Have been curious but afraid

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by lookingforlady

I mean having my lifestyle exposed to vanilla people. We live in a very small town where everyone knows everyone else and they know more of your business before you do. I love living here but everyone is too nosey!
E&J

First off

Now directly to the quote I grabbed..

Most people involved in this lifestyle already understand the discretion concept. As far as living in a small town, nothing says you have to play in your own town.. Pick a place within reasonable driving distance and go there.

As far as your original post, You and your BF have choosen to chase after one of the most sought after expereinces within the lifestyle, having a FMF threesome. Now while its not impossible, its often a bitch to find a single female.. Thats why we often refer to them as Unicorns..

The best suggestions have already been made, When you find an interested party, make it clear about how nervous you are, and that going at your pace is preffered. You might surprise yourself at how fast you are actually willing to move, which makes the next part just as important.

Talking to people is often a big stumbling block, but, here is an inside tip.. If you contact ANYONE within the lifestyle, the subject matter of the important conversation, what happens next isnt going to be a surprise.. so try to relax and talk about everything else you can think of, and when you are ready to talk about sex.. it will happen easier.

Hope this helps

[lookingforlady]

I can see your point with the deflowering! I hope that we find people who are patient and can overlook my nerves. I know I want to do this I am just nervous as I'm sure everyone has been. Thanks for the tip!

E&J