How To Use An Escort Service?

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Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Dang 2 4 1, I checked your profile... If I was a single female in your area, you'd be gettin laid Good job !

Of coarse, If I had been born a woman....

There would have been a whore in the family

Ha ha! Thank you so much for the critique and kind words. You two sound like a lot of fun.

I used to write for publication some time ago in my own editorial column, so writing is kind of my thing. Plus, I write how I talk so you can imagine what kind of clown my wife has to put up with. I've got our 2-year-old daughter on board with most of my antics, so a protege isn't far behind

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Originally Posted by Malachista

Ehm... what is in it for the girl that would join you?
Would she just be dare to pleasure your wife? Or would you be able to play with her as well?

Oh, yeah, no holds barred for me, and I'm a freak and 1/2! I've figured that with all of the pleasure giving/receiving combinations in a threesome, the girl isn't likely to even notice the two things my wife is (currently) oppossed to are missing.

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Originally Posted by dnmnms

Its hard to say sometimes what you will or wont do in the heat of the moment.

That's what I'm bankin' on!

It struck me funny that she is so opposed to FF contact but yet when she watches porn and gets excited its FF...HMMMM...

It struck me as borderline insane! I mean, I don't watch gay porn so I can imagine I'm doing my wife in the ass, etc., so WTF?

Now, I dont know your wife and by no means passing judgement so please dont take that wrong.

No, no, thank you, thank you, thank you!!! You said what I've been thinking all along. Good to know I'm not the one that's crazy.

I also am a straight F.....We have played with couples where other F knew I was straight and respected that.....We play with single males (or married when other know he is playing with us) also BUT...while its not happened I can tell you that after you get more comfortable in this LS things change LOL.
Initially went in with attitude of NOPE...uh uh....
Now its not something i think about but who knows in the heat of the moment...
Just be patient...Never push her into anything she doesnt want.

Very, very encouraging, since this has been my general game plan from the get go.

But I still cant figure the FF porn if she is so opposed.

You and me both, but here's another curve ball for ya: She only wants a caucasian girl to join us (she is mixed Asian, but has predominantly Asian features). Now, having a preference is fine, as attraction is, at best, a quirky thing, but if she is "not bisexual" and has no outward attraction to women as she claims, why the preference? Since she claims to only want the girl for utilitarian purposes, to me, this makes about as much sense as saying "I can only get off with a purple dildo".

Well, that's my rant for tonight. Drop me a line if you have any insight here or if you suspect she is a closet case waiting to bloom. After all, in the heat of the moment...

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Originally Posted by The Fuse

Ugh... it really sounds to me like you are trying to push a rope uphill.

Actually, it sounds to me like you are trying to push barbed wire uphill. Over piles of gunpowder. Near a brush fire.

You say she is "far from just grudgingly "going through with it" for my sake", but everything else you wrote makes it seem like that is exactly what she would be doing. She wants the other woman to be submissive. She doesn't want to kiss her or go down on her. She brooks no competition.

Well, my paragraph was running pretty long, so I just kept in the basics. What I mean is...

Has she ever expressed a desire to do this for her own gratification?

Yes, many times. Especially when we are having sex, watching porn, or both. Ex.: "Honey, when we have our threesome, maybe you could come on my tits and she could lick it off. Mmmm, I would like that."

Boy-o, sounds to me like you really want her to be okay with it, enough that you hear encouragement in the lack of discouragement.

Well, lassie, I don't think that that's the case considering the numerous other factors involved, some of which are written in other posts on this thread, but even if it was, I'll take what I can get.

I appreciate what it's like to really, really want something, but I encourage you to take a good, hard look at your wife and what she's said and not said, how she reacts, etc., and try to be objective about what you're trying to do.

Been there, done that for almost the last year. I know you have the best of intentions, but I never intended this thread to be a "please help us decide if we're right for this" cyber-couch trip, but somehow it went there.

[dnmnms]

Well, I might be wrong here....goodness knows I have been wrong many many times in life.....

I am wondering if maybe she just might be interested but fearful of just coming right out and admitting.
Possible she is saying...well I will be passive ....then you get into the situation and she opens up and might enjoy all parties involved she can say she wouldnt "normally" have been interested/curious but got caught up in the moment.
May be wayyyy wrong here but I still go back to the FF porn here.
Not sure about anyone else here but I cant imagine getting off to something that doesnt interest me. Now i might watch a few things I am not into just to see how/what things are done....curious....but cant imagine getting turned on much less turned on enough to get off to it....Now I might be different but if something doesnt excite me there is no way I can watch it and get off much less more than once LOL...JMHO.

Melody

[Greg & Sheryl]

Originally Posted by Suncouple

Fantasies don't have to come true.

You may be happier keeping this in the realm of fantasy and enjoying it.

Reality may be a disappointment - or worse!

This sentiment seems quite sad to us. We prefer to risk the disappointment rather than spend our retirement regretting the fact that we never tried.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

Well, lassie, I don't think that that's the case considering the numerous other factors involved, some of which are written in other posts on this thread, but even if it was, I'll take what I can get.



Been there, done that for almost the last year. I know you have the best of intentions, but I never intended this thread to be a "please help us decide if we're right for this" cyber-couch trip, but somehow it went there.

I deserved that. I apologize for the tone in my first post.

If you don't want a " "please help us decide if we're right for this" cyber-couch trip" thread, that's cool. The thread could have been a lot shorter. Just limit your responses to discussion about how to use an escort service, which was your original question, and say "thanks, but no thanks" to the advice.

[Edison Carter]

If you go to TheEroticReview.com you will be able to read reviews of escorts, experiences others have had, even fill out a form on what you want and get a list of qualified women. You can even search based on geography. Have fun

[JustAskJulie]

I'm trying to figure out how it is that swinger clubs give you the creeps, but the idea of an escort service doesn't....

[Edison Carter]

Probably gets the creeps because and a Swing Club he has to deal with real people in a genuine way, whereas a call girl has nothing to do with either.

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Originally Posted by Edison Carter

Probably gets the creeps because and a Swing Club he has to deal with real people in a genuine way, whereas a call girl has nothing to do with either.

OR maybe, we have no desire to waste copious amounts of time at a place that, by all of the accounts of people I know personally that have attended them in my area, does not have what we are looking for! I work at a top-flight strip club in my area, so my ear is pretty close to the ground here.

Not to mention the fact that our lives are pretty busy and full as it is. We want an easy, discreet encounter and have no desire to spend hour upon hour looking for a single girl, while consistently but politely turning down couple after couple. I mean, you don't wear signs in these places stating what it is specifically you are there for, do you?

Would we rather have a pretty young thing who wants to play around with a couple of chunky 30-somethings for the sheer joy of it? Duh! But finding out that that happening has lotto-type odds has led us to inquire about the services of remunerated females.

What it boils down to, boys & girls, is money vs. time: When I was in my early to mid 20's, single and broke, I had tons of the latter and none of the former, plus I was about 50-60 lbs. lighter and prettier as a result. Back then, I could get away with spending virtually no money, while getting tail on a fairly regular basis. Fast forward 10+ years, add a wife, a kid and a gut, and now I have a decent amount of the former, but precious little of the latter. We had no idea that finding what we wanted involved pounding the ground like this. Call us naive, but we had figured that the internet would cut through all of this BS and match tab A to slot B, so to speak.

And, you're right, escorts aren't real people. I'm hoping the agency sends us that sexy cyborg we've had our eye on. Hopefully, she won't want "genuine" money.

I swear, some seriously high horses around here...

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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I'm trying to figure out how it is that swinger clubs give you the creeps, but the idea of an escort service doesn't....

OK, have you read this thread all the way through?

And if I was completely comfortable with an escort, why would I have started this thread?

[fun4Ds]

Does your wife know any of the women from the club you work in ?

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Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Does your wife know any of the women from the club you work in ?

I think I know where you're going here, and believe me, my mind does the same about 2-3 times a day!

Seriously, though, she's met a few of them outside of the club; one in particular at a party the club was throwing she thought was very attractive, and said something along the lines of "I wouldn't mind her being our first time at all!". I've hinted around at it when I do catch this girl at work (not often), but she has shown no real interest. I work about 25 miles from home, so my wife popping in on me while I'm on the job to form any further bonds isn't feasible.

The frustrating thing is, every girl I work with that has met her raves about how pretty and cool she is, and, knowing most girls in this industry have bi tendencies, I go for the opening with caution. Something like: "So! Think she's hot, huh?" (sly grin, raising eyebrows -- I'm considered a jokester at work, so I can get away with this). This is where they usually make some raunchy joke and walk away, but if they seem to bite on the hook, I'll delve deeper, but I have to be careful to present our situation without coming off like a lecherous creep. I mean, I'm supposed to be protecting them from guys like that. My livelihood hangs in the balance here, so finese is paramount. Not to mention, the strip club gossip mill. That alone is enough to do me in even if I haven't done anything wrong!

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

It sounds easy, but do you go with an established, big service or an independent girl? Since prostitution is illegal, is there some kind of code you have to speak over the phone and/or in person so that everyone protects themselves? And if so, what does one say?
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I have no idea how to hire a prostitute, but finding one doesn't seem like it would be too difficult.

Since you seem determined, hire one. Then come back and tell us how it went.

I'm curious to know what you discover.

LM