How To Use An Escort Service?

[2 4 1]

Hi, my wife and I have been wanting a girl for a threesome for about a year now (see our post in introductions), but have met with frustration again and again. Swingers clubs are not an option, as 1) they don't seem to be ideal for meeting single women willing to hook up with a couple, 2) she wants to keep this discreet and 3) these places really kind of freak us both out (no offense to those who attend them).

We tried a certain online service that attempted to rip us off, and we got no action (not even inquiries!) whatsoever, so that route has definitely been soured for us as well.

We're now on the verge of procuring an escort service for this purpose, as we feel we've run out of options, and we'd like to do this while we are relatively young. Although there are many in my area with ads in adult publications, as with swinging, I have no idea where to start!

It sounds easy, but do you go with an established, big service or an independent girl? Since prostitution is illegal, is there some kind of code you have to speak over the phone and/or in person so that everyone protects themselves? And if so, what does one say?

Thanks for any help you can give us.

[BiloxiCouple]

I believe you are going to find that we as a majority don't condone escorts in the lifestyle.

Also, I won't help you with illegal activities. But, I will say you might as well get a lawyer now.

[good times]

Actually, the best place to find what you want is, in fact, at a swingers club. If you do decide to attend one you will find they are not at all like you think they are. For one, discretion is important to everyone there, whereas, their is no discretion involved once you get arrested for soliciting an escort.

As for the escort question, check out this recent thread on the subject.

[2 4 1]

Originally Posted by good times

Actually, the best place to find what you want is, in fact, at a swingers club. If you do decide to attend one you will find they are not at all like you think they are. For one, discretion is important to everyone there, whereas, their is no discretion involved once you get arrested for soliciting an escort.

As for the escort question, check out this recent thread on the subject.

Thanks for the reply and the redirect to the other post.

We have actually been to one years ago, as a couple of tagalongs in a larger party and were pretty disgusted; a couch that had been screwed on who-knows-how-many times, unprotected sex going on with random strangers, and the (although safer) crowning scene of the evening: a girl handcuffed and chained to a wall, bent over naked with a gimp mask on and a bowl of condoms next to her on a barstool with a sign that read "have fun, just please use a condom" on the wall over her head. We were out of there in under 10 minutes.

That being said, do you really think we have much of a chance in finding a "unicorn" in a swingers club? Hear of any success stories? I'll defer to your expertise here, and thanks again!

[jdavisauto]

The thing is about getting a escort service, there is a couple of questions that you need to ask the lady. What kind of bonus will we get and what medical treatment will we have to get to get rid of it? Escort service being illegal in most states (Unless you live in Nevada). They are not as clean as you may think that they are. You may want to rethink the escort service biit a little more. But it's all up to both of you. Just to offer something to the fire here, try Swing Lifestyle and see what you can find there. We have found 2 very nice ladies that live in our area that we now get together with. Just a ideal. Good luck with what ever you guys do.

[2 4 1]

Originally Posted by jdavisauto

The thing is about getting a escort service, there is a couple of questions that you need to ask the lady. What kind of bonus will we get and what medical treatment will we have to get to get rid of it? Escort service being illegal in most states (Unless you live in Nevada). They are not as clean as you may think that they are. You may want to rethink the escort service biit a little more. But it's all up to both of you. Just to offer something to the fire here, try Swing Lifestyle and see what you can find there. We have found 2 very nice ladies that live in our area that we now get together with. Just a ideal. Good luck with what ever you guys do.

Just created our profile on Swing Lifestyle, so we'll see how that goes, thank you for the suggestion! If you don't mind my asking, were the two women you found through this service? The last site I was a paid member of got us 0 inquiries, and the site itself tried charging me for several services I did not purchase, so I now have a "believe it when I see it" attitude regarding most things internet.

And for the record, if I wasn't clear on this in my opening post: This was not our first choice, but after so many dead ends, we were begining to feel like it was our only one. Anyone, please, please feel free to prove us wrong and give us viable alternatives like jdavisauto did!

[ViSexual]

Hey Guys,
Have you looked at Craigslist? I just did a quick search and saw this ad;
couple to live out my fantasy with - w4mw
And, I still don't understand why couples who are wanting to try FMF threesomes don't just team up. There are just simply more couples than single females. And most of us guys would actually enjoy knowing his wife was with another couple and be looking forward to her coming home to tell him all about it.

[JTcamp05]

You may have a much easier time finding a couple. You can work out the specifics of your arrangments with the couple. I think you might be suprised to find many couples would be willing to work with your specific requests.

Just be upfront about what your looking for and you might be suprised.

[slevin]

Swing Lifestyle is fine and you don't need to be worried about being ripped off by the Swing Lifestyle site.

Don't sit back and wait for single women to contact you though, you will need to do the searching and contact them. It isn't easy since so many people are looking for that elusive single woman; they call them unicorns for a reason!

Personally I think you will have better luck approaching and seducing single women in person while you're out in places like bars, clubs, coffee shops, bookstores, comedy clubs etc., but the online sites can work as well.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

Just created our profile on Swing Lifestyle, so we'll see how that goes, thank you for the suggestion!

You could leave a link to your profile screen name so we could give a review.

If you don't mind my asking, were the two women you found through this service? The last site I was a paid member of got us 0 inquiries, and the site itself tried charging me for several services I did not purchase, so I now have a "believe it when I see it" attitude regarding most things internet.

I'm a little curious You say you went to a club with a woman chained to the wall with a bowl of condoms beside her ? What the hell was the name of that club ? We may want to avoid it !

And for the record, if I wasn't clear on this in my opening post: This was not our first choice, but after so many dead ends, we were begining to feel like it was our only one. Anyone, please, please feel free to prove us wrong and give us viable alternatives like jdavisauto did

Why not bring your wife here to the swingers board and get some of the ideas and feelings from other women ? I mean, you look like a guy with tricks up your sleave. I can say we have some girlfriends in the lifestyle. It wasnt from just putting an add up stating we want a single girl to come fuck us now. It doesn't work like that. For one, if I was a man doing what you are trying I would expect ZERO. Its about the women having a connection.

How does your wife feel about other women ?

[Greg & Sheryl]

Because swingers generally don't resort to using escort services, this fourm isn't the best place to seek advice is you insist on using one to achieve your FMF fantasy. However, there are other forums which specialize in the use of adult service providers, so we suggest you seek one of those.

[screaminggood]

The club you described is not anything I've ever seen in our area. There should be some more "upscale" clubs in your area. Search for them, call and talk to them before you go, and then go check some out.

And yes, it is possible to find the extra woman at these clubs. We do it all the time! As a previous poster said, it doesn't have to be a single woman. We've had several encounters with married women whose husbands just watch for one reason or another.

Again, it's takes the woman-to-woman connection and your wife asking if the other woman would be interested in it to make it happen.

[good times]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

Thanks for the reply and the redirect to the other post.

We have actually been to one years ago, as a couple of tagalongs in a larger party and were pretty disgusted; a couch that had been screwed on who-knows-how-many times, unprotected sex going on with random strangers, and the (although safer) crowning scene of the evening: a girl handcuffed and chained to a wall, bent over naked with a gimp mask on and a bowl of condoms next to her on a barstool with a sign that read "have fun, just please use a condom" on the wall over her head. We were out of there in under 10 minutes.

That being said, do you really think we have much of a chance in finding a "unicorn" in a swingers club? Hear of any success stories? I'll defer to your expertise here, and thanks again!

Ok, that club is exactly what I was thinking you thought clubs were like.

And although I too have seen clubs, or more often house parties that were like that, those types of clubs are very rare. Most clubs are nothing like that, although you may see people having condomless sex in a public play room in any club, as a significant portion of the swinging population chooses to play without condoms, most clubs I have been to have at least been clean. And most clubs are no different at first glance from any other night club, except of course that the people attending have a more unified idea of why they are all there.

As far as meeting single women at the club goes, this used to be much more unusual than it is now days. In fact, at the clubs we regularly go to their are usually a few single gals there on any given night. Their are also a few couples who play separately and don't mind if just the female plays with a couple.

As far as Craigs List goes, most of the single females on there are in fact, escorts. In fact, I know several of them personally that advertise in our area. Even in Nevada escorts who advertise on CL are illegal, and quite frankly, I would be worried about them more than in other states because their must be some reason they don't work in a legal brothel. That reason is possibly that they can't pass the weekly std test the brothels require.

If you want to use an online ad service, Swing Lifestyle is one of the best. But keep in mind, no single gal is going to contact you, they don't have to, they are still rare enough that they have trouble keeping up with responding to the folks that contact them. With that in mind, single gals on the ads sites can be very picky, so unless you two are exceptionally hot, or you happen to contact a gal and just trip her trigger with your witty intro, I wouldn't expect immediate results. From the people I have talked to at the clubs who are looking for a similar experience as you are, they don't have much luck on the add sites. I am not saying that you shouldn't put an add up, I just don't think it is fair for you to have unrealistic expectations. The fact is, their are a lot of couples looking for the single female, but very few single females looking for couples.

Back to your original question though, I would highly advise avoiding escorts, as a night of fun could to easily turn into something you regret for the rest of your lives for a number of reasons.

[BiloxiCouple]

If it was easy to find a single lady, everyone would be doing it.

Besides, if it was that easy to find a single woman, why would I worry about finding couples? Ooops, I forgot, Elaine likes men more than women.

[jdavisauto]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

If you don't mind my asking, were the two women you found through this service?

Yes both ladies was found through Swing Lifestyle. Both ladies was contacted by us through Swing Lifestyle e-mails we chatted swap photos and then set up a meeting in a public place. We then got together with each one through a private party at a hotel with some of our other friends.
Just look through the profiles and see which ones match what you are looking for and drop them a e-mail and go from there. Don’t get discourage if nothing happens right away. With us we live in the sin capital of the world (Las Vegas) and swinging is more accepted here. That’s why we have the saying “what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas”. Also always be honest about what you want with your self and others. It's more fun that way. Good luck and hope you guys get your fantasy, it is great when it does come true.