Having a MFM

[NymphoWind]

Well, as time passes, after hearing that my partner's fantasy is to have two cocks, even though before it was something i would have never even given a second thought to, but as time passes i start to find myself becoming more and more aroused by the thought of seeing her suck on me while another guy brings her to moaning joy with his tounge and maybe even his hard cock sliding in and out of her, or even watching her suck off the other guy while i give it to her from behind...

Anyways when i ask her, she tells me she is interested in having one, but doesn't have a time set of when she would be up for one, but from being with her this long, I can tell that she is expecting me to take the first step, as she is more the type to follow, rather then want to take the lead.
I try to make conversation about it often, and although she's still shy about things she has admitted in one way or another, that she would really like it...

I've become more and more open minded, and day by day a lot more horny, I've even found myself having fantasies about a MFM with my partner while masturbating opposed to the FMF fantasy, and to tell the truth, the whole MFM fantasy has somewhat become a fantasy that really seems to make me wild...

I think the very idea that i love seeing her in pleasure really makes things that much better, anyways with the point out that i have awoken a naughty beast within, and so forth, i was wanting to ask the board if they thought, i should go and set up a MFM for my partner??

Many times during sex i have asked if she would like it if we were to have one on a certain day near by, and when the sex is just warm, she says she doesnt mind, but when the sex becomes wet and wild, she moans yes!

So I've decided to ask the board to see what they thought? If I should go for it or not?

IF I was to go for it, how should i go about finding that lucky someone? etc etc...

[campgirl2in1]

Having just had a successful MFM with my wife and another guy I have to say, "Go for it."

As for finding the right guy...


They guy that helped us out is divorced and not looking for a relationship. He is a long time friend but lives a long distance away. It was just pretty much a stars aligning situation.

Anne wants to do it more and with other guys and even girls but how we are going to find willing participants that aren't creeps is anybodys guess.

[ncmd_couple]

Wind,

It is perfectly ok for you to pursue this, BUT....

What is hot while having great sex might just be a fantasy that your wife would not want in real life. You need to make sure, over coffee at the dining room table, that this is something that she wants to pursue also.

Also, make sure that this is not a surprise to her. If you surprise her, it isn't going to be pretty. Before we were married and my wife was dating another guy, her BF "surprised" her with a MFM. Needless to say, nobody got any that night.

It is important that both of you are involved in the selection process. You can't pick this guy out yourself and expect that she will be pleased by your selection. She might be, and again, she might not.

Good luck!

S

[Hagar]

I would ask her to be sure she is ready. Most people don't respond well to suprises. It also helps to know what sort of man turns her on. Other than that I say go for it. If you are in the right frame of mind it can be a real turn on while it is happening and afterwards if the 2 of you recall how excited you were and exchange the feeling.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by NymphoWind

IF I was to go for it, how should i go about finding that lucky someone? etc etc...

Finding a swinging couple to trade threesomes with is both safer and easier than finding a single person, in my opinion. Advertise on one of the swingers introduction sites writing exactly what y'all are interested in.

Mr. Alura

[MrkLin]

Howdy, NymphoWind.

I'd like to invite you to read my very long (4 page) blog entry titled How We Got Involved In Swinging. We started out in the lifestyle having MFM threesomes for Lin, and we've never looked back. You might find the answers to some of your questions there, as well as a few more questions you didn't even realize you had.

I'd also like to echo everyone else's comment about not surprising her. You both need to be on board for this to work. It's great to keep talking about it, but as ncmd_couple pointed out, you have to be absolutely sure this is something she really wants to pursue in real life, and not just a fantasy she'd rather leave a fantasy. Hell, I'll verbally agree to just about anything in the middle of my orgasm, and I doubt you'll find many people who wouldn't. So I wouldn't hold her to that passioned response.

Check out my blog, and if you have any questions at all, the posters here on Swinger's Board will be happy to help you. If you have any questions for Lin or I personally, feel free to post them here or PM us. We'll gladly answer any question to the best of our ability.

The link to my blog is the number
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[JustAskJulie]

Did I misread or did you just tell us that she's been the one telling you this was her fantasy for a while now and you've been pushing it off as something YOU weren't comfortable with?

If I read that right, and that is the case, then I say that yes most likely she does want you to be the one to make the first move in making it come true because she wants to make sure that YOU are really ok with the idea. If she's the one pursuing it then it will always be in the back of her head that you are just doing it for her and going along for the ride. That doesn't mean you do it without her involvement, but just that you take the lead in things and make sure she is aware of your actions along the way.

[joaninla]

Well, it sounds to me as if she would like to try an MFM, but the circumstances need to be right. To make it enjoyable for her, remember an MFM should be about her - not you and the other guy. If she gets off on fucking you while sucking off another guy, more power to you (and her!). However, it needs to be about you and the other guy pleasuring her. I can tell you there is nothing more exciting for me than to have four hands, two cocks and two mouths all over me; however, it seldom plays out like what you see on a porn video. Go slow, think about her, and everyone will end up very happy. Good luck!

[screaminggood]

How to find someone for her? YOU DON'T...she does the selecting.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by screaminggood

How to find someone for her? YOU DON'T...she does the selecting.

Excellent point - but what do you do when she leaves it all up to you?

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by MrkLin

Excellent point - but what do you do when she leaves it all up to you?

My wife leaves finding single males pretty much up to me. The way we handle it is:
* I routinely search/scan profiles.
* Good ones, I e-mail myself a running list of potentials just based on profiles.
* I have my wife review them, and she decides from the profiles which ones are worth contacting. She's not overly selective; if they pass bare metrics, we're usually willing to at least contact them.
* As our set of contacts seems to dwindle, I add some from the "to be contacted" list.
* As communication with single males goes on, I handle the communications but always with my wife's knowledge, usually before I click the send button.
* Sometimes I chat online with a given single male, sometimes not. It's rare that she does.
* Once the initial contacts seem ok to her and to me, we attempt to arrange a meet and greet. If the single male isn't willing to readily progress to a meet and greet, we tend to politely end contact with them.
* If the meet and greet goes well, we go from there to a hotel room or try to set up a play date with the guy.

For us, the main thing is I do most all of the preliminary work, I keep her in the loop, and once the meet and greet starts we're both doing about equal. It works well for us.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

My wife leaves finding single males pretty much up to me. The way we handle it is:

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For us, the main thing is I do most all of the preliminary work, I keep her in the loop, and once the meet and greet starts we're both doing about equal. It works well for us.

Excellent post, bbarnsworth. We usually do something similar. My question was somewhat more rhetorical for screaminggood. They seemed more adamant about the woman choosing the playmate - I was merely asking about those situations where she says, "Set it up for me..."

The tone I got from screaminggood's post was that she picks all the men for the threesomes. Ok, fine. What about all of those couples out there who haven't progressed to that point yet? Yes, she's the final arbiter - but how does one get in the running?

[CarAsia]

It all sounds more like your fantasy then your wife's to me but that is because I don't know your wife's side of the fantasy. If you have a trutworthy mutual friend in the lifestyle, let him/her casually find out about your wife's craving.
On the other hand, I would say that nobody knows your wife better than yourself. At least that is how it should be!!! The lifestyle is about honesty, commitment and an intense connection with your partner that is focused on the pleasure of the individuals as well as the couple as one. (meaning together)

Judging from past issues (sexual and non sexual events) you should be able to get a good feeling of how to bring about certain issues and/or fantasies. What you don't want is to get something rolling or that you think that you put something good in motion by surprizing her. And all the time you are excited about the whole thing, the planning etc. etc. and when you "surpise" her it all deflates into a surprise "scare off" for her and a huge dissapointment for yourself. All this makes it much more difficult to really have the fantasy fullfilled in the future, even if she was ready before to actually have her MFM fantasy fullfilled. I would say: Take it easy and "really" get to know what rocks HER boat!!!
(This is just my 5 cent worth opinion of your situation)
Good luck and enjoy.
CarAsia