How To Use An Escort Service?

[jdavisauto]

Oh yea there is a lot of couples that does play separate so don’t rule couples totally out. The one club you went to don’t sound much like a swingers club and we would walk out of there our selves. I would try another swingers club but call and do a little back ground check on them. You may be surprise at what you will find at a real swingers club.

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Originally Posted by JTcamp05

You may have a much easier time finding a couple. You can work out the specifics of your arrangments with the couple. I think you might be suprised to find many couples would be willing to work with your specific requests.

Just be upfront about what your looking for and you might be suprised.

Hmmm... Thanks JT, but we hadn't considered that simply because it would just seem such a selfish request on our part. I mean, our only specific request would be, "stay home while we do your woman". I mean, that may change after a few encounters, but this first time out we would both be pretty uncomfortable with an audience. I guess it can't hurt to ask, though.

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Originally Posted by ViSexual

Hey Guys,
Have you looked at Craigslist? I just did a quick search and saw this ad;
couple to live out my fantasy with - w4mw
And, I still don't understand why couples who are wanting to try FMF threesomes don't just team up. There are just simply more couples than single females.

Actually, yes, I have checked CL a few times and dropped e-mails, but no responses.

And most of us guys would actually enjoy knowing his wife was with another couple and be looking forward to her coming home to tell him all about it.

Seriously? Man, I have a lot to learn! I guess we've been limiting ourselves by projecting our feelings and attitudes onto others in this scene (neither my wife nor I would ever go for individual encounters). Sounds like a promising, unexplored avenue, thanks!

[2 4 1]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

You could leave a link to your profile screen name so we could give a review.

Yes, that would be great! Ummm... How do I do that?

I'm a little curious You say you went to a club with a woman chained to the wall with a bowl of condoms beside her ? What the hell was the name of that club ? We may want to avoid it !

Oh, geez, this was back in '99, and we weren't even married yet. It was way out in the sticks in Hillsborough somewhere (we were following a group of cars at night). It also doubled as a bottle club on days it wasn't being utilized as a swingers club, if that helps, but 9 years and how many different owners/names ago, I can't really say for sure. I think it was named after a number like "Club #" or something.

Why not bring your wife here to the swingers board and get some of the ideas and feelings from other women ? I mean, you look like a guy with tricks up your sleave.

Thanks! Although I admit I've been feeling rather shirtless when it comes to this particular project. (I'm here til Thursday. Try the fish and remember to tip your waitresses!)

I can say we have some girlfriends in the lifestyle. It wasnt from just putting an add up stating we want a single girl to come fuck us now. It doesn't work like that. For one, if I was a man doing what you are trying I would expect ZERO.

Boy, am I finding this out the hard way.

How does your wife feel about other women ?

Ahhh, this is where things get complicated. I suppose starting at the begining would give the best overall picture of how we got where we are now. Here goes:

In my single days, like most young men, I always wanted to make it with two women at once, but it never transpired. I met my wife-to-be, and even before we were married, but living together I made my fantasy known to her. She smiled, patted me on the head, held my chin gently but firmly in one hand, looked me straight in the eyes and said, "honey, get it out of your mind because it's NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN." As you might imagine, I needed no further convincing.

Fast forward about 9 years to early this year: After years of a very vanilla, and at times nonexistent sex life, we had been enjoying something of a sexual Renaissance in our relationship and my wife admitted to watching and masturbating to porn online on her laptop. When I asked her what she watched and she replied "mostly lesbians", I think I encountered the first case of "dick whiplash" in recorded history.

AHEM...

However, after changing my shorts and inquiring further, I found that all was not as hot as it seemed. She said she liked watching lesbians because she enjoyed oral sex, and straight porn offered very little in this department. The guys only did it for a few seconds as a warmup before plowing the girl, and/or the male actor was almost always butt ugly. She went on to say that oftentimes she would close her eyes and just listen to the girl moan and imagine it was me going down on her. Being hit with this for the first time, you can imagine this made very little sense to me, but I was going to run with this as far as I could.

When I brought up the threesome idea again, she was willing to do it to fulfill my fantasy, but still never actually pictured herself doing it. Over a few weeks, she came around to accept, and even enjoy the idea of a woman going down on her, and started masturbating to FFM threesome porn instead when I was at work and when we watched it together. However, she has made it clear that she wants a submissive girl to join us as, while she is definitely not the jealous type, she brooks no competition from other women. She has also said she doesn't want to go down on a woman or kiss her on the mouth because she's "not bisexual". She is willing, however to fondle & suck another girl's tits and finger her. (I told you this was complicated! I'm her husband and I barely get it!)

A few days ago, while we were enjoying some porn with some especially attractive lesbians going at it I asked her if, when she saw or met attractive women in public, she thought about them in a sexual way. She said, "no I don't think about it that way".

So here we are: If not for my wanting this, she would never consider pursuing it, and although she is far from just grudgingly "going through with it" for my sake, she's been leaving the leg work completely up to me. Up until now, I've been fine with this, as I realize how incredibly lucky I am to be married to a beautiful, wonderful woman who is willing to let me do another woman right in front of her! Making it happen seemed a small price to pay, but now it's starting to get to me.

If the women connecting really is the key, I guess I'd better feel around and see what tricks I have up my sleave to get her into the copilot's seat.

I hope this post has been at least half as entertaining as it was long, but I felt this was the minimum that needed to be said for you or anyone else reading this to understand our situation. I'll check back tomorrow, hope it's not too much to digest in the meantime.

[fun4Ds]

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Yes, that would be great! Ummm... How do I do that?

Click the the USER CP link above,. Then on the left side under CONTROL PANEL click edit profile. Scroll down and enter your screen name from Swing Lifestyle in that URL. Be sure to just put your screen name there, nothing more as the directions say. Your Swing Lifestyle link will be added under your avatar here. Also on the (Quick Links) drop down menu above, you can access this area.

Check the announcements thread in the forums section also Announcements - The Swingers Board there is lots of help about how to use this board,how to post, whats expected, and other useful information there.

Oh, geez, this was back in '99, and we weren't even married yet. It was way out in the sticks in Hillsborough somewhere (we were following a group of cars at night). It also doubled as a bottle club on days it wasn't being utilized as a swingers club, if that helps, but 9 years and how many different owners/names ago, I can't really say for sure. I think it was named after a number like "Club #" or something.



Thanks! Although I admit I've been feeling rather shirtless when it comes to this particular project. (I'm here til Thursday. Try the fish and remember to tip your waitresses!)

I hope this post has been at least half as entertaining as it was long, but I felt this was the minimum that needed to be said for you or anyone else reading this to understand our situation. I'll check back tomorrow, hope it's not too much to digest in the meantime.

I think you are authentic by all means. I think anyone can see that. Have a look around and feel free to talk about this. You not alone with your thoughts...

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

Seriously? Man, I have a lot to learn! I guess we've been limiting ourselves by projecting our feelings and attitudes onto others in this scene (neither my wife nor I would ever go for individual encounters). Sounds like a promising, unexplored avenue, thanks!

While my wife and I have a rule that we do NOT play separately, we would be quite amenable to having me watch while she was part of an FMF threesome. I would be surprised if there's several couples like that. As many varieties of non-vanilla ice cream there are, there are at least an equal number of non-vanilla swinger couple types.

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

When I asked her what she watched and she replied "mostly lesbians", I think I encountered the first case of "dick whiplash" in recorded history.

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

I hope this post has been at least half as entertaining as it was long, but I felt this was the minimum that needed to be said for you or anyone else reading this to understand our situation. I'll check back tomorrow, hope it's not too much to digest in the meantime.

It seems to me like you're making good progress, but there's still more progress to be made. The "brook no competition" part gives me pause. Would she just want a woman to lay there and do nothing? Some red flag movement here on that point.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

However, she has made it clear that she wants a submissive girl to join us as, while she is definitely not the jealous type, she brooks no competition from other women. She has also said she doesn't want to go down on a woman or kiss her on the mouth because she's "not bisexual". She is willing, however to fondle & suck another girl's tits and finger her. (I told you this was complicated! I'm her husband and I barely get it!)

A few days ago, while we were enjoying some porn with some especially attractive lesbians going at it I asked her if, when she saw or met attractive women in public, she thought about them in a sexual way. She said, "no I don't think about it that way".

So here we are: If not for my wanting this, she would never consider pursuing it, and although she is far from just grudgingly "going through with it" for my sake, she's been leaving the leg work completely up to me. Up until now, I've been fine with this, as I realize how incredibly lucky I am to be married to a beautiful, wonderful woman who is willing to let me do another woman right in front of her! Making it happen seemed a small price to pay, but now it's starting to get to me.

Ugh... it really sounds to me like you are trying to push a rope uphill.

Actually, it sounds to me like you are trying to push barbed wire uphill. Over piles of gunpowder. Near a brush fire.

You say she is "far from just grudgingly "going through with it" for my sake", but everything else you wrote makes it seem like that is exactly what she would be doing. She wants the other woman to be submissive. She doesn't want to kiss her or go down on her. She brooks no competition.

Has she ever expressed a desire to do this for her own gratification? Boy-o, sounds to me like you really want her to be okay with it, enough that you hear encouragement in the lack of discouragement.

I appreciate what it's like to really, really want something, but I encourage you to take a good, hard look at your wife and what she's said and not said, how she reacts, etc., and try to be objective about what you're trying to do.

[WildMiCouple]

If I wanted a one time 3sum with my wife, I'd just go to a strip bar with her. The few times Tam and I have gone, we were swarmed with dancers. Had one even want to come home with us. Tossed that phone number out as Tam isn't bi ....just appreciates the beauty of a woman and enjoys the atmosphere

And I might add...... I've no idea how D & D free they are.

Brett

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Originally Posted by WildMiCouple

If I wanted a one time 3sum with my wife, I'd just go to a strip bar with her. The few times Tam and I have gone, we were swarmed with dancers. Had one even want to come home with us. Tossed that phone number out as Tam isn't bi ....just appreciates the beauty of a woman and enjoys the atmosphere

And I might add...... I've no idea how D & D free they are.

Brett

I guess Michigan must be a lot different from down here in FL. The irony here is, I am a bouncer in a strip club! The girls get solicited all the time by single men and couples and, me being their sound board for just about everything, they always tell me how disgusted they are by it and throw the numbers/business cards away.

On top of that, as you might imagine, this is how I make my living, so soliciting the girls I am supposed to be protecting is definitely out of the question. I've discussed what my wife and I want to do with a few of them if the subject came up, and if one of them ever showed an interest, that would be great, but no takers so far.

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Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

Would she just want a woman to lay there and do nothing?

Well, I wouldn't say nothing, just that the girl be uh, enthusiastically submissive, I guess you could say. I'm a lot less rigid when it comes to this, but then I'm not the the make-or-break component.

[Suncouple]

Fantasies don't have to come true.

You may be happier keeping this in the realm of fantasy and enjoying it.

Reality may be a disappointment - or worse!

[fun4Ds]

Dang 2 4 1, I checked your profile... If I was a single female in your area, you'd be gettin laid Good job !

Of coarse, If I had been born a woman....

There would have been a whore in the family

[Malachista]

Originally Posted by 2 4 1

Well, I wouldn't say nothing, just that the girl be uh, enthusiastically submissive, I guess you could say. I'm a lot less rigid when it comes to this, but then I'm not the the make-or-break component.

Ehm... what is in it for the girl that would join you?
Would she just be dare to pleasure your wife? Or would you be able to play with her as well?

[dnmnms]

Its hard to say sometimes what you will or wont do in the heat of the moment.
It struck me funny that she is so opposed to FF contact but yet when she watches porn and gets excited its FF...HMMMM...
Now, I dont know your wife and by no means passing judgement so please dont take that wrong.
I also am a straight F.....We have played with couples where other F knew I was straight and respected that.....We play with single males (or married when other know he is playing with us) also BUT...while its not happened I can tell you that after you get more comfortable in this LS things change LOL.
Initially went in with attitude of NOPE...uh uh....
Now its not something i think about but who knows in the heat of the moment...
Just be patient...Never push her into anything she doesnt want.
But I still cant figure the FF porn if she is so opposed.

BTW...boy am I glad we never been to that club....we would have ran out too LOL.

Melody

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Originally Posted by Suncouple

Fantasies don't have to come true.

In my case, they never have. I'd just like this one before I die.

You may be happier keeping this in the realm of fantasy and enjoying it.

Reality may be a disappointment - or worse!

I'm willing to roll the dice here, but thanks for your concern!