get off is practically impossible, which can be frustrating, I mean it can be to the point of making priapism sound fun that is how bad it can get. I beat myself up when I can't get it to work correctly at home either way (which makes my spouse upset, cause she knows I have MS and tells me it is ok), so I feel like what if it happens in a swinging situation. What would any of you think if either one happened when you were playing with someone or would you even because of the MS?

screaminggood · 12-09-2008, 12:38 PM

My suggestion: take it slow in the lifestyle. Enjoy the visuals and let nature take its' course.

When you do play, if you explode too fast...you won't be in minority. Just satisfy the woman another way. If you can't get off, explain to the woman that you have MS and that it's not her.

tribbles · 12-09-2008, 03:10 PM

Tell people....some will care, some won't. As for beating yourself up....STOP!

Enjoy what you can and let the rest just be....trust your partner to tell you what more she wants...and then do it with a toy, tongue or your hands.

I never have cum easy but it does not mean I'm not enjoying great sensations and loving the feelings....and people I know who cum fast still can enjoy the feelings before AND after....is there a time when kissing isn't great?

ArousedInterest · 12-10-2008, 10:43 AM

Thanks for the input, that problem has been one of the worst for me to deal with.

tribbles · 12-11-2008, 10:46 AM

Do you know why?

In order to not 'hate' myself I had to learn to just accept how I'm wired and how I am. Doing that allows me to enjoy what I can at every step on the path of life. Otherwise I miss enjoying the good stuff cuz I'm beating myself up over the rest.....

Life is too short to spend it missing the good stuff

ArousedInterest · 12-11-2008, 12:14 PM

Well for me it came as a shock, heck i was never like that before. The MS came on slowly and male probs was one of my early symptoms. Before I was the energizer bunny, and then bang total speed demon or tortise. Never a happy medium anymore.

***JustAskJulie*** · 12-11-2008, 03:59 PM

Stop beating yourself up. This is something you can't control. So why worry about it. Just be upfront with people about your situation and leave it to them.

When your penis is being over-sensitive and you get off too fast... can you get hard again? If so, does it then continue to rapid fire? Or does the timing slow down with each successive missile?

crazinred · 12-12-2008, 01:25 AM

Well be aware from what I have found in the lifestyle things can change from home life. I have ED and pretty much can't get it hard at all even with the different pills. I am straight forward with the ladies I have been with. I tell them it may work and it may not. I just make sure I do my best with both my hands and my mouth. I have had no complaints so far and have actually gotten several erections in the course of playing.
Now as for this week I have tried the injection TriMix and it seems to work very well for me. I would talk with your doctor and see if there is anything to help you.

ArousedInterest · 12-12-2008, 01:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Stop beating yourself up. This is something you can't control. So why worry about it. Just be upfront with people about your situation and leave it to them.

When your penis is being over-sensitive and you get off too fast... can you get hard again? If so, does it then continue to rapid fire? Or does the timing slow down with each successive missile?

Well I am trying I really am.
When I am over sensitive I still can go either way the next time. Usually it slows down, but not always.

ArousedInterest · 12-12-2008, 01:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by crazinred

Now as for this week I have tried the injection TriMix and it seems to work very well for me. I would talk with your doctor and see if there is anything to help you.

Thanks I will talk to them about it.
The unfortunate thing is it is different than standard ED problems. I thought it was all the same until a doctor friend explained it all to me.
I am willing to try anything though.

tribbles · 12-12-2008, 07:23 PM

For the future, start learning about penile implants....not sure you will need one but MS is kinda unpredictable.

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12-09-2008, 11:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
ArousedInterest Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 28 Location: Alaska Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ArousedInterest	Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it to) We are still new and really haven't left the talking phase yet, but when we do I have just one issue that is my most troublesome and just thought some experienced opinions would help. I have MS and it can cause some male issues sometimes and it really troubles me when I can't get thing s to go right in sexual capacity. The issue is not that it won't work, the nerves get all over sensetive and bring a whole new meaning to the phrase "speed racer". Even wierder is sometimes it works in reverse and trying to get off is practically impossible, which can be frustrating, I mean it can be to the point of making priapism sound fun that is how bad it can get. I beat myself up when I can't get it to work correctly at home either way (which makes my spouse upset, cause she knows I have MS and tells me it is ok), so I feel like what if it happens in a swinging situation. What would any of you think if either one happened when you were playing with someone or would you even because of the MS?

12-09-2008, 12:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
screaminggood Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 813 Location: Dallas TX Status: couple	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this My suggestion: take it slow in the lifestyle. Enjoy the visuals and let nature take its' course. When you do play, if you explode too fast...you won't be in minority. Just satisfy the woman another way. If you can't get off, explain to the woman that you have MS and that it's not her.

12-09-2008, 03:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 900 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this Tell people....some will care, some won't. As for beating yourself up....STOP! Enjoy what you can and let the rest just be....trust your partner to tell you what more she wants...and then do it with a toy, tongue or your hands. I never have cum easy but it does not mean I'm not enjoying great sensations and loving the feelings....and people I know who cum fast still can enjoy the feelings before AND after....is there a time when kissing isn't great? __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

12-10-2008, 10:43 AM	#4 (permalink)
ArousedInterest Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 28 Location: Alaska Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ArousedInterest	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it Thanks for the input, that problem has been one of the worst for me to deal with.

12-11-2008, 10:46 AM	#5 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 900 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it Do you know why? In order to not 'hate' myself I had to learn to just accept how I'm wired and how I am. Doing that allows me to enjoy what I can at every step on the path of life. Otherwise I miss enjoying the good stuff cuz I'm beating myself up over the rest..... Life is too short to spend it missing the good stuff __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

12-11-2008, 12:14 PM	#6 (permalink)
ArousedInterest Here to Stay Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 28 Location: Alaska Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:ArousedInterest	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it Well for me it came as a shock, heck i was never like that before. The MS came on slowly and male probs was one of my early symptoms. Before I was the energizer bunny, and then bang total speed demon or tortise. Never a happy medium anymore.

12-11-2008, 03:59 PM	#7 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 25,710 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 78	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it Stop beating yourself up. This is something you can't control. So why worry about it. Just be upfront with people about your situation and leave it to them. When your penis is being over-sensitive and you get off too fast... can you get hard again? If so, does it then continue to rapid fire? Or does the timing slow down with each successive missile?

12-12-2008, 01:25 AM	#8 (permalink)
crazinred Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 71 Location: Brookille, Ohio Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:crazinred	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it Well be aware from what I have found in the lifestyle things can change from home life. I have ED and pretty much can't get it hard at all even with the different pills. I am straight forward with the ladies I have been with. I tell them it may work and it may not. I just make sure I do my best with both my hands and my mouth. I have had no complaints so far and have actually gotten several erections in the course of playing. Now as for this week I have tried the injection TriMix and it seems to work very well for me. I would talk with your doctor and see if there is anything to help you.

12-12-2008, 07:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 900 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: Just wanted to here some opinions on this (penis not responding the way I want it For the future, start learning about penile implants....not sure you will need one but MS is kinda unpredictable. __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

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