What if I cum to early!!

[funtimz2]

I figured I would throw this out there. I did scroll through some threads but I was unable to get a clear answer. I usually cum really fast while during intercourse. I can go longer the second time. But we usually don't go a second round. The wife cums fast as well. We usually have long foreplay before intercouse. Does this happen while swinging and do others really want to swing with a quickshot? Any advice from the experienced would help as well as if it has happened to you or people you have been with.

[LFM2]

You're not the only one that cums really fast during intercourse. Especially on the first round. I think it happens a lot. Also, don't just stop at one round. Go until your partner is totally satisfied.

At home between Mr. LFM and I, we usually don't go a second round either... We have found though that sometimes we go a second and sometimes a third round while playing with partners. He has to save one of those shots for me, too. Why limit it to just one quick round? Usually by the end of the evening, my legs are like jello and he's totally worn out, but it's always a great night. We'd hate to cheat our partners out of a great night. We're usually comfortable doing what's fun that night.

[funtimz2]

Thanks, I feel better already.....

[MrkLin]

You can never go wrong with good quality, long lasting foreplay. Condoms sometimes desensitize me, and I find that I last much longer wearing them. Of course Lin and I don't use condoms when we're with each other, but I think I last about the same time with Lin bareback as I do with a playmate and wearing a condom.

[JustAskJulie]

As MrkLin said, condoms may help you out there. You'll also find that you may be more likely to go multiple rounds in a swinging scenario (since there are multiple women) but even if you don't, just plan on making sure she finishes in another way.

There are times in our house where either the foreplay or the position will lead to him coming too early. When he lets me know that that is going to happen I will pull out a toy to use during sex and then ask him to keep fuckin g me even after he comes while I use the toy. Or he'll go down on me.

[amid]

Take a bit of advice from the movie "Something about Mary"... run one off by hand (yours or someone else's) earlier in the day. This can help too as the "Big one" is out! But don't do like Ben Stiller and get it in your hair!

[cplnuswing]

I think you'll find that swinging encounters are a little different. If you usually cum quickly with your wife, doesn't mean the same will happen swinging. Think back to the first few times you and your wife had intercourse - did you cum as quickly then with her as you do now?

For some anyway (myself included), no matter how attracted you may be to them, there is something about being with a new partner that seems to slow things down or may even allow you to screw each other into happy exhaustion never having pulled the trigger. A good part of that may be the mental hangup about coming too quickly - whether it be embarrassment, trying to make a good first (and perhaps only) impression, totally focusing on her pleasure, etc. The condom issue will really slow things down too if that's not what you are used to.

I think swinging is most fulfilling when enjoyed as the whole experience, not just the sex, and when it comes to sex, not just the male orgasm. Foreplay, afterplay, it's all fun If your worst fears are realized and you do cum too quick, just pull another trick out of the bag and keep things going with something else until she is satisfied and ready to call it quits also.

[ncmd_couple]

As other's have said, condums will stretch you out a bit, it does for me. We know one couple that we have played with for some time, always with condums. When we all dropped that, I didn't last long at all and appoligised for my short performance. Turned out that she loved it because her hubby was the energizer bunny and was very difficult to get off. Another night, I kept going for about an hour of sex. I finally came in my wife. You never know, don't worry about it and remember that you have other skills as well to make sure that she is satisfied.

S

[thor-in-vegas]

most threads i read here dont apply to me since my wife and i have not "swung" yet.

this one however, i feel like i know a bit about.

when i first started having sex, (not my first time, but when i would have been considered "sexually active") i was ready to come in just a few minutes, if that! LOL
i would try to hold out as long as i could, (another ben stiller movie comes to mind, "50!!!" LOL) but sex really isnt as enjoyable as it should be when you are just trying not to come.

one day, after a little "session" with myself, a light bulb went on in my head.

"if i let myself come as soon as i feel it while im masturbating, im kind of training myself to come quickly."

so i started "practicing". i would get myself close, then slow things down, maybe keep myself at the brink for awhile (much easier when its you doing it to yourself LOL) and then deliberately achieve climax.
sometimes doing it for more than a half an hour. (i lived alone LOL)

after this became a habit so to speak, i found i could do the same thing while with a girl. (some times were more difficult than others though! LOL)

also, i noticed that by holding back, i could almost shoot across the room! LOL

i have always been a pull out guy, and girls really seem to like it when it shoots all over the place.
hey, i aim to please! LOL

this is just what worked for me,
good luck,
thor

[Cpl2share]

Every woman likes different things. Mrs. Cpl prefers tongue to penis. She wants to be eaten, and then be done as soon as possible. So, for us, she has a goal of getting me to cum in under 30 seconds of intercoarse. This makes swinging kind of hard sometimes, but as both I and others have stated time and again, there is more to sex than intercoarse, and there is more than one way to give a woman an orgasm. In my experience, most women do not cum from intercoarse anyway. Unlike us guys, they take a little more work to get off. My personal method, for both Mrs. Cpl and other women, make sure that she gets hers, and then I get my reward.

[willyoats]

In every swinging experience that I have had, I got the woman off manually or orally before intercourse. That is the normal way it is done with every couple we know well.

After coming once, the woman seems quite satisfied with relatively short intercourse, like a couple of minutes. With some, we have another round of play after an hour or so. Again, an orgasm before intercourse followed by a couple of minutes of screwing.

Occasionally, some of our female friends will take on two or three guys in a row after she comes, but each one usually lasts just a few minutes. We don't know anybody who really enjoys more than about 5 minutes of thrusting.

So don't think that the porn films with seemingly endless hours of screwing are the model you should be emulating.

[Mr.Essex]

You've got a tongue, ten fingers and ten toes and dozens of eyelash hairs. If you're spurting too quickly, it's time to bring in the reserves. Or, conversely, you could use your reserves in the beginning and finish the night with one great bang.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by willyoats

After coming once, the woman seems quite satisfied with relatively short intercourse, like a couple of minutes. With some, we have another round of play after an hour or so. Again, an orgasm before intercourse followed by a couple of minutes of screwing.

Occasionally, some of our female friends will take on two or three guys in a row after she comes, but each one usually lasts just a few minutes. We don't know anybody who really enjoys more than about 5 minutes of thrusting.

So don't think that the porn films with seemingly endless hours of screwing are the model you should be emulating.

I remembered this link to good sex lasts minutes, not hours.

I'm in this boat. I remember a well known sex doctor telling an audience that his wife would probably kill him if he went more than 10 minutes. It's true. Those little epithelial cells can only take so much. What's fun is that other things can be done besides intercourse.

[crazinred]

What We have found is that our male partners are amazed with how many times they can get it back up. That is with the proper motivation. So far our normal thing is for me to watch and play some in the side line while they go at it. Once male partner is done I go to work on Red. And she goes to work on other guy and its amazing how quickly they get hard again. Then we do it all again. It really has worked great for us and our male partners have all left very satisfied and worn out. Red is a amazing lady that just can't get enough. And her magic reset button works so well to keep her happy till there is something hard for her again.

[funtimz2]

I am thankful for all of the great advice. I also feel better. Some of the porno reality swinging movies we watch made me a little nervous about being able to perform and satisfy our swinging friends. I know that it will be very exciting at first and I know it will be quick. I will need to just jump back in the mix after. The wife said she would blow me before we go as well. That should help some as well. Thanks to all!!!