Live in friends???

allen&Jen · 11-11-2008, 11:58 PM

I have a serious ?. we have friends that are living with us and we are just wondering if it would work with them????
Things have already happened and we don't know if we should continue. We had a small party at the house afterwords we all had sex in the same room. the girls took it a bit more with each other. I really want to have a threesome with my wife or even a foursome with a guy or a girl and guy. But i fear that they are not the right people to take it there with we are so new at this. and there are no close clubs that we know of its a two day drive to any on here.

realcplub2 · 11-12-2008, 12:25 AM

Think it thru several times and talk with first your wife, BEFORE even mentioning it to anyone else..

Sure its easy to imagine it happening and working out, which is fantasy we all can WANT to believe in.. HOWEVER, you need to see the flip side of the coin, from the possiblities that they freak when asked, or afterwards, it causes strains on the relationships you have, in way you cant imagine..

As far as there being no clubs within your location, Do a bit more research, while there maybe no clubs within a comfortable driving distance, There are probably dozens of other lifestyle folk.. If Swing Lifestyle doesnt give you enough options, look at the other sites, and go from there..

allen&Jen · 11-12-2008, 12:41 AM

Alright thank you we will keep it in mind but i have talked to my wife about it. And she is fine with it

**fun4Ds** · 11-12-2008, 01:25 AM

Well, only the four of you can really know.

Lets face facts. Most problems with any relationships are money or sex. I know that sucks, but those two, do cause allot of trouble in relationships.

As for me I do o.k..... I don't ask for very much money, and I'll do anything for sex.

How do all of you deal with these two issues ?

***JustAskJulie*** · 11-12-2008, 02:45 PM

What is the situation that has them living with you? Most situations where you have people living with you can go bad easy enough on their own without adding complications. Check out the archive here on "Friendship & Swinging" and read through some of the topics there regarding the issues that can arise when you choose to involve current friends in your swinging play. Then multiply that by 10 because said friends are living in the same house with you.

bbarnsworth · 11-13-2008, 11:15 AM

I would exercise caution in taking this further because of the simple fact they live with you. I'm with Julie on that.

As to others being near you; I did a search basing from Green River, looking for couples 24-44 (+5 years on your age, -5 on hers), within 50 miles, couples only, active within the last month, and came up with 5 couples in Green River other than you two, and 3 others in Rock Springs. Also, Salt Lake City is 2.5 hours drive from you. Doing the same search basing from Salt Lake City, I came up with 279 couples.

Lastly, there's about a dozen clubs located in the Denver/Colorado Springs area. Yeah, it's a bit of a drive; 5-6 hours depending on where the club is. But, you could take a long weekend and spend one or two nights at one or two clubs there. Also, there's a club in the Salt Lake City area. You can find this info on Swing Lifestyle club listings.

Your opportunities for swinging are considerably larger than I think you think they are.

allen&Jen · 11-13-2008, 09:15 PM

Thank you very much Bbarnsworth you were very helpful and we found someome for a MFM. Were going out next weekend and i will look into that club i would really like to go to one, My wife wants to were talking about going to a club for new years and its about 3 hours away. spending the night there i think it woul be fun thanks to all of you for your input

bbarnsworth · 11-14-2008, 09:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by allen&Jen

Thank you very much Bbarnsworth you were very helpful and we found someome for a MFM. Were going out next weekend and i will look into that club i would really like to go to one, My wife wants to were talking about going to a club for new years and its about 3 hours away. spending the night there i think it woul be fun thanks to all of you for your input

That's why we're here

Congrats on the MFM set up! Please let us all know how it goes!!

My wife and I are trying to get our first MFM set up too. Nothing definite yet though.

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11-11-2008, 11:58 PM	#1 (permalink)
allen&Jen Registered Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 7 Location: Wyoming Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Jen_Allen	Live in friends??? I have a serious ?. we have friends that are living with us and we are just wondering if it would work with them???? Things have already happened and we don't know if we should continue. We had a small party at the house afterwords we all had sex in the same room. the girls took it a bit more with each other. I really want to have a threesome with my wife or even a foursome with a guy or a girl and guy. But i fear that they are not the right people to take it there with we are so new at this. and there are no close clubs that we know of its a two day drive to any on here.

11-12-2008, 12:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
realcplub2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 521 Location: North Central Florida Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:putnamcocpl Blog Entries: 17	Re: Live in friends??? Think it thru several times and talk with first your wife, BEFORE even mentioning it to anyone else.. Sure its easy to imagine it happening and working out, which is fantasy we all can WANT to believe in.. HOWEVER, you need to see the flip side of the coin, from the possiblities that they freak when asked, or afterwards, it causes strains on the relationships you have, in way you cant imagine.. As far as there being no clubs within your location, Do a bit more research, while there maybe no clubs within a comfortable driving distance, There are probably dozens of other lifestyle folk.. If Swing Lifestyle doesnt give you enough options, look at the other sites, and go from there.. __________________ Reality Checks written Upon Request

11-12-2008, 12:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
allen&Jen Registered Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 7 Location: Wyoming Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Jen_Allen	Re: Live in friends??? Alright thank you we will keep it in mind but i have talked to my wife about it. And she is fine with it

11-12-2008, 01:25 AM	#4 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,018 Location: Indiana. Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 16	Re: Live in friends??? Well, only the four of you can really know. Lets face facts. Most problems with any relationships are money or sex. I know that sucks, but those two, do cause allot of trouble in relationships. As for me I do o.k..... I don't ask for very much money, and I'll do anything for sex. How do all of you deal with these two issues ? __________________ well... at least we are normal pervs

11-12-2008, 02:45 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 24,502 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 75	Re: Live in friends??? What is the situation that has them living with you? Most situations where you have people living with you can go bad easy enough on their own without adding complications. Check out the archive here on "Friendship & Swinging" and read through some of the topics there regarding the issues that can arise when you choose to involve current friends in your swinging play. Then multiply that by 10 because said friends are living in the same house with you.

11-13-2008, 11:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
bbarnsworth Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 627 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple	Re: Live in friends??? I would exercise caution in taking this further because of the simple fact they live with you. I'm with Julie on that. As to others being near you; I did a search basing from Green River, looking for couples 24-44 (+5 years on your age, -5 on hers), within 50 miles, couples only, active within the last month, and came up with 5 couples in Green River other than you two, and 3 others in Rock Springs. Also, Salt Lake City is 2.5 hours drive from you. Doing the same search basing from Salt Lake City, I came up with 279 couples. Lastly, there's about a dozen clubs located in the Denver/Colorado Springs area. Yeah, it's a bit of a drive; 5-6 hours depending on where the club is. But, you could take a long weekend and spend one or two nights at one or two clubs there. Also, there's a club in the Salt Lake City area. You can find this info on Swing Lifestyle club listings. Your opportunities for swinging are considerably larger than I think you think they are.

11-13-2008, 09:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
allen&Jen Registered Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 7 Location: Wyoming Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Jen_Allen	Re: Live in friends??? Thank you very much Bbarnsworth you were very helpful and we found someome for a MFM. Were going out next weekend and i will look into that club i would really like to go to one, My wife wants to were talking about going to a club for new years and its about 3 hours away. spending the night there i think it woul be fun thanks to all of you for your input

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