Finding the lucky 3rd?

[NymphoWind]

To start, from many things we've heard and come across in our look into this lifestyle, we've come to realize that it's really hard to find the right person to join for play...

Anyways, we're really still new to this lifestyle, but the whole idea of it really does excite us, well I'm more open about how arousing it is to me, while my female half is a little more self kept...
Although we are curious to experience having a 3rd person join us, the thing is we have no idea where to look...

I don't think we're just yet ready to pop in a swingers club, or to pick up someone in a club, and so far browsing the internet has come up with no one really worth having join us, can anyone give us some tips?

We're always up for meeting a girl who's up for some good fun, but more specifically we're actually looking for a right guy to give the female half of us a time she will never forget!

Anyways if anyone has any good tips please let me know!

[fun4Ds]

You seem to want a male or a female playmate.

Try looking for couples on some of the Swinger personal sites like swinglifestyle or the new swingerzonecentral. Here is the link

Being new to the lifestyle, I don't think you should approach vanilla people in public. Before you both fully understand your own interests and feelings about each other.

There is no need to hurry anything. Talk about the possibilities, listen to each other.

There is allot more to swinging than just finding a blank face to bring home. Playmates are people also....

What type of partner would each of you consider playing with ?

What type of person will each of you feel comfortable, letting the other play with ?

What are you looking for in playmates, specifically ?

[joaninla]

For me, having the 'right guy' in our first few threesomes made the difference between me being able to relax and enjoy myself, and not having to feel insecure. I suggest picking someone you both know and like. Good luck!

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by NymphoWind

I don't think we're just yet ready to pop in a swingers club, or to pick up someone in a club, and so far browsing the internet has come up with no one really worth having join us, can anyone give us some tips?

If this quote bothers you then having sex with a stranger could pose a real problem. I firmly believe that overall a club/party is the best way to go. Nothing like a little face to face to help make a decision. The internet scene is way too flaky for me.

[iapr]

I agree with Biloxi- and recommend giving some more thought into a lifestyle club. At a club you are meeting a number of real live people face to face and there is no substitute for that.

If you need to ask more questions here and do more research into finding out what clubs are really like that is fine.

[screaminggood]

If you're nervous about the club scene, start with off-premise where it's not so intense. Some of them even have a "bullpen" where the single men must sit (!!!) so you can select and bring out the "bull" of your choice. While I don't agree with containing them (I like my animals wild!), it would make it a "safer" venue if y'all aren't certain about being there in the first place.

But I definitely do agree that in person is the best way to choose your man/woman.

[MrkLin]

Originally Posted by NymphoWind

I don't think we're just yet ready to pop in a swingers club, or to pick up someone in a club, and so far browsing the internet has come up with no one really worth having join us, can anyone give us some tips?

Here's a tip - never fry bacon naked...

Oh wait!

Sorry...

You need to realize right off the top that in order to meet swingers, you have to go where the swingers are. If you're not ready to go to a club, you're stuck with meeting them online, at resorts, or by happenstance. Well, you haven't met one by happenstance yet, and you haven't come up with anyone, "really worth having join you" yet online, so where does that leave you?

Time to think about it and discuss it. Given your position and your comfort level, the next logical step is an off-premise club. That's a club that doesn't allow any sexual activity on the premises. At least you can see and meet some prospective playmates face to face that way.

The playmates aren't going to come to you - you have to go to them.