Help! Getting Started

[Thrill1]

Ok! here it is all on the table. My wife and I have been talking about this during sex. She signed us up for a profile on Swing Lifestyle. She wanted to go to a club not sure now what to do. Looking for advice or even someone to email her and help her feel at ease

[The Fuse]

Sounds like she is more at ease than you are.

Would you like to elaborate?

[jjtrindc]

Welcome to the board. You and your wife should take some time to read some of the posts and archives about getting started. We do agree with Fuse that it sounds like she is rearing to go and perhaps you may be a bit reluctant (nothing wrong with that). One piece of advice we always give to those just starting out is to make sure that you communicate. Talk about what you are interested in, talk about what you concerns you, talk about boundaries and ground rules. Remember to keep talking. Most every experience leads to new things to talk about!

As for clubs, check out websites of local places. Good ones usually have lots of information. Go without any expectations except to have fun with each other, dance, mingle and get into the sexy vibe.

Ultimately do what works for you. Some jump right into full swap, others take weeks/months/years before getting naked with another couple. That's why it's important to have good communication.

Enjoy!

[dnmnms]

Just wanted to say a quick WELCOME. Others have given u great advice. Basically we were in same boat...some said a club was not best for newbies....some said yes...some said meet others first and get comfortable in LS...others said plunge right on it. I dont think there is a right/wrong way just a way best for you as a couple. Only advice i can give is know what you are and are not comfortable with regardless of how you jump in.

Melody

[screaminggood]

Welcome to the Board. Many of us are available to answer you and your wife's questions. You only have to ask!

[tribbles]

We found going to a club worked best because there are real people and not fake profiles at clubs.

Even if you choose not to play you get to talk to people who are in the lifestyle.

Good Luck

[iapr]

Me emailing her would send her looking for the nearest bombshelter Not really a very realistic or effective solution now is it?

I'd recommend reading as many posts on this board together as you can.

Start by clicking on your profile name on this thread and then clicking on "find all posts by Thrill 1" and reading the advice you were given 11 months ago that are essentially the same questions you are still asking today.

The information is all here. This board is full of experienced swingers that freely share their knowledge and experience with others. The information is here that you two need to make informed decisions but none of us can make it happen for you and if you haven't been able to talk her into it we certainly can not either.

[JustAskJulie]

I'm not sure what you need. It sounds like she's pretty ease as she's the one making the suggestions and signing you up. Sounds like maybe you need someone to help put YOU at ease. If so, do share what it is that is holding you back and we'd be more than happy to help you.