Having a playmate stay over the weekend?

[John1]

Has anyone had a guy come over and stay with them over weekend?
Sounds good to me because it gives you time to relax and getting to know him before you have sex.
Then again it is harder if you have children or family living with you.

[slevin]

No we prefer to meet people at a club or go to a hotel. After we've played a few times and gotten comfortable we are willing to play at home, but not until then. We just dont want a lot of people we may never see again knowing where we live.

[JustAskJulie]

While it may give you time to get to know your playmate better beforehand, it also locks you into spending the weekend with him/them. What if once they get there you don't click and then you want him to leave? What if he's nice enough but there's no sexual chemistry? You will be stuck in an awkward situation at best. At worst you may get stuck with a jackass who expects to have sex and doesn't understand the meaning of the word no... and now he also knows where you live. This advice applies whether you are considering a single male or a couple. Wait until you know them well to invite them for a weekend at your place, know that you can actually enjoy the weekend with them.

[socolais]

I guess it doesn't really matter if folks you'll never see again know where you live - it's the folks you WOULDN'T WANT to see again. I'm not quite sure I'd get along well with someone that would quickly accept an invitation like that at the first meeting or online before meeting. A weekend long playtime takes a fair amount of preparation, I'd save it for a sure bet.

[dnmnms]

Well, this will probably sound crazy but we dont play at home period. Our bed is just that...ours....Some have no issue with that and thats great. We have played at others homes/bed but that was one of the 1st things we decided when we jumped into the LS.

Melody & Duane

[foozballnow]

I probably wouldn't either for the reasons stated above. I don't really like to entertain anyone for that long, let alone a whole weekend. Though if it was a really good friend and someone we got along with well I could see it happening

[TNT]

Originally Posted by John1

Has anyone had a guy come over and stay with them over weekend?
Sounds good to me because it gives you time to relax and getting to know him before you have sex.
Then again it is harder if you have children or family living with you.

We've had singles and couples come stay the weekend with us, some for play and some just to hang out BUT , they were people we KNEW.

Having someone come over and stay the weekend that you don't know, have never met and/or never played with before just doesn't seem like a good idea to me.


Teresa

[ncmd_couple]

This topic has come up before, but here are my thoughts on why we would not entertain someone in our home that we did not know.

1. As mentioned above, if it doesn't work out, you have to kick them out.
2. Security. You don't know this guy from Adam and you might just be inviting a criminal to case the joint.
3. If it doesn't work out, then they guy knows where you live. And even if it does work out, he knows where you live and if he becomes a stalker, which happens, that would be bad news.
4. Neutral territory is always better. It is more expensive, but negates all of the items above. If it goes bad, you can grab your stuff and beat feet. Or lock the door and say go away.

[fun4Ds]

We have had single males and females spend the night/weekend. Their close enough to leave them here by themselves though. Not that we have, but could.

One single male would rather stay here than a motel.... And that is not leaving out home cooking.... It's all good

One single female is here quite often anyhow..... She knows where the key is.

I'm not talking about new acquaintances here, these are a couple of good friends.

Actually, talking to Mrs.fun now. We let a single male and his playmate use our house for the weekend while we were gone... I forgot about that.

He has also used our camper and boat.... No one, uses my tooth brush or chain saw though.

I do have rules ya know !!

[good times]

I agree with the others here. We have both had playmates spend the night and have slept over at others homes, but we already new them. We would never invite someone for the night that we didn't already know pretty well.

[SecretAsianMan]

If this is a play partner with whom I've gotten to know and there's more to their connection with me than just casual sex - spending time extended periods of time with them (like overnight stays / weekends / etc) is fun... but that "relationship" would have to be established beforehand.

P.S. ...by "relationship" - I mean, at least a casual friendship where we would be comfortable just hanging out together doing non-swinger type activities as well as playing should the mood strike us

[prettylady]

Dog and I have really great friends that we often spend weekends at each others homes.
But we know each other extreamly well.
I would never do it with someone new or just getting to know.
Your friend,
Prettylady